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Intresting. A little age difference is ok but a woman who is 5-10 yrs older for a serious relationship would be a no go. Main reason is that in general men age better then women.
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My guess is, everyone here that complains about anyone else having a relationship, does not or cannot have one themselves. Judge not...lest ye be judged people.
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My original post dealt with what it seems is the fallible defect on God's great earth and that is LOVE; essentially I agree with the poster who stated in short "those who can't have relationships are complaining about those that do." That is what I saw when reading it and agree.
The "Hippie" commentary is egocentric let's face it "Hippie" if you believe you have aged better than the women in your life than you are totally superficial; hell I've tried new products (food for example) that look good but are about as tasty as sawdust (as I would imagine it not having tried it and am laughing here).
The key topic is LOVE not judgement. For those who are spiritual and or even Christian what love is the greatest love? God's love for all HE has created in HIS image. So that includes everyone of us; race, creed, color, fat, skinny, smart, stupid, the variables of what makes each of us unique likens us to fine gems HE has created and in total love.
Then God has the answer for HE not only created all of us at different times (for earthly life) but in HIS image which means in short what you see is not what you think you get. What you see is just an image and the core would be that spiritual part that total you within. Essentially then all of us are equal then, all have the potential to emulate HIM in love, kindness, understanding and acceptance. It would seem those with more "years" then might have more to contribute instead of being more biased, non accepting, angry, and or degrading. Why deny LOVE to those who have it and not seek it? Why not put energy into what is promised or seen for clearly there are still some miracles on this earth and one of them is LOVE.
Having died (3) times I have crossed over. I did not go seeking that either it came to me; one time while pregnant (second child within the womb only 28 weeks gestation). I could have lost her and I did die this is one of my long stories not necessary for the point to be made. Well I coded, I crossed over (according to some pastoral folks they dragged into the hospital room the next day again something I did not ask for), and my life changed entirely for something happened when I died and crossed over.
LOVE of a magnitude I never knew on earth became ALL there is. I could go into detail but "crossing over" I guess would be an entirely different forum and people who have crossed over sometimes make that their earthly life (spouting it out forever and ever) and I am not there I am here on this forum.
Several points being made since I logged in last night and they are evident:
1. Men are not the problem in all relationships. Most younger men I have dated in the past
10 years have told me girls their age have no morals; they will go to clubs and just hit
men up for sex (blow jobs in the parking lot) and have no consideration for who the man
is or will be.
2. Women who clearly are in love with younger men literally determining how many years is
okay either in soon to be new relationships or in current ones. Societal conditioning is so
strong that there is literally "guilt" speaking rather than reality when it comes to this. I
find it very negative and damaging to see females react this way rather than from the
heart.
3. Some male posters who may be over 40 for example and as I described looking for a good
woman (nothing wrong with that at all) but perhaps enacting unconsciously that cloning
phenomenon I spoke of; making a new woman in their life the ex and permeating negative
outcomes at the onset. It is hard to let go of past hurts or wrongs but how else will you
truly have a NEW relationship or true love. Chances are like me you never had love before
and to get it and give it you must let go.
4. The outside package is a prejudicial issue if you ask me. When I was a girl I modeled and
was always considered beautiful and still am today. My daughters are all model quality and
beautiful. Now out of the many younger men I ended up dating or being with I never once
considered only the outside for they varied in many ways totally in appearance. The general
variable that was consistent is that they accepted me unconditionally for who I am and
were not going to attempt to change me at all. That is the key. I have found when you love
unconditionally you accept the entire being for who they are and there may be some learning
when you accept differences that you could not before.
With all that in mind humor is a perfect addition on this forum for you must lighten up to be all
you can be right? I did not come on line and join this forum because I thought the world was
perfect although OUR love is perfection in and of itself. I still face the world on terms that are
adverse to my belief system (we all do on some level) and with that in mind we all must still go
out there, be "a part of not apart from" and that is where many of us involved in what is easily
termed a relationship of OW/YM fall just due to American society as it stands.
Add on to this many in the age group say of 40 to 60 are still carrying mores from the past, and younger men are a perfect example of traditional men when we were growing up. I do not care if I dated a punk rocker, a thug, a college intellectual most younger men in my life wanted women to have class, bearing, sensuality, beauty (on all levels), and experience leading to their interactions with men were not on the level of trailer trash "do it with anyone blindfolded or not" and I have been told consistently by YM in my life that what is out there is not what they want period.
Some might say that is due to who I am, or what I appear to be on the outside and my intellect, and spiritual depth but this is not true. I have seen women in my age category who look nothing like me, who are gentle peaceful spirits and the attraction for any man of any age to this enviable quality is profound.
For those who know LOVE as I admit freely it took me a lifetime and a black book as big as the NYC yellow pages (at one time and not for 3 years before Steven) tell me is it the variable of age or is it truly that you found LOVE with this YM or with anyone? Let's face it folks this number game is small when some folks out there are using suicide due to sexual preference (being homosexual for example) and if there is a stigma for the heterosexual who happens to be older than the male partner why is it even a topic?
LOVE is the one component you won't find you can buy, take, or steal on this earth that God created. At the end (or the beginning of eternal life) you will see an inventory occur and this is within 15 seconds an entire memory bank of all events every second of this life on earth. When you cross and then experience the greatest LOVE and it enters every pore, crevice and part of you that you knew existed on earth (physical part) then you realize that is it, that is what LIFE is and it is LOVE.
I am not crazy but perhaps an advocate for other females in my category and perhaps more so for men over 40 who cannot let go of bad relationships and hurt. There is an easier way to handle your next relationship but it takes RISK and letting go. I know I am long winded but would love to hear from others like me who first found LOVE in a relationship that happens to be OW/YM?
Yes this is what I agreed with entirely. But you see "we" are happily married people and some here are seeking LOVE as I put it without this judgement on numbers they might hit the ole jackpot!!
Karen B.
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Originally Posted by Rance
My guess is, everyone here that complains about anyone else having a relationship, does not or cannot have one themselves. Judge not...lest ye be judged people.
The key is a man of say 60 to 70 may feel that way but why? Is he looking for a 20 year old partner? The reason one third of all SERIOUS relationships occur between OW/YM is biologic prime but serious relationships are build on firm bedrock not just sex.
Sex is like eating you gotta do it some say. But intimacy and love which entail commitment are so much more.
Karen B.
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Originally Posted by Jeff Jarrett
"Tales From The Crypt" is overrated. It is all about "Tales From The Darkside".
You got it all wrong for if you are still a "hippie" you ain't dancing on today's world or reality. Like I said it is clear the women you are seeking must have a cellophane wrapping and if you just wanna bang then as they say out here in Texas find a "f--k buddy" where all is agreed upon and it is just sex.
Read the posts of women and men in love on here and who happen to be OW/YM and see LOVE in action, and in life.
I wish this for you more so than a wham bam thank you maam event for it is lonely out there with that attitude. A blow up doll would serve you well with that attitude.
Karen B.
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Originally Posted by CleanCutHippie
Intresting. A little age difference is ok but a woman who is 5-10 yrs older for a serious relationship would be a no go. Main reason is that in general men age better then women.
Intresting. A little age difference is ok but a woman who is 5-10 yrs older for a serious relationship would be a no go. Main reason is that in general men age better then women.
And...there are some women who age better than men. Railroad tracks are not gender specific.
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Wats up wid it Rance!
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