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Old 04-09-2012, 08:34 PM
 
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Yep! Okcupid is free.

It's not a meatmarket, but the people on it tend to be super-flaky in my experience. I've had some success on it, as a have some friends (one of whom was in a 4-year relationship with a girl he met there before he ruined it), but it's still online dating.

I think that online dating, no matter what, will gain a windowshopping/meatmarket component, because unlike in real life where you meet people and are get to know them, their personality, etc., you purport to have a snipped of "everything" laid out there for all to see. It makes it really easy to go,

"Ooooh! He's six feet tall... he has black hair and blue eyes... he's in great shape... he loves dogs... really active! Wow, all the pics are of him out running and biking and surfing! But... he likes metal and says nothing about jazz... prefers beer to wine... and he's an accountant... sigh. Nevermind."

That's silly. I don't think it's as bad as you make it sound.

 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:35 PM
 
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I ride my bike. A lot. Like, 25 miles a day. But how many pictures do I have on my profile of me riding? None.
For shame.
 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:37 PM
 
Location: Metro Phoenix
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For shame.
Yeah... maybe I can get one of my friends to get a pic of me screaming down Sunset
 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:38 PM
 
Location: Cincinnati, Ohio
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That was one of my biggest fears... my coworkers were HARSH. They used to create cragslist 'missed connections' posts to lure in other coworkers/friends to mess with them.

That was the main reason I was extremely hesitant to start a online dating profile because if they ever found out I can guarantee they would have made my life miserable. Now that I'm not working there anymore I've started a profile. It hasn't gone well so far.
You're telling me. If my coworkers found my profile, it would be open season. That's why I don't post any photos and instead wrote that if you'd like to see them, just ask.

But, having no photos also means that I almost never get visits. :/
 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:42 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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Welp, the one guy on POF that seemed decent just asked if he could have my phone number, and then if I could send him pictures with 'a bit less clothing' just so he could see 'how my body looked'.

Bummer.
 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:42 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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But, having no photos also means that I almost never get visits. :/
That's OK. It's actually a very good way of avoiding the scum. Just contact those YOU are interested in.
 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:43 PM
 
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Yeah... maybe I can get one of my friends to get a pic of me screaming down Sunset
Love cyclists.

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You're telling me. If my coworkers found my profile, it would be open season. That's why I don't post any photos and instead wrote that if you'd like to see them, just ask.

But, having no photos also means that I almost never get visits. :/
Yeah, I wouldn't contact someone who didn't have pics either...
 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:43 PM
 
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You're telling me. If my coworkers found my profile, it would be open season. That's why I don't post any photos and instead wrote that if you'd like to see them, just ask.

But, having no photos also means that I almost never get visits. :/
eh, I saw one of my coworkers on Match and when I told him about my experience on there, he never once mentioned that he hadn't taken down his profile (he has a gf). I didn't say anything to him though, didn't want to make him uncomfortable.
 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:44 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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eh, I saw one of my coworkers on Match and when I told him about my experience on there, he never once mentioned that he hadn't taken down his profile (he has a gf). I didn't say anything to him though, didn't want to make him uncomfortable.
How wonderful! How long since he's with that GF?
 
Old 04-09-2012, 08:44 PM
 
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You're telling me. If my coworkers found my profile, it would be open season. That's why I don't post any photos and instead wrote that if you'd like to see them, just ask.
I've seen several of my coworkers on dating sites, none that I knew personally but I recognized their faces. I thought it was cool.
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