Women with low self esteem... hard to date? (love, family, attractive)

[Texan2008]

I say yes given my experience. Recently dated one and tried to help her feel better about herself...turned out to be a collosal waste of energy and time. She did have some really good qualities..she just didn't see them in herself. Any guys want to chime in with their experiences.

[findly185]

Question: Is it difficult to date women with extremely high self-esteem?

I have always been a believer that people should not bring others into their lives (especially romantically) if they are not first happy with themselves. Why bring others down with you?

I am a women with self esteem to spare. I would not want to bring some guy into a situation and expect him to save me from myself.

[cpg35223]

Oh, good grief, I dated a couple of them. You devoted huge amounts of energy simply propping them up. Yes, you're very attractive. No, you're not fat. Yes, my friends like you. Yes, my family likes you. Yes, you're very smart. No, I don't think you're needy and neurotic at all (This would have been a lie).

And what's more, take a freaking compliment gracefully. If I tell you you're beautiful or smart or sexy as hell, then I mean it. Simply say, "Thank you." Don't deflect with some stupid joke or tell me how I'm wrong. To do so means you question my exceptional tastes.

[howdydoody342]

YES, will not do it again. Extremely needy and insecure. Text you a thousand times a day. No thanks

[bobman]

Anyone with chronically low self esteem can be seriously hard work to be around.

Probably not their fault, but it can be draining.

[gimme it]

It could be very hard if you are expected to make her feel good about herself, rather than her relying on herself to feel good. Sometimes people enter a relationship in order to get what is missing from themselves. Some people feel more loveable when they are loved. Ideally you want to enter into a relationship with someone who already is in a good place and comfortable in her own skin.

[howdydoody342]

Why would u want to date a girl that is that much of a mess, shouldnt u date people that are gonna make u feel better and boost you?

[Sweetlilac]

Same thing for guys. I was close friends with this amazingly good-looking European guy (tall, blue eyes) who comes from a relatively wealthy family and goes to Australia to surf every summer (nice tanned body). He had a lot going for him, but every time we talk, he would complain about nobody wanting to go out with him, after I repeatedly tell him that any girl would be lucky to be with him... Eventually I gave up...

[FrmlyBklyn]

Originally Posted by Texan2008

I say yes given my experience. Recently dated one and tried to help her feel better about herself...turned out to be a collosal waste of energy and time. She did have some really good qualities..she just didn't see them in herself. Any guys want to chime in with their experiences.

There is NOTHING attractive about consistent insecurity. Would you sink your assets into a black hole? Why would you?

[oceanman76]

I would not know if a woman with low self esteem is "hard to date" because I would not date one. A low self esteem is a total turn off imo.