Not attracted to Men of my own Ethnicity (single, American, attractive)

[midatlantic12]

OP, yes that is crazy, abnormal, and a form of self-hatred. You should seek counseling.

[Sweet Like Sugar]

Originally Posted by midatlantic12

OP, yes that is crazy, abnormal, and a form of self-hatred. You should seek counseling.

I don't really agree. I mean, if women are disgusted with men in general (and many of them are), does that mean that they hate all humankind? Being disgusted with men of her own ethnicity doesn't mean that she hates herself. She should only seek counseling if it's negatively affecting her life in some way.

[midatlantic12]

Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar

I don't really agree. I mean, if women are disgusted with men in general (and many of them are), does that mean that they hate all humankind? Being disgusted with men of her own ethnicity doesn't mean that she hates herself. She should only seek counseling if it's negatively affecting her life in some way.

No, if you're disgusted/not attracted to men of your own race, something is probably wrong.

[caesarsgirl79]

Originally Posted by midatlantic12

OP, yes that is crazy, abnormal, and a form of self-hatred. You should seek counseling.

I agree....

[robertpolyglot]

Originally Posted by cj31young

I am not trying to create a controversial post but I've enjoyed my interactions with men from other ethnic background a lot more than my own. Now I think I am not attracted to my own. I almost feel disgusted around men of my own ethnicity. Is that crazy or what?

Everybody I know that has this issue has self-esteem issues and an inferiority complex. In some cases, if they are foreign, the move to the U.S. didn't help this issue. It made it worse.

[Neuling]

Originally Posted by cj31young

I am not trying to create a controversial post but I've enjoyed my interactions with men from other ethnic background a lot more than my own. Now I think I am not attracted to my own. I almost feel disgusted around men of my own ethnicity. Is that crazy or what?

That is not unusual. I am white, and frankly I have never been attracted to white women, especially not the Nordic type. The darker the better I am not disgusted by Nordic women, but there is simply no attraction whatsoever.
Maybe I just don't like what is usual and normal and standard.

I don't think there is something wrong with you as so many here say. Ask yourself if your lack of interest for your own ethnicity only applies to the opposite sex or to people in general. I mean, if you are unfriendlier to a clerk just because they are of your own ethnicity, then I would ask myself if maybe I was a bit racist or ethnicist if there is such a word. If however it only applies to the attraction between men and woman, then that's ok. After all, even within an ethnicity most people have types. Some white people are not interested in Nordic people, others are not interested in Mediterranean people.

[marilyn220]

Originally Posted by midatlantic12

OP, yes that is crazy, abnormal, and a form of self-hatred. You should seek counseling.

No she shouldn't. If she's not into her people's CULTURE, then no amount of "counseling" will change that.

If she's AMERICANIZED, then dealing with men who are stuck in the "old country" way of life will NEVER work. NEVER.

[marilyn220]

Originally Posted by rsh56

First generation. Born and raised in the US all my life.



More of both. They have their advantages and disadvantages.

Then why don't you just deal with women who share similar background? There are hundreds of thousands all over the place.

Why struggle with people who are culturally different?

If you know that your potential mate must be loved and approved by your parents no matter what, then why not deal with a woman who comes from the same type of family?

Someone like ME, would consider you a mama's boy, but that's because I need someone that's an independent thinker and not tied to their parent's coat tails like me.

[midatlantic12]

Originally Posted by marilyn220

No she shouldn't. If she's not into her people's CULTURE, then no amount of "counseling" will change that.

If she's AMERICANIZED, then dealing with men who are stuck in the "old country" way of life will NEVER work. NEVER.

You're assuming this has something to do with being AMERICANIZED and being stuck in the "old country."

[caesarsgirl79]

Originally Posted by marilyn220

No she shouldn't. If she's not into her people's CULTURE, then no amount of "counseling" will change that.

If she's AMERICANIZED, then dealing with men who are stuck in the "old country" way of life will NEVER work. NEVER.

I don't get what you are saying...What if they are Americanized like her?

Maybe I need to go back and reread what the OP said?