Why can't you get a date/girlfriend/FWB.....? (dating, married, women)

[Ron.]

I decided to create this thread as a play on the thread about knowing people that don't date.

My question; Why can't YOU get a date?


I'm asking YOU to answer for yourself.


Why can't YOU get a date/girlfriend/laid/FWB?




FWB= Friends with bennefits( if you don't know what it means, please don't ask me to explain)

[jobaba]

I do have a girlfriend.

But in times where I haven't I'd say the major culprits were (in order)...

1) I'm not what most women consider physically attractive (though I think I'm cute ).

2) Not aggressive enough, didn't go through enough numbers...

3) Didn't have enough assertiveness/SWAG/confidence/boldness. Too wussy.

4) Fell into the friends first approach trap.

I have more confidence after my last two relationships. There was a period where I wasn't sure when I could get another woman if ever.

Now, I think I could probably do it in a year or two if I end up single again and apply the knowledge that I have.

[TaoistDude]

I can. I do. I even have to turn some down, darn it! Perhaps it's just self-confidence, which I did not project when I was a teen or 20-something.

[jobaba]

I also think that some of my friends who have NEVER dated (mid 30s) are better looking than me. At the very least, they are taller.

I'd say the difference between them not dating at all and me dating a little is that ...

1) I have balls. Being rejected by a girl I like kills me more than anything, but I still go through with it. It makes hitting on girls I barely know that much easier.

2) I have a little more attitude and SWAG than them. I drink a lot and used to hang out with a crew that used to party. So I might seem pretty exciting to some women. Or at least fun. One of the guys I'm thinking of is like a wet noodle. He never goes out and never talks. I think he may be asexual actually...

[Ihatespoiledbrattypeople]

Asperger Syndrome, don't have many friends, so i'm not that outgoing, it's hard to be outgoing and meet new people when you don't have many close friends obviously

[gentlearts]

Do you think people have a realistic picture of why they can't?
A better thread would be others giving possible reasons....so I'll start. Do you have bad teeth, bad skin, or long fingernails?

[Prince_Frog]

I'm ugly.

Best answer I can give.

[dub dub II]

I can....despite being young.

[Soilworker1986]

I live in a rural area where 99% of the women around my age (mid-twenties) are already in a long term relationship, engaged, or worse yet, married to someone they've known since junior high or high school. Plus, there aren't many outlets for meeting single women in this area, which doesn't help things either. I'm currently taking steps to leave this area and never come back.

[Doll Eyes]

you have to voluntarily put out at a decent pace for these men to want anything to do with you.