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So good to hear from you and I'm glad you are okay.
But WHY are you letting this man in your new home?
If he wants to see your kids, drop them off at his place of at a public spot.
You are really confusing himby allowing him to come into your home!
Big mistake. When you moved you werent supposed to tell him where you are. Now he's in your home,,, silly girl.. I was trying to read through from the beginning but I am done here. Soon he will be abusing you in your rented home. Did you sign a 12 months lease? It will be a year before you can think of freedom again.
NO. Not a lot of "coincidences", you gave him access. If you had moved to your new home and did not allow him in, there is no way he would have seen or had access to your Blackberry.
I can't think of a single person who uses such a device as their phone and access to the internet who would leave it behind. It goes in your bag when you leave for the day, it's with you, or it's in your house.
So, how did he get in to your bag? How did he get in to your house? Were you in the car together and he went through your bag?
NO! There is no way he would have had access had you set up the boundaries people were talking about.
Further, I agree with another poster that you should not let him continue to control you by making you anxious or even fearful to post here.
Now you really need to step up and get strong and set those boundaries. He's snooping through your things! In what world is that acceptable?!
Exactly why was he that close to your blackberry? Because he was all in your home going through your phone. I know the abuse victims go through alot . My experience is that abuse victims put people through alot with the whole living off of feelings leaving everyone else to pick up the pieces after he has abused you to bits we support you through this just for him to be back in your home with his hands on your personal property.
No the same ways we think of you , please think of us. How sad we are when you cry and make some better decisions.
Hello, sorry....didn't post on here before, I did say to message me if you wanted to speak to me and the thread had retreated to the next pages, I didn't want to be some attention seeker, hogging space - so thats why I didn't post on here. But thank you, thank you, BIG thank you for your concern, your advice. I do appreciate it all.
But, everything is fine. I am still in my rented house. Enjoyiing the space. Hubby has said he has changed, had an encounter with God....he plans to get baptised in Water soon......and indeed when I have seen him, he has been like a LIVING SAINT!!!! Of course, my guard is up. I am not completely stupid or gullible. He is making an effort, he says he has got a renewed faith and he swears before God he will NEVER hurt me again. All good. But, I have been too hurt to say "OK , thats fine, move back in". So he will be disappointed. He looks terrible, teary eyes, whole misery thing surrounding him.....its sad. He says his life is nothing without me and the children. He just is sorry. He admits it is all his fault.
So, at least he is not at the door with a gun!!!!! I just enjoy being free. No more swearing!!!! No more walking on eggshells!!! No more waiting for the next lunatic induced storm. Hurrah!!!!
I WILL keep you posted. I am safe, I am free. My kids are doing fine. Thanks again. If I could, I would hug each one of you and give you a high 5!!!!
Change isn't a one month process. Most alcoholics can stop drinking for a month but rarely make a year. Abuse is the same way, he can "change" while living apart a month but true change isn't proven for at least a year.
Change isn't a one month process. Most alcoholics can stop drinking for a month but rarely make a year. Abuse is the same way, he can "change" while living apart a month but true change isn't proven for at least a year.
He took my daughter and son out to get something to eat, they were squabbling a bit, he told my daughter, that she caused problems between him and me, he told her NOT to go telling her mum that he had told her off that it caused problems. He said she was half the problem. My daughter is not sure he has changed that much. He has been faultless with me. Sunshine and light. He tells me it is easy for him to stay calm, that he has a renewed faith, knows he must trust God. He has seen the light!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OK. Well, if that is true, time will surely tell.
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Thanks again. If I could, I would hug each one of you and give you a high 5!!!!
