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You're saying that there may be some guys who are assuming the role of "golddigger", that has traditionally been applied to young women who hook up with wealthy guys old enough to be their grandfathers. But I think that few of the examples that have been discussed here, involve older women with more than an ordinary amount of assets. If the costs of living keep going up and incomes continue to stagnate, there may not be many opportunities for this new variety of "golddigger".
Well, typically the woman is the one that usually profits off the mans death, so it's a little strange. Do you think it seems a little weird vice versa?
Hey, no problem. I am married ( to a man a few years my junior). But if I weren't I would be looking for a guy about half my age too. The great thing is, there are different strokes for different folks. I actually did some experimental researching and have found that there are a good many younger guys out there who love women that are far older than they are (even up to twice their age). I actually know one who has a HUGE crush on me right now. So it does work both ways. Not all guys are looking for "fertile" women. And many of us "vintage women" have wisdom, experience and expertise that no younger one can match!
Those are good observations and probably many people would fit them. But the very best woman I've ever known, in every way I could imagine, was only 22 when I met her. Through a combination of stupidity and lack of ability on my part, she was the one who got away. After many years, she's still fit and vigorous, working very successfully at an important job and likely making this other guy very happy. He was the one who had the good sense not to let her get away.
I guess what I mean is say in the case for example of youngerdude who is 30 and with a woman that is 43 if they get married and she happens to go a few years later would it not look like he got out pretty well, most likely her home and other assets as well as other guys like him.
Uh.
No.
Why would it look like that? Maybe the guy is grieving.
Especially since you're talking about the woman probably not even 50 and already dead? Yeah, that would be a surprise, and horrific.
For I guess the third time or so now: this could happen to anyone, as either the older or younger spouse - did the surviving spouse "get out pretty well" (whatever that means) if the husband was older? If they were the same age? Why would the surviving spouse feel s/he "got out pretty well" because his or her spiuse died at 40 or 50 but hey, he did get a house? (That's horrifying.)
I can't imagine most people view a fairly young, dead spouse this way. I think it's probably just you.
Well, typically the woman is the one that usually profits off the mans death, so it's a little strange. Do you think it seems a little weird vice versa?
No.
I'll say again, I think this is just you.
You're seeing early - very early - death of a wife, and dollar signs.
You're seeing early - very early - death of a wife, and dollar signs.
Well I am not saying I hope it happens but hypothetically in the worst case scenario the older woman kicks the bucket and as a result the younger man gains a lot would it not be viewed differently? Or worse than vice versa?
Well I am not saying I hope it happens but hypothetically in the worst case scenario the older woman kicks the bucket and as a result the younger man gains a lot would it not be viewed differently? Or worse than vice versa?
You're assuming the woman has more assets just because she's older.
You realize that this may not even be so?
Well I am not saying I hope it happens but hypothetically in the worst case scenario the older woman kicks the bucket and as a result the younger man gains a lot would it not be viewed differently? Or worse than vice versa?
Who cares how it's viewed??? Why on earth would it be a concern? And no, I personally wouldn't view it this way if the older spouse were female and died before age 50, unless he kicked her down the stairs or something. I would view it as a tragedy.
You seem a little fixated...I feel it is you who would "view" things this way. But even if the whole world felt the way you do, what would it matter? If people are in love....go for it. If we all wait to do anything in life until we know it can't be criticized by anyone then we will all be in suspended animation, pretty much forever.
I should say whether it's a younger or older woman, if she is hurt or upset the way you deal with it isn't that different. A few days ago, my woman who has been dealing wit a lot, was talking to me and burst out crying. She is a strong capable woman but I understand everyone has their breaking point. Just holding her, talking with her, and being there for her meant everything to her. Most of the time it involved just holding, hugging and being with her that mattered most.
I not only had no issue with it but felt great knowing I could help her in her time of need. Don't get me wrong it's not that I want her to be sad or upset or distressed by any means, but I like knowing I can make her feel better and make her feel more comfortable. Yes, I do enjoy having sex with her, certainly, but just being able to be with her and help her when she needs help is a reward all it's own.
I am presently married to a man who is 10 years younger than I am and we have been together for 15 years. I am 64 and he is 54, he is my 3rd husband. Now hold on...my first husband was 2 years older than me and was an IDIOT. He liked to drink, smoke dope and chase women..didn't like to work to help support me or our son. Eventually, he ran off with another man's wife. She left her husband and her kids to be with my ex..some prize she got. I RAN back home with my son; I was in Maine so I came home to CT to raise my son alone. When my son was 21, I found and rekindled a 7th grade love affair with my true soulmate...we were married 1 year and he had a major heart attack and died..we were the same age. I stayed single for yet another 6 years and met my present husband. We laughed a lot, had a lot in common, enjoyed each others company but I kept holding back cuz he is 10 years younger. I came right out and asked him WHY?? Why did he feel attracted to me?? He said when you fall in love and feel it to your toes..nothing matters about the other person, it just works.
In the 15 years we have been together, he has helped me thru open heart surgery, my Mom's passing and we are now working together on getting fit. He stayed with me when I hit 304 lbs and I could not figure out why?? He said he was worried about my health and loved me enough to help me thru that too.
Is my hubby a gem..ABSOLUTELY and we adore each other. It can work and age is not an issue if you are in love with the PERSON not just what that person looks like or what they do for work etc.
If the men keep themselves in top athletic and physical condition, many younger women will be interested in them. Although the physical condition of a large part of the general population is getting worse, there is also a growing segment of both men and women who work hard to increase their strength and physical abilities, as they chronologically age. It might surprise some people how much attention is given by women of all ages, to older men who maintain themselves in this way.
Or, maybe she just wants a man with not so many wrinkles or who grew up when she did or who doesn't need Viagra... or...
You get the point, right?
Yes. Some women will be fine with an older guy. Some men will be fine with an older woman. And vice versa.
There are as many reasons as their are human beings.
You never know. Right now you say you won't want women unless they are half your age, but you may find in a few years that you're sick of people that are so much younger than you and prefer someone a little closer to your age. Maybe she'll still be younger than you, but perhaps not SO much younger than you.
Or, maybe you'll go younger. Who knows?
Point is, there's really not a hard and fast rule that fits all people in all situations.
It's not like men have the market cornered on the ability to pull younger dates/partners.
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Not all guys are looking for "fertile" women. And many of us "vintage women" have wisdom, experience and expertise that no younger one can match! 
