My pregnant ex wont talk to me?please need help? (family, child support)

[2mares]

Originally Posted by darrensmooth

I must have missed the part about 6 weeks....6 weeks?...oh lord, this gets better and better

From his other post on this subject:

My ex and I were introduced by mutual friends and we hit it off immediately. Everything was perfect at first and then about 6 (months/weeks??) later we find out that she's 2 weeks pregnant. Apparently we conceived around new years.

When questioned about the 6 months/6 weeks:

no it's my first post and it's 6 week's,i couldnt activate my acount and i made a mistake typing the text sorry for that

[bellakin123]

Originally Posted by demo13

i didn't tell that simply because every single membar is asking for diferent info and to be honest no one read's a long thread,and yes i see the txt because i am a god friend with him and when i start dating with her i found out that he was going out with her for 6 month's and the fall out because she was acusing him of cheating which i didn't want get into that,,was not off my buesness,past is past and should be left alone,that's how i think

Everyone is asking for info because without the appropriate details, how can we give you advice? You give vague details about what caused all the problems but then you go into full detail about her sister's meltdown

What did the text say? See what I mean? when you said you saw the text, you should also have included what you actually saw.

[darrensmooth]

Originally Posted by demo13

ok i sorry for small amount of info,i try to keep it simple and yet not forget anything
we are dating for almost 8 month's,around into the 6 month we found out that she is pregnant,and i know that is mine because at that time i was spending every day with her,i took 4 week's holidays to spend some quality time with her,she was always claiming that ex is ex and she doesnt not stay in touch with them which is fine with me,past is past and if u stay in god terms with ex that's also fine,but when i found out that this not true then i start doubting her
txt was about them randomly seening eachother on the street and just like nice to see you,normal buls***
from the week one we had some unplessend things going on with her sister,everytime if i wanted to take her out she was turning around saying that she feels sorry for her because she doesnt have boyfriend and she is highly depressed,we where coming from our nite out and you could clearly hear her crying in the other room which ruined all off my efort what i did that day to make my ex happy,i never questined her going out with her friend on a girl's out,that was my day off playing games and relaxing with my friend,but the problems started when her sister was saying that she want's more girl's nite out,like every second weekend and during the week to go out,which not even me or my girl where not happy with
which lead to her being between me and her sister
we had some argument's due to our difrences but everyone has the plesent moment's
we where together almost every day,
then the drama started,
she found out that she is pregnant,hormons kick in she start acting all weird and cold twoards me and more i try to pleasure her more distant she went,she was feeling sick all the time and at that time i didnt understand her or how she feel's and i was not quite ready for that kinda situation,she went depressed and one thing after other here im where im now
she was not able to go out for a simple dinner,so i brought the dinner to her,which end up in a argument,everything was falling apart,she was snaping all the time wich make things even worse and me not been able to handle the situation properly i snap asweel,simply because i wanted to make her sure that im there for her and that i want to make her happy,i end up been needy and all that
can i say that not even for a min it didnt cross my mind that baby is not mine or that she cheated is just the fact that she lied,which lead to my insecurity what i admit,and after that happend what happend ((

This post should have been the OP, or the OP should have contained this information. Did she tell you what the text said or did you read what it said?

[bellakin123]

Originally Posted by darrensmooth

yes...if she knows you know the ex and play football with him, then I don't get why she would attempt to lie about it...but anyway I also wonder what the actual text said..just contacting an ex isn't necessarily inappropriate, but the fact she didn't mention it is interesting.

Exactly! This is like pulling teeth lol...we're close to 60 posts and have yet to get to the root of his assumption of her infidelity

[Torn2pieces]

Notice he blames everything on her and the hormones...

Yet - never takes actions for his own insecurities...

OP - I'm sure you mean well... But wanting to smother someone, isn't healthy.... Let her contact you.

If it's meant for you 2 to be together, then it will happen. If not, then you'll know.. But obsessing over and over and over, is not healthy.

[bellakin123]

Originally Posted by demo13

ok i sorry for small amount of info,i try to keep it simple and yet not forget anything
we are dating for almost 8 month's,around into the 6 month we found out that she is pregnant,and i know that is mine because at that time i was spending every day with her,i took 4 week's holidays to spend some quality time with her,she was always claiming that ex is ex and she doesnt not stay in touch with them which is fine with me,past is past and if u stay in god terms with ex that's also fine,but when i found out that this not true then i start doubting her
txt was about them randomly seening eachother on the street and just like nice to see you,normal buls***
from the week one we had some unplessend things going on with her sister,everytime if i wanted to take her out she was turning around saying that she feels sorry for her because she doesnt have boyfriend and she is highly depressed,we where coming from our nite out and you could clearly hear her crying in the other room which ruined all off my efort what i did that day to make my ex happy,i never questined her going out with her friend on a girl's out,that was my day off playing games and relaxing with my friend,but the problems started when her sister was saying that she want's more girl's nite out,like every second weekend and during the week to go out,which not even me or my girl where not happy with
which lead to her being between me and her sister
we had some argument's due to our difrences but everyone has the plesent moment's
we where together almost every day,
then the drama started,
she found out that she is pregnant,hormons kick in she start acting all weird and cold twoards me and more i try to pleasure her more distant she went,she was feeling sick all the time and at that time i didnt understand her or how she feel's and i was not quite ready for that kinda situation,she went depressed and one thing after other here im where im now
she was not able to go out for a simple dinner,so i brought the dinner to her,which end up in a argument,everything was falling apart,she was snaping all the time wich make things even worse and me not been able to handle the situation properly i snap asweel,simply because i wanted to make her sure that im there for her and that i want to make her happy,i end up been needy and all that
can i say that not even for a min it didnt cross my mind that baby is not mine or that she cheated is just the fact that she lied,which lead to my insecurity what i admit,and after that happend what happend ((

Ok, I call total bullsh*t on this now. In your first thread you said "Everything was perfect at first and then about 6 (months/weeks??) later we find out that she's 2 weeks pregnant. Apparently we conceived around new years. "

When I asked you about the 6 months/weeks, you said it was weeks. Seriously, how do you not know the difference between the 2? Now you're saying you've been dating for 8 months and after 6 months she got pregnant. I'm done wasting my time on this one.

[darrensmooth]

Originally Posted by bellakin123

Ok, I call total bullsh*t on this now. In your first thread you said "Everything was perfect at first and then about 6 (months/weeks??) later we find out that she's 2 weeks pregnant. Apparently we conceived around new years. "

When I asked you about the 6 months/weeks, you said it was weeks. Seriously, how do you not know the difference between the 2? Now you're saying you've been dating for 8 months and after 6 months she got pregnant. I'm done wasting my time on this one.

yes, this is very confusing, we cannot advice if we don't have all the details, we can only judge based on what has been divulged to us

[demo13]

Originally Posted by bellakin123

Ok, I call total bullsh*t on this now. In your first thread you said "Everything was perfect at first and then about 6 (months/weeks??) later we find out that she's 2 weeks pregnant. Apparently we conceived around new years. "

When I asked you about the 6 months/weeks, you said it was weeks. Seriously, how do you not know the difference between the 2? Now you're saying you've been dating for 8 months and after 6 months she got pregnant. I'm done wasting my time on this one.

i'll find my old post and i show you i said that is 6 month's,back then was 6,5 month's to be quite sure,and i dint know how to edit that thread but i explained later on that day,
the txt was
nice seen you today on the street,so how are any way,hows is life,
second txt was this
are you coming over to Jessy's party xx

[2mares]

Originally Posted by demo13

i'll find my old post and i show you i said that is 6 month's,back then was 6,5 month's to be quite sure,and i dint know how to edit that thread but i explained later on that day,
the txt was
nice seen you today on the street,so how are any way,hows is life,
second txt was this
are you coming over to Jessy's party xx

I already posted part of your other post where you said it was 6 weeks. You said that twice when it was questioned.

You have altered your story too much to be believable. Just based on the contradictions ( a gold star to anyone who can decipher the truth from this mess) I think you and your ex will be better off apart.

[darrensmooth]

Originally Posted by demo13

i'll find my old post and i show you i said that is 6 month's,back then was 6,5 month's to be quite sure,and i dint know how to edit that thread but i explained later on that day,
the txt was
nice seen you today on the street,so how are any way,hows is life,
second txt was this
are you coming over to Jessy's party xx

theres nothing in that...maybe she didn't tell you because she knows how insecure you are and knew you would freak out (go figure)