News, Older women and younger men: Can it Work? (marrying, husband, statistics)

[nebulous1]

It could for me, because men my age look so much older. What's up with that? Too much time baking in the sun?

[NOTAM]

my last husband was 15 years younger (i was 40 and he was 25 when we divorced a few years ago). did not work. will never ever do it again

[Huckleberry3911948]

Originally Posted by John1960

LifeWire) -- Older woman seduces younger man. Sound familiar? It's a scene from the 1967 coming-of-age classic "The Graduate."

But high-profile Hollywood couples like Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins (12 years her junior) -- who met and began dating while filming an on-screen romance in the 1988 movie "Bull Durham" -- have proven that life can indeed imitate art when it comes to matters of the heart.

Theirs, however, is a real-life love story of an older woman and younger man -- something that is not so uncommon nowadays. A 2003 study by AARP revealed that 34 percent of all women over 40 in the survey were dating younger men, and 35 percent preferred it to dating older men.

"Societal attitudes have definitely changed," says Susan Winter, 52, co-author of "Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance" -- and she would know. At age 40, she was dating a 19-year-old. "We had to break it off. Quite frankly, his mother made it so impossible," Winter says of the six-year relationship, which inspired her book. "But (that kind of discrimination) would not be allowable now."

Older women and younger men: Can it Work? - CNN.com

isn't it funny. women have moved up the corporate ladder but with it.
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the behaviors women found so despicable in men for so many years
they are now doing. younger partners, flirtation with young attractive subordinates, strip clubs, bars, drinking, office power games, sexually agressive behaviors, opportunistic trading up of partners, open ended suggestive double meaning comments in the office
gender differences are greatly exaggerated.
this is not to say there are some women that still find these bahaviors despicable in men AND women.
stephen s
san diego

[vpcats]

Originally Posted by Brienza

We are truly the "Ashton and Demi" of our town. He is even cuter than Ashton... and an awesome catch!! I'm 43 and he's 26. When I met him during a friends b-day party at a popular hot spot, after checking his drivers lisence, his friend assured me that he is attracted to older women. It's been a little over 1 year now and we've spent every weekend together and every other free day together. We've said goodnight every night since we met and are in love. Yes.. there are obvious age situations, however, what relationship doesn't have situations? It seems if we allow this difference to be big it can be but if we choose to not allow it, it won't. He is truly an extremely handsome man and I'm not so bad, myself... I do wish he looked a little older but should that really matter? He is legal and he is a great man with awesome intensions.
He is getting more and more involved in my kids lives and we have a nice time together. We have a very loving, passionate relationship with no games. I haven't met his parents as of yet but it is coming soon. They didn't agree with our relationship at first but they see he's happy and that makes them more accepting. (I am 12 years younger than his parents he is 10 years older than my son) I would like to get some advice.

Brienza, it's all great and wonderful right now but there will come a day when YOU will feel differently and you will have more aches and pains, and more "difficult" days, and less stamina for some things. Some of this is called "menopause" for us women.

My recent EX is 43 and I am 55. We were together 5.5 yrs. HE didn't care about the age difference and I didn't either REALLY but you've got to have a very understanding younger man to understand when you are on a different page than his about a lot of things. My ex and I didn't break up over sex issues. It was just a general difference about everything between us and lack of communication, but I could tell, and I was afraid that one day, I'd be 70 and he'd still be in his 50's and the older I get, the scarier that becomes. If I get together with anybody again, I would prefer to be closer in age range.

BTW, the one before him was 17 years younger. That was good for a while. And I was still in my 40's (late) but he couldn't catch up with me to save his life. :-))) But things change, like I said.

[dreamofmonterey]

Originally Posted by Bunky39

isn't it funny. women have moved up the corporate ladder but with it.
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the behaviors women found so despicable in men for so many years
they are now doing. younger partners, flirtation with young attractive subordinates, strip clubs, bars, drinking, office power games, sexually agressive behaviors, opportunistic trading up of partners, open ended suggestive double meaning comments in the office
gender differences are greatly exaggerated.
this is not to say there are some women that still find these bahaviors despicable in men AND women.
stephen s
san diego

Women deserve more power....if they choose to act a certain way, perhaps its because they dealt with all the bs from men thinking they had all the control. It just isn't so.

Everyone has a right to do what they want. This isnt the religion forum.

sunny

[OneDayInSomewhere]

Sure it can work if the couple wants it to. I'm not attracted to younger guys at all. It wouldn't work for me but if it works for them, I say go for it.

[OneDayInSomewhere]

Originally Posted by Brienza

We are truly the "Ashton and Demi" of our town. He is even cuter than Ashton... and an awesome catch!! I'm 43 and he's 26. When I met him during a friends b-day party at a popular hot spot, after checking his drivers lisence, his friend assured me that he is attracted to older women. It's been a little over 1 year now and we've spent every weekend together and every other free day together. We've said goodnight every night since we met and are in love. Yes.. there are obvious age situations, however, what relationship doesn't have situations? It seems if we allow this difference to be big it can be but if we choose to not allow it, it won't. He is truly an extremely handsome man and I'm not so bad, myself... I do wish he looked a little older but should that really matter? He is legal and he is a great man with awesome intensions.
He is getting more and more involved in my kids lives and we have a nice time together. We have a very loving, passionate relationship with no games. I haven't met his parents as of yet but it is coming soon. They didn't agree with our relationship at first but they see he's happy and that makes them more accepting. (I am 12 years younger than his parents he is 10 years older than my son) I would like to get some advice.

You've been together for over a year and he still hasn't brought you home to meet his parents? How do you know they are more accepting of it if you haven't interacted with them? Do you live in the same town as them or are they not within driving distance? This would be a red flag to me.

[DontH8Me]

Can it work? Let's ask Juliette Mills and Maxwell Caulfield - they have been together forever! Seriously, they married in 1980 and are still going strong. Juliette is 18 years older. Here is a photo of them taken at a premier this year - they are both beaming!

[vpcats]

Originally Posted by DontH8Me

Can it work? Let's ask Juliette Mills and Maxwell Caulfield - they have been together forever! Seriously, they married in 1980 and are still going strong. Juliette is 18 years older. Here is a photo of them taken at a premier this year - they are both beaming!

At some point, older women must start feeling like they need a tuck here and a tuck there but no matter how much you tuck, there are aging signs in places where tucking won't cut it. I think trust and confidence have a lot to do with the relationship too. You don't want to feel insecure when the younger guy looks at the young ones. And if even if they are not looking like THAT, you might still think they are.

Do you know if this Juliette has had some work done?

Hey, don't get me wrong. I am absolutely not attracted to older men and for some reason (so far at least) younger ones like me but I think it's helpful if you're a young older woman and have a old younger man.

At some stages in life, a lot of age difference doesn't mean much and it's really all relative, but there are times where it means a lot.

OK. I'm ready for a 40 y.o. now, after all this talk.

[Picassine]

I rather be a baby-sitter than a nurse.
I have lots of experience with much younger men.

My last common-law relationship was 5 yrs with a 12 yr gap. It was quite difficult at first. I was very insecure.. but he said he would marry me on my 50th birthday...

I left him before that... LOL

IMO, it all depends on the age of the guy... if he's 18 and the woman is 38..then this is totally sick.. it won't work in a million years.

If the guy is 30 and the woman is 50...then the chance that it might work is greater.

But, any huge age gaps cannot work on a long-term basis... because the older we get, the bigger the gap looks...

It's OK for short term or just for sex... actually it's quite fun.

Since my last bf... I only dated younger men... the youngest was 23, I am 55, that was just a fling... but I have been seeing a much younger man, on and off, for sex, for over 2 years, he is 25.

So in the last 5 years, it's been anywhere from 7 to 31 years younger... and I wouldn't change a thing.

I just can't even think of being with men my age...they look soooo old, balding and pot belly, saggy skin... ewwwwww... sorry but I take care of myself and I look good... I don't see why men just let themselves go like that.