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I was chatting with the one girl at work who seemed to be taking a little interest in me and flirting with me, and she subtley revealed she has a boyfriend (she said it all quiet like in the middle of a sentence like she didn't want to tell me).
This is actually a very very good thing, because it takes away any temptation for me to make any kind of move that would involve me asking her on a date. I've taken a vow to stay away from making initial moves to ask girls out and specifically "date" them. But I also realize bad habits are hard to break, so this recent development is actually very helpful and it's a good thing I waited and did nothing otherwise I may have asked her out only for her to reveal her current relationship....or even worse she may have accepted the date and we all know where that road always leads.
I feel like I got off real easy here. Good thing I held my ground and stuck to the plan.
having a boyfriend, pretty much means she isnt available until an upgrade comes around. she may think of you as an upgrade. until you become her boyfriend and another upgrade comes around, that is.
You can financially plan, you can plan a vacation, but planning a route for dating NEVER works. People come in and out of your life constantly, suddenly and unexpectedly.
Don't "plan" your dating life. It will make things boring and monotonous.
You can financially plan, you can plan a vacation, but planning a route for dating NEVER works. People come in and out of your life constantly, suddenly and unexpectedly.
Don't "plan" your dating life. It will make things boring and monotonous.
I'm not planning, I'm avoiding. If you don't want to go on vacation, you don't plan one. I don't want to date. It's just sometimes my habit of wanting to creeps up on me when I meet a girl I might like. I'm breaking that habit.
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Maybe you should start a blog to write about your non dating adventures...
Consider this forum my blog then
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having a boyfriend, pretty much means she isnt available until an upgrade comes around. she may think of you as an upgrade. until you become her boyfriend and another upgrade comes around, that is.
Great point! My ex girlfriend was one of these people. I guess I would have to look down on this other girl if she decided to drop her guy just out of the "upgrade mentality", and I would just be putting myself at risk of being crushed again if I pursued her. See you guys? This is exactly why I'm making a conscious effor to stay away from dating. It would be different if she were single and she and I hung out casually and just ended up together somehow (yes it does happen that way) but as for courting/pursuing/approaching or asking her out....you can consider that method obsolete.
P.S. On the ex girlfriend. My buddy saw her out with mutual friends last week and spoke to her. I saw a picture on facebook of them out and she's totally put on weight and my friends are nicknaming her "saddle bags" since it all went to her thighs. Also, she's single and not seeing anyone, which must be just KILLING her inside. Before I met this girl she hadn't been single longer than a month in 7 years. She can't stand not having someone to dump her insecurities on.
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I'm not planning, I'm avoiding. If you don't want to go on vacation, you don't plan one. I don't want to date. It's just sometimes my habit of wanting to creeps up on me when I meet a girl I might like. I'm breaking that habit.
Consider this forum my blog then
Great point! My ex girlfriend was one of these people. I guess I would have to look down on this other girl if she decided to drop her guy just out of the "upgrade mentality", and I would just be putting myself at risk of being crushed again if I pursued her. See you guys? This is exactly why I'm making a conscious effor to stay away from dating. It would be different if she were single and she and I hung out casually and just ended up together somehow (yes it does happen that way) but as for courting/pursuing/approaching or asking her out....you can consider that method obsolete.
P.S. On the ex girlfriend. My buddy saw her out with mutual friends last week and spoke to her. I saw a picture on facebook of them out and she's totally put on weight and my friends are nicknaming her "saddle bags" since it all went to her thighs. Also, she's single and not seeing anyone, which must be just KILLING her inside. Before I met this girl she hadn't been single longer than a month in 7 years. She can't stand not having someone to dump her insecurities on.
Just thought I'd share
Classic boyfriendoholic. See why it ain't a good idea to encourage EVERYONE to get a SO?
Maybe you should start a blog to write about your non dating adventures...
Oh look at that... guys try to date and they get shot down for being 'creepy', 'short', 'ugly', whatever... guys decide not to date because of x, y, or z and they still are given a ration of ****. Terrific!
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