The pains of 30+ dating... (marrying, girl, husband, divorces)
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I disagree with all of this, I'm 46 divorced at 34 and my dating life has never been hotter.
By the way, you say you are 34 with zero to little baggage - IMO a lack of baggage at 34 IS BAGGAGE ITSELF. It means that you have never formed a close enough relationship with someone else to incur baggage...bit of a warning sign to smart women. But maybe you don't want smart.
At your age, head to the gym. There are 30 something women as far as the eye can see, mostly unhappy with themselves and looking for someone to make them feel special. No gym? Try internet dating, challenge yourself to answer a profile you would normally not answer, lower your standards, open your mind and heart. Never refuse an invitation. Try to go somewhere new at least once a month. Forget about "finding" someone, they have probably been there all along, you just haven't taken any notice of them.
I agree. I'm 32 and have found it's more difficult to date now than it was in my 20s. There seem to be fewer available fish, particularly ones with no baggage. I refuse to date a man with kids, and I hesitate to date a guy who's divorced. Since I have never been married, have no kids, am financially secure, and made it a point to make smart life choices, I refuse to settle for someone who's not at least somewhat similar.
I'm attractive, in great shape, have traveled, am educated and have a good personality, so I can't figure out why it's so difficult to meet and connect with similar men. There was one guy who I liked and met most of my criteria, but he wasn't interested in me. My friend (who set us up) said he has unrealistic expectations though, so maybe that was more about him than me. Anyway, yes, it does seem more complicated now than a few years ago.
lol, I know a woman who is in your same shoes. Word for Word.
I disagree with all of this, I'm 46 divorced at 34 and my dating life has never been hotter.
By the way, you say you are 34 with zero to little baggage - IMO a lack of baggage at 34 IS BAGGAGE ITSELF. It means that you have never formed a close enough relationship with someone else to incur baggage...bit of a warning sign to smart women. But maybe you don't want smart.
At your age, head to the gym. There are 30 something women as far as the eye can see, mostly unhappy with themselves and looking for someone to make them feel special. No gym? Try internet dating, challenge yourself to answer a profile you would normally not answer, lower your standards, open your mind and heart. Never refuse an invitation. Try to go somewhere new at least once a month. Forget about "finding" someone, they have probably been there all along, you just haven't taken any notice of them.
so a lack of baggage is a sign that you haven't been damaged enough? WTH. I have heard people say this before to myself included and I still think it's dumb.
I disagree with all of this, I'm 46 divorced at 34 and my dating life has never been hotter.
By the way, you say you are 34 with zero to little baggage - IMO a lack of baggage at 34 IS BAGGAGE ITSELF. It means that you have never formed a close enough relationship with someone else to incur baggage...bit of a warning sign to smart women. But maybe you don't want smart.
At your age, head to the gym. There are 30 something women as far as the eye can see, mostly unhappy with themselves and looking for someone to make them feel special. No gym? Try internet dating, challenge yourself to answer a profile you would normally not answer, lower your standards, open your mind and heart. Never refuse an invitation. Try to go somewhere new at least once a month. Forget about "finding" someone, they have probably been there all along, you just haven't taken any notice of them.
Never said I was 34, I'm 31. And no I have little baggage, no kids, no divorce. Didn't I also say I was in two back to back relationships from 24-30? I lived with both of them... So, close but no cigar. Gym? I do triathlons...I'm in shape, not a problem. I've done internet dating also, as I said I meet more people in real life than on there, people on there seem like flakes or want to play video games or something, want to pop out kids, or lack ambition. It isn't that I don't meet people, I meet quite a bit of people, just most of them aren't available. I go somewhere new multiple times a week, much less once a month haha. The whole point is it is quite a bit more difficult, I'm not socially retarded or anything.
I think the one poster was actually right, I've definitely considered a move to LA or NYC for a new and bigger scene.
so a lack of baggage is a sign that you haven't been damaged enough? WTH. I have heard people say this before to myself included and I still think it's dumb.
Finally we agree on something! These people are dumb and they are just jealous that we did not go though all the pain and hardship that they did.
Finally we agree on something!These people are dumb and they are just jealous that we did not go though all the pain and hardship that they did.
LMAO, first time for everything! I don't think they are dumb but I think this ideal is dumb and they aren't the first ones to say it on here. It seems to be a common thought IRL as well. I think it makes a person 'feel better' for lack of a better word about all the mistakes they have made. I just think it's a shame to be written off for not being 'damaged' or 'put through the ringer' enough times, makes no sense to me. But what else is new, nothing many people do made much sense anyways.
LMAO, first time for everything! I don't think they are dumb but I think this ideal is dumb and they aren't the first ones to say it on here. It seems to be a common thought IRL as well. I think it makes a person 'feel better' for lack of a better word about all the mistakes they have made. I just think it's a shame to be written off for not being 'damaged' or 'put through the ringer' enough times, makes no sense to me. But what else is new, nothing many people do made much sense anyways.
Yeah... I don't understand that line of thinking either.
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Originally Posted by BarcelonaFan
Honestly, I find women in their thirties way more attractive than girls in their 20s. Especially if the women are fit. There is no competition.
Oh, I totally agree, it's just that the amount of women in their 30's are probably 1/4 of the available women in their 20's.
Thank God I am married and not out in the dating world at age 41. This is a very entertaining thread.
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