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Unread 03-25-2012, 10:08 AM
 
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I'm not sure of the OP's ethnicity but rest assured I have my reasons as to why I don't prefer to date my own ethnicity.

- Forceful nature from family/friends of the same culture/ethnicity
- Political correctness
- Narrow-mindedness
- Not as informed or well-traveled
- Too traditional and backwards compared to what American society follows.

Does this mean all people of my ethnicity are like this? No. It's just not my preference. Westerners/Americans aren't any better either but that's another story.

There are a handful amount of people that I know from my ethnicity who are the opposite. It is just harder to find these kind of people. OP I don't blame you but don't entirely discount your ethnicity, there are lots of nice people, regardless of where they are from.

 
Unread 03-25-2012, 10:12 AM
 
Location: Midwest
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Originally Posted by rsh56 View Post
I'm not sure of the OP's ethnicity but rest assured I have my reasons as to why I don't prefer to date my own ethnicity.

- Forceful nature from family/friends of the same culture/ethnicity
- Political correctness
- Narrow-mindedness
- Not as informed or well-traveled
- Too traditional and backwards compared to what American society follows.

Does this mean all people of my ethnicity are like this? No. It's just not my preference. Westerners/Americans aren't any better either but that's another story.

There are a handful amount of people that I know from my ethnicity who are the opposite. It is just harder to find these kind of people. OP I don't blame you but don't entirely discount your ethnicity, there are lots of nice people, regardless of where they are from.
I'm scared to ask but what ethnicity are you?
 
Unread 03-25-2012, 10:13 AM
 
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I'm scared to ask but what ethnicity are you?
Burmese, and there's nothing to be scared of.
 
Unread 03-25-2012, 10:15 AM
 
Location: SF Bay Area
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Originally Posted by rsh56 View Post
I'm not sure of the OP's ethnicity but rest assured I have my reasons as to why I don't prefer to date my own ethnicity.

- Forceful nature from family/friends of the same culture/ethnicity
- Political correctness
- Narrow-mindedness
- Not as informed or well-traveled
- Too traditional and backwards compared to what American society follows.

Does this mean all people of my ethnicity are like this? No. It's just not my preference. Westerners/Americans aren't any better either but that's another story.

There are a handful amount of people that I know from my ethnicity who are the opposite. It is just harder to find these kind of people. OP I don't blame you but don't entirely discount your ethnicity, there are lots of nice people, regardless of where they are from.
This. I've never ever dated someone from my ethnicity but it's only because I haven't found one I liked. Disgusted with people from my ethnic background? Nah, being wary is more like it.
 
Unread 03-25-2012, 10:41 AM
 
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I am not trying to create a controversial post but I've enjoyed my interactions with men from other ethnic background a lot more than my own. Now I think I am not attracted to my own. I almost feel disgusted around men of my own ethnicity. Is that crazy or what?
No, I knew Asian girls of chinese, japanese ancestry whose family has been here for generations that could NOT date first generation asian men, because of CULTURAL DIFFERENCES. These women were VERY AMERICANIZED and could not get with the culture of recent immigrants.

I'm black, but would not date an african man, because of CULTURAL DIFFERENCES. I don't even waste my time. It's the same with caribbean men too. There ARE differences.
 
Unread 03-25-2012, 10:49 AM
 
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No, I knew Asian girls of chinese, japanese ancestry whose family has been here for generations that could NOT date first generation asian men, because of CULTURAL DIFFERENCES. These women were VERY AMERICANIZED and could not get with the culture of recent immigrants.

I'm black, but would not date an african man, because of CULTURAL DIFFERENCES. I don't even waste my time. It's the same with caribbean men too. There ARE differences.
As an Asian male, this pretty much sums it up.
 
Unread 03-25-2012, 10:56 AM
 
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As an Asian male, this pretty much sums it up.
Are you first generation or recent immigrant?

Are you very into your culture from the OLD COUNTRY or more AMERICANIZED?
 
Unread 03-25-2012, 11:14 AM
 
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Originally Posted by cj31young View Post
I am not trying to create a controversial post but I've enjoyed my interactions with men from other ethnic background a lot more than my own. Now I think I am not attracted to my own. I almost feel disgusted around men of my own ethnicity. Is that crazy or what?
what ethnicity are you?
 
Unread 03-25-2012, 11:19 AM
 
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Are you first generation or recent immigrant?
First generation. Born and raised in the US all my life.


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Are you very into your culture from the OLD COUNTRY or more AMERICANIZED?
More of both. They have their advantages and disadvantages.
 
Unread 03-25-2012, 11:38 AM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I don't like the word, crazy, but I think there's a problem. It makes me wonder how you feel about yourself and your own family.

When I was a kid, I didn't grow up around a lot of my own race and I tended to want to date other races. I still thought my race was attractive, but there just weren't many around and the ones that were I didn't identity with much. I'm glad I grew out of that, mainly by meeting more people and being around more diversity.
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