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Nah... Once woman puts you there because you were a gentleman lacking the courage to make a move, she sees you as too safe and youre not even a male anymore. Youre her blogsite where she is comfortable and free to jot down all her life's romantic episodes that never will include you. Youre done. So if youre not ready to do the boyfriend job and just trying to get some tush, it's time to drop the PC gentleman BS and move on to another cutie. Let her know up front what you like and seek. Its her loss if she turns you down. Keep rollin'.{no candy coating here}
I actually, uh, broke out of the friend zone with a lady I've known for six years, just last night... so, yes, it can happen, but it's not exactly a common thing. I mean... six years... I don't think either of us expected it, either. Just sorta happened.
Just to follow up on this: after almost a week now, I can say that it was a really bad idea. Drama has ensued. I don't want to get into too many details as it happens, but the paradigm shift in our relationship meant that she got extremely possessive of me when two female friends (who are a couple, no less!) came to visit over the weekend, and she was quite rude to them. She tried to kill plans that we, or I had made that involved other people to stay home and have sex/cuddle/stare at each other. Ended up having a pretty stressful time of things. I hope that the relationship can be salvaged...
So, in the end, I guess what I'm saying is: yes, it can be done. Whether or not it should be done is another matter.
Nah... Once woman puts you there because you were a gentleman lacking the courage to make a move, she sees you as too safe and youre not even a male anymore. Youre her blogsite where she is comfortable and free to jot down all her life's romantic episodes that never will include you. Youre done. So if youre not ready to do the boyfriend job and just trying to get some tush, it's time to drop the PC gentleman BS and move on to another cutie. Let her know up front what you like and seek. Its her loss if she turns you down. Keep rollin'.{no candy coating here}
Maybe he is trying to prove her that he is not in it for just sex so he is waiting? How soon upfront?
Nope, once you are in the friendzone, you are stuck there. Better to just stop talking to her completely, because it will be painful for you when you here about all the guys she is having sex with.
You are obviously not being nice enough. You need to show her that you care, that you have a sensitive side. Once she sees that she will dump that dumb jerk and fall in love with you. Be her shoulder to cry on. One day she will realize.
Just to follow up on this: after almost a week now, I can say that it was a really bad idea. Drama has ensued. I don't want to get into too many details as it happens, but the paradigm shift in our relationship meant that she got extremely possessive of me when two female friends (who are a couple, no less!) came to visit over the weekend, and she was quite rude to them. She tried to kill plans that we, or I had made that involved other people to stay home and have sex/cuddle/stare at each other. Ended up having a pretty stressful time of things. I hope that the relationship can be salvaged...
So, in the end, I guess what I'm saying is: yes, it can be done. Whether or not it should be done is another matter.
Six long years of laying low and playing non-threatening male/almost a brother and all you have to show for it is a crick in your neck from the strain and some regrets. You probably built up some pretty high expectations of her during that time, too.
Or it could simply be that the person enjoys your company but is not attracted to you and never was attracted to you romantically. "Putting someone in the friend zone" makes it sound like there's a conscious decision on the part of the woman to string some poor hapless man along. You don't have to try hard to make something work when chemistry and attraction are there from the beginning.
There are women who do make that conscious effort, drama is their specialty.
You are obviously not being nice enough. You need to show her that you care, that you have a sensitive side. Once she sees that she will dump that dumb jerk and fall in love with you. Be her shoulder to cry on. One day she will realize.
One day, man.
One. Day.
You're joking, right?
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You probably built up some pretty high expectations of her during that time, too.
