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Old 03-30-2012, 01:52 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Good luck and dont forget to still be careful.

 
Old 03-30-2012, 01:57 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Good luck and dont forget to still be careful.
Been thinking about her off and on all afternoon. Sure hope she is okay.
 
Old 03-30-2012, 01:59 PM
 
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Yes, I hope she keeps checking in so we know she's okay!
 
Old 03-30-2012, 03:58 PM
 
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Congratulations, but be very careful - especially in the next eight days. Leaving an abuser is dangerous. You might want to have a friend or relative with you when you make it official and/or move your things out.
Yes, please be safe. This point is often the worst in a relationship as you've described. It is after all, all about control.
When I left, I did so secretly. I literally took my children to the shelter for abused domestic violence for the first few nights. Have you been in contact w/ an attorney?? You should do so so that you know what your options are regarding child support and spousal support. Be safe
 
Old 04-01-2012, 07:51 AM
 
Location: England
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2 nights to go.

House should complete on Thursday.

So much to do tomorrow.

Hate my husband.

He is a snake

My exodus week is this week coming up.

Funny it is also passover week/Easter.

God has great timing.

Nevous, excited.

Went to church everyone asking me when I am moving to my lovely big house with hubby.
Felt awful, trying to wriggle out of talking about it.
Will tell one of the church memebers on Monday that I am leaving.
I won't be able to go to the same church much any more, which is a shame as I love it there, but I will go when I can. There is another great church near my new, rented house.

My hubby makes my skin crawl now. So, its just as well I AM going, its fairer on him too. My sister said I should just tell him how it is. But I said, I will try and be gentle, make him see I need some space to think. Wait till he gets over the shock that he is NOT going to move into that nice house with me.
 
Old 04-01-2012, 08:12 AM
 
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Just be careful like others have said if there is any chance it could turn physical. Fortunately in most cases, manipulative bullies are not as tough as they pretend to be when the game is over. Once they realize their victim is no longer their victim, things can change but if there is even a hint that he would be dangerous, get a protective order and a gun.
 
Old 04-01-2012, 09:01 AM
 
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2 nights to go.

House should complete on Thursday.

So much to do tomorrow.

Hate my husband.

He is a snake

My exodus week is this week coming up.

Funny it is also passover week/Easter.

God has great timing.

Nevous, excited.

Went to church everyone asking me when I am moving to my lovely big house with hubby.
Felt awful, trying to wriggle out of talking about it.
Will tell one of the church memebers on Monday that I am leaving.
I won't be able to go to the same church much any more, which is a shame as I love it there, but I will go when I can. There is another great church near my new, rented house.

My hubby makes my skin crawl now. So, its just as well I AM going, its fairer on him too. My sister said I should just tell him how it is. But I said, I will try and be gentle, make him see I need some space to think. Wait till he gets over the shock that he is NOT going to move into that nice house with me.

Yeah. You better see an attorney too. He will get half somehow.
 
Old 04-01-2012, 09:09 AM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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Funny how love works.

The love of our lives turn into snakes who we hate. Not making a judgment call on anyone, just making an observation.

You may be doing your husband a favor by kicking him in the pants. Hopefully he will become a better man from all of this.
 
Old 04-01-2012, 09:50 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I agree with this previous poster: Do you have a plan for safely doing it? Get some male friends or relatives or call the police to say you need an escort out of the house from an abusive husband. They will come and protect you. This is NOT something you want to do alone.

Please be careful.
Best of luck to you.
 
Old 04-02-2012, 06:45 AM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Funny how love works.

The love of our lives turn into snakes who we hate. Not making a judgment call on anyone, just making an observation.

You may be doing your husband a favor by kicking him in the pants. Hopefully he will become a better man from all of this.
I not so sure they turn. Maybe they are snakes all along and we just dont see it until we are too invested, then we make excuses and go into denial before we finally make it out.
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