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In Nj,you can go with your partner to take a free instant Hiv test. That's what me and my husband did.
Its better to go with the person and get tested together Imo.
People can make up or falsify medical records.
Sometimes criminal records are free too. In Nj I can go to the Doc and look up a particular guys name to see if they were convicted of a crime.
Or try mugshots.com.
In this day and age, things are just too dangerous. For us men, we don't need to be as concerned about criminal background checks, at least not as much as women but the women certainly should be.
WE all need to be concerned about STD's/HIV.
This of course applies to those that are dating or seeking someone to settle down with.
How many of you have the confidence to ask for the above? I do and I have. Especially the CURRENT(within 30 days) medical records.
I don't have the confidence, but funny thing is that a guy I had been talking to not too long ago had an STD... boy was that a close one She's hot, but not THAT hot hahahah
In this day and age, things are just too dangerous. For us men, we don't need to be as concerned about criminal background checks, at least not as much as women but the women certainly should be.
I worry about the results of MY background check. Women love guys who have been to prison and I have a clean record.
Good one Sierra as usual! I doubt that anyone will read it though as it makes too much sense.
I used to be pre-occupied with getting tested when I was actively engaging in what I thought was a lot of sex. I had a particularly long lasting cold after I returned from a trip where I had a week long fling with a woman who worked with my company. I immediately thought I had contracted something and ran to my doc who specializes in SDD testing to get the full battery of tests done.
Before testing he went over the standard questionaire form: "Mainly who did you sleep with and were they part of a high risk group?" I said "Doc, I'm really worried", and asked him what chance is there that the test would come back positive. He said "Jaun, if you were honest on the questionaire and you used condoms" the risk of you contracting the worst of STD's (HIV, Syphilis and Ghonorea) are almost non-existant and the others being very low. I had the full battery done and found out I just had a long lasting cold.
I never thought about it since most of the men I've dated after high school were military men. But since I'm in the civilian life, I don't think it's a bad idea. I wait awhile before being intimate with anyone so I feel like after that time I will feel comfortable asking.
Wait, are you saying you don't have to worry about STD's since you only dated military men? I hate to say it, but that's even more of a reason. . .
In any case, I wouldn't require a *test* before having sex but would certainly ask to see if they had anything. Regardless, one should use protection to reduce the chances of catching something.
When it boils right down to it OP, you'll have to trust the person you love. You can demand test results and take precautions but you will always be vulnerable in some way.
As far as background checks, I'd only do that if I were looking for marriage. Since I'm not, I couldn't care less about someones criminal record.
WTF is wrong with you people?
If you get to the point of getting married, you should know that person very well and any (potential) criminal records shouldn't matter anyway, because you (are supposed to) love that person.
Besides, normally, there's no difference between a relationship with someone you love and marriage, except for a piece of paper.
You sound as if you'd suddenly get married with a complete stranger for... "business reasons."
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She's hot, but not THAT hot hahahah
Nobody ever commented on it the first time around. How can they?! You can't fight Math.
