Where are the decent white men who are interseted in black women?

[Marylandkitten]

deleting this post, I'm sorry. any thoughts I have on this matter would come out far too ugly for my own good. I am white, and single, and a minority in DC. and this thread makes me want to go on a killing spree.

There are plenty of single available black men around here running the gangs and druggies at night, so don't throw out statistics that "every black women knows the availability of black men is too low" and you have to settle for a "white" man instead. What on earth would your mothers say.

In answer to your question, maybe all the good decent white men are out there simply looking for the same in return.

(Disclaimer: this is not a threatening personal attack or harassment on anyone in particular. Take it as you will. Some blacks date outside of their race, some see it as an abomination. How do you think poor guys are supposed to "know" the difference? or have any inkling into the fact that you're doing it because your availability of your black men are running uncomfortably low? It's easier not to take the risk. Dating is all about risks.)

[judicialreview]

Originally Posted by Fiddlekitten

There are plenty of single available black men around here running the gangs and druggies at night ....

(snip)

or have any inkling into the fact that you're doing it because your availability of your black men are running uncomfortably low?

Yikes! I wouldn't call those men "available." LOL!

I wish I knew why this topic seems to make you so upset (only because I'm used to seeing Black men feel strongly about this topic instead of white women). I get the sense that you think Black women are somehow dipping into your supply of available men. Hope that's not the case and please forgive me if I'm way off.

[Marylandkitten]

I'm just having a bad day... I deleted what I could before I walked away...hehe.

This post makes me angry, I guess because it's a double standard. I'm not racist by any means, but the black people that live around here, scare the crap out of me. Gold teeth, baggy pants, mouth hanging half open eyes glazed over staring at you.. I wouldn't blame anyone for not voluntarily having them at the top of my list for lifetime partners. A few of these previous posts were implying that as a culture, the more well educated and well rounded black women were "settling" for trying to find "white guys" that thought it was acceptable to date "black women:" BECAUSE the choices were so limited nowadays in their own field.

If this is a touchy subject for anyone else... I'm sure that came out all wrong. I'm not worried you're dipping into the supply of white men or anything. Around here, white people don't date black people. They stay on the other side of the street and try not to make eye contact, lest they are shot at, or followed home and mugged. I guess it's all in location location location. And for feeling the minority for that reason, in all truth I am probably not the best prepared to unbiased-ly give any form of helpful advice in trying to date them inter-racially.

The first thing out of my mouth to the subject of this thread, "Where are all the decent white men who are interested in black women" (please note I corrected the spelling however) would have been : running for the hills.

[GoddessofRandomThoughts]

Originally Posted by Fiddlekitten

I'm just having a bad day... I deleted what I could before I walked away...hehe.

This post makes me angry, I guess because it's a double standard. I'm not racist by any means, but the black people that live around here, scare the crap out of me. Gold teeth, baggy pants, mouth hanging half open eyes glazed over staring at you.. I wouldn't blame anyone for not voluntarily having them at the top of my list for lifetime partners. A few of these previous posts were implying that as a culture, the more well educated and well rounded black women were "settling" for trying to find "white guys" that thought it was acceptable to date "black women:" BECAUSE the choices were so limited nowadays in their own field.

If this is a touchy subject for anyone else... I'm sure that came out all wrong. I'm not worried you're dipping into the supply of white men or anything. Around here, white people don't date black people. They stay on the other side of the street and try not to make eye contact, lest they are shot at, or followed home and mugged. I guess it's all in location location location. And for feeling the minority for that reason, in all truth I am probably not the best prepared to unbiased-ly give any form of helpful advice in trying to date them inter-racially.

The first thing out of my mouth to the subject of this thread, "Where are all the decent white men who are interested in black women" (please note I corrected the spelling however) would have been : running for the hills.

Girl, what part of DC do you live in???
Sounds like you live in a stereotype of a not very good neighborhood.
I'm sorry you're having such a bad experience in DC. I'm a native Washingtonian born and bred.
Note that I moved but there are good places and people in DC of all race who are wonderful.
Actually you are probably not a minority in DC, DC is becoming more and more mixed, more likely you are just a minority in your neighborhood.

And if you think there is no interacial dating in your neighborhood you are very likely missing it. There is a lot of interracial dating in DC.

Anyway back to the posted topic. Hey there are men out there of all colors into black women but yeah I think they fear rejection from us.
Hey I am told that we black women can be intimidating. Obviously we put up a great front! Might be a matter of having to give to get. Give a little encouragement carefully and get a date, LOL.

[SaveMtns]

All I can say about this subject, is that I am LIVING FOR THE DAY when the question is only about how A Nice Woman Can Attract a Nice Man - AND LEAVE THE WHOLE RACE/COLOR PART OUT OF IT!!!

There are good and bad whites, good and bad blacks, and God-Have-Mercy...I just hope more of the good ones can find each other and live happily ever after!!!!!

That's hard enough on its own--why complicate with worrying about WHAT COLOR people are???????!!!!!!!!


Sorry for the rant......this is one of the few things that just TICKS me off! There is just so much more to life and love, why waste time and energy on color? Honestly, I JUST DON'T GET IT.

[GoddessofRandomThoughts]

Originally Posted by SaveMtns

All I can say about this subject, is that I am LIVING FOR THE DAY when the question is only about how A Nice Woman Can Attract a Nice Man - AND LEAVE THE WHOLE RACE/COLOR PART OUT OF IT!!!

There are good and bad whites, good and bad blacks, and God-Have-Mercy...I just hope more of the good ones can find each other and live happily ever after!!!!!

That's hard enough on its own--why complicate with worrying about WHAT COLOR people are???????!!!!!!!!


Sorry for the rant......this is one of the few things that just TICKS me off! There is just so much more to life and love, why waste time and energy on color? Honestly, I JUST DON'T GET IT.

All I can say is Hallelujah!!! and Amen!!
Rant on!!

[SaveMtns]

Originally Posted by GoddessofRandomThoughts

All I can say is Hallelujah!!! and Amen!!
Rant on!!

GLAD YOU APPROVE CAUSE I CAN'T STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!

[freeminded]

Originally Posted by Liberty464

I read and hear that there are indeed a lot of white men interested in black women. My question is where are they? I am a black woment living in NY.
Ten out of ten times white men just stare at me and smile.
That's it.
If there is a real interest why don't they say hello or start a conversation?
( I do smile back)

Hmmm, well sis I can only say that I can understand your need to venture out. If you truly desire a white man. I guess Id have to agree with the go out and get one statement. Let it be known that you want a white man for whatever reason, and disregaurd all if any thoughts of having a black man, seeing as that is what you dont want. Expand your horizons, then when you see one start a conversation with him. They may feel that you are focused on having a black man simply because you are a black woman. Contrary to popular belief white people may have started and nurished racism, however White people in general are more racially stable than Blacks. Based on the fact that this country for a nuber of years and still today unless you blind has explioted our relationships as a whole. Nevertheless A white man may feel your mind conciousness as a black woman and history would not allow you to go there. Let him know that you dont care, with out saying it, I think he would like that I know some of my boys who only date black woman, just like me so I can understand why they do. Just do me (us) one favor dont be that bitter self race hater who wont even give her/his own race the time of day based on your own racial veiws, youd just be adding to the already tarnished image of black love.
Ive come to find that most brothas who date white woman are not objected to dating there own women. on the other hand most black woman who date out of there race almost hate black men and only date white men and thats just pathetic. And what a spit in the face historicaly, and currently for that matter I dont have a problem with how you feel only when a sista who knows what she really wants settles because of the Amercan Black male statsitcs. Now that is really being closed minded no matter what race you are how could you only date out of your race, thats kinda wierd.lol Nevertheless. I wish you the best Queen, much love.