Need serious advice

[March0]

I agree. Ask him what he thinks then use that to do what you think is best. He will be very independent no matter what language he speaks by the time he's 18 and he may leave you!! Really. So...maybe stay the 2 years then go.

[caribbeanppl]

Originally Posted by Beth56

Is this job for the same company? Does it offer substantially more money or benefits? Could he continue to do the same job if he wanted to? I would be more inclined to wonder if this job change is necessary at this time. Aside from your husband and your son, do you want to move? I would be sure this job and move is something you all want.

I have lived in Los Angeles for over 50 years. I think you would all have major culture shock if you moved here, unless you are totally familiar with it. Unless your husband makes a lot of money for you to live in one of the better areas, I wouldn't do it. Housing prices are out of control, traffic is a nightmare, etc. I don't know what island you live on, but it sounds a bit more peaceful to me.

Yes, the job is for the same company and it pays a great deal of money. We've been planning of moving for a long time but we've been waiting for my son to finish high school and of course see what he has to say about all this. I do want to move but only if I can take my son with us, otherwise I'll stay a couple of years and see how it goes.

We have a strong marrige and I think we should stick to what we've been doing so far to see each other once or luckly twice a month 'till we figure out this situation. I alreary talk to my boy and he didn't say it but knowing him I know he doesn't want to leave.

I stayed with my husband for 2 months in Lathrop, CA, it was ok but you are right Puerto Rico is more peaceful.

I've taken a little bit of everyone's thoughts, mine and my son's I really thank you and everyone for their advices.

[ealzar]

hey carribeanppl. Im in the market of buying a house in Lathrop, CA. How do you like it there? I see the newly built communities, they have huge houses kinda like those nearly million dollar homes in Santa Clara and Peninsula Areas. So do you think i would like it there?

[sanrene]

I don't want to leave my son with his father I want him with me.

Just noticed the date..

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by caribbeanppl

Hi everyone!

This time I find myself having to make what may be the biggest decision of my life and here's why: I've been married to a wonderful man for 11 years now, this is the second marrige for both of us. Have struggled some bad situations together and thanks God been able to manage them. This time is a family matter which decision if not well taken could be very damaging for us. My husband has a job in the states, he travels frequently usually his job takes 4 to 6 weeks to be over and then he returns home, now he's been offered the same job but in a steady basis in the Los Angeles, CA area.

The dilema is that we've always talked about leaving the island and move to the states but never thought the time would actually come. I have a son from a previous marrige who is 16 years old and who doesn't speaks the english and who's very close to the family on his father side.

I've been thinking it would be better to wait until he finishes his senior year so I don't take him away from his high school friends, but yet waiting till that moment he won't be happy with the idea of leaving.

I don't want him to be unhappy his my son and I love him dearly, but in the other hand I have to follow my husband. I don't want to leave my son with his father I want him with me. What would you do? Has anyone been in a situation like this and can give some advice? I am really needing a good one. Thank you so much.

oh good grief - this is a very old thread!!