Do you tend to hang onto items after your divorice? (wife, marriage)

[reed067]

It's a SLOW friday night & nothing really to do so I started going though some of the things I got from the house that my ex-wife had been keeping for me. Most of the stuff in there was from when we were married & I guess I see no point in keeping most of it. She kept all the wedding pictures & such, which I didn't want anyhow I even tossed my wedding ring among other things. I have the suit I got married in which I'll donate to Goodwill in fact most of the stuff will end up there. I got some older books which I'll end up taking to the local used bookstore for trade in value.

My question is when you end a relationship with someone after so many years do you tend to get rid of somethings or hang onto them?

Why or why not?

[SouthernBelleInUtah]

When I divorced after 16 yrs of marriage, I kept many household things and my jewelry. I was "in charge" of the house so I had picked what I wanted. I kept the wedding pictures b/c I had been happy then but I do not display them. My children and grandkids find them interesting. My ex took some things that mattered to him. Oddly enough, I did not associate my stuff with him.

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[leftmyheartintennessee]

I too found myself divorced after 16 years of marriage...
I took only the things that were mine before I was married and whatever
clothes etc were bought and paid for by me after we were married...
some household/kitchen items and my daughters things...
He kept the house/land as I couldn't afford the payments...
since I moved into smaller quarters I left things behind that there wasn't room for or there was no use for them...

I'll do it the same way again when necessary...it's just stuff...

by the way, we are still in contact and friends...we just couldn't live
together under the same roof...

[Info Guy]

Originally Posted by reed067

It's a SLOW friday night & nothing really to do so I started going though some of the things I got from the house that my ex-wife had been keeping for me. Most of the stuff in there was from when we were married & I guess I see no point in keeping most of it. She kept all the wedding pictures & such, which I didn't want anyhow I even tossed my wedding ring among other things. I have the suit I got married in which I'll donate to Goodwill in fact most of the stuff will end up there. I got some older books which I'll end up taking to the local used bookstore for trade in value.

My question is when you end a relationship with someone after so many years do you tend to get rid of somethings or hang onto them?

Why or why not?

Are you going to keep that Mazda?

[reed067]

Originally Posted by Info Guy

Are you going to keep that Mazda?

Back off MY Mazda!

[jaypee]

I moved out and kept only photos of the kids.

[srjth]

I see no reason to keep sentimental things.

[sierraAZ]

I have a hard time parting with the past and I keep things. It's not helpful, but I can't make myself throw out everything. Good or bad, it is my life.

[Nite Ryder]

I suspect everyone has a bit of a different 'history' when it comes to divorces. I was married for 20 years when my wife filed for divorce, mainly because she was angry with me. She piled what she wanted me to have in the middle of the living room and told me I had 30 minutes to get it out of the house. She had me served with a restraining order so I couldn't go back to my house for any of my stuff. She had a garage sale and sold everything she could sell. She threw away things she couldn't sell, rather than allow me to have them. I was supposed to get all gifts I had received, but she ended up with 40 acres of land my father had given me before I married. She sold it to her attorney for $4000. She is still alive, but I used to lay awake at night planning a way to stop her. The best revenge was being highly successful with my business, and having money for anything I wanted. She hates to see the diamond ring my wife wears, she hates it when I give one of my kids an expensive gift. Today she is on her third marriage and has no friends, she even lost the respect of three of her kids.

[D217]

Never been married, but I've kept alot of things....lol

Household items aren't really worth mentioning, but I do have pictures, letters, shirts, hats, little things like that.


I've had no problem throwing certain people's shyt away though, especially if I was really done w/ it!