Have you ever just bailed on your race after being rejected too many times? (girl, attracted)

[14Bricks]

Originally Posted by PrinieRN

Where did I say that a black man dating outside his race was self-hate? NOTHING is wrong with dating outside your race, Bricks. NOTHING. But like the story I shared above, these men didn't even want to dance with the other black women at 90% black party. The moment a white female walked in they literally started grabbing their balls and jumping from foot to foot, pointing fingers at the girl, surrounding them. That's odd behavior, imo. And who says, "I'm not dating black women because I've been rejected too many times." Where you find love, you find love. BUt when you say, "I've bailed on my race because of x,y,z" That's a strange comment.

Let me give you another example of brainwashing.

Example, I went to go visit my cousin in Trinidad. His school has ZERO white or spanish females, he's never even INTERACTED with a white female and I hear him say, "When I get older, I'm not going to date a white or spanish female because I don't want to eat bread and cheese everyday." So my aunt turned to him and goes, "Does your mom make you break and cheese everyday?" And he goes, "No." Where did he get that idea? Tain't no white women anywhere for him to know and his mother cooks him a FULL COURSE MEAL EVERYDAY!

Are you from Trinidad? My families from there. But anyway back to the subject. I've heard many black athletes or black men who have "made it" who have said that when they were young and broke like in high school or college black women wouldn't give them the time of day, but white women were always friendly or open to dating them. But once they make it, now black women all of a sudden "love them some black men".

[soliloquyenlightened]

Originally Posted by 14Bricks

How come if a Black man dates outside his race he has "sefl hate" or "been brain washed by the media". Sounds like you have issuse to deal with before you start looking for a man.

If it helps you feel better (why would it? I don't know) but if I heard a white female or a spanish female say, "I bailed on my race because I've been rejected by white men or spanish men", I'd equally find it strange. You haven't met all white men or spanish men so how do you know that they all rejected you? Maybe the ones you chased after rejected you, but all of them didn't. You rejected them after being hurt.

[Mr. Opinionated]

It's happened to me as well. And I suspect man of all etnicities have at some time, experienced similar. But even though I have been involved with various complected women, since I have yet to meet all black women alive, I see no reason or need to write them off. As with the rest of nature, Lovely ladies, especially from the inside out, come in a wide array of beautiful colors. Nice!

[Kaffegal05]

[quote=LAB6120;24053011]Nope, must be you, I have been rejected by some black women but went out with plenty, also have been married to one for the past 11 years. High school is very cliquish and teens are so worried about their image-if you were a nerdy guy then maybe thats why you were rejected. Sounds like you wanted to give up, and what do you mean it paid off-you found a rich white woman. You sound like one of those brothers that walk around with your nose in the air-saying look at me-I got a white woman-nobody cares.[/quote]

Bingo!

[Aganusn]

No, because I think more logically.

[soliloquyenlightened]

Originally Posted by 14Bricks

Are you from Trinidad? My families from there. But anyway back to the subject. I've heard many black athletes or black men who have "made it" who have said that when they were young and broke like in high school or college black women wouldn't give them the time of day, but white women were always friendly or open to dating them. But once they make it, now black women all of a sudden "love them some black men".

My family is, yes.

I've heard that a lot too. But not all black women are like that and I for one am not so when i hear things like that it throws me off. Do you see why? I'm already being labeled simply because I was born in a certain skin and for something I had no part in. it communicates to me that that person is still bitter and projecting that bitterness onto a whole group of people. It's like racism, within the same race you're a part of. Maybe it's just the women they were chasing didn't want them.

[ho hey!]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

Any reason why?

Referring to my bailed out on Hmong guys? Personal reasons, sorry.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by PrinieRN

Ionno man, if I keep hearing posts like the OP, I probably won't even GET a chance to bail.

I've been to predominantly black (99% black. HBCU sorority and fraternity parties) where the black men didn't even try to dance with the black females let alone make eye contact and then the moment a white female walked in and started to move they'd, "Awwww DAMN!" start tappin their friend's shoulder real fast, pointing, covering their mouths and jumping from foot to foot and run right over to her and surround her to dance. Is that a preference? Maybe it's a form of self-hatred? But the way I see it, tain't nothing but a brain-washing and self-defeatist attitude. Can't really have somethin' that don't really want you.

Sorry I'm not buying this story. Maybe the black girls could have been either average or ugly and the white girl was a 10. Besides, those black women are not OWED any men or interest, PERIOD, HBCU or no HBCU.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by PrinieRN

Ionno man, if I keep hearing posts like the OP, I probably won't even GET a chance to bail.

I've been to predominantly black (99% black. HBCU sorority and fraternity parties) where the black men didn't even try to dance with the black females let alone make eye contact and then the moment a white female walked in and started to move they'd, "Awwww DAMN!" start tappin their friend's shoulder real fast, pointing, covering their mouths and jumping from foot to foot and run right over to her and surround her to dance. Is that a preference? Maybe it's a form of self-hatred? But the way I see it, tain't nothing but a brain-washing and self-defeatist attitude. Can't really have somethin' that don't really want you.

Most frat guys of any race are idiots. Wrong crowd, that's all.

[soliloquyenlightened]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Sorry I'm not buying this story. Maybe the black girls could have been either average or ugly and the white girl was a 10. Besides, those black women are not OWED any men or interest, PERIOD, HBCU or no HBCU.

I have no reason to lie. The behavior was strange and I'm not responding to this post anymore because it's exhausting. You're right they're not "owed" and I never said they were but that ball grabbing bouncing from foot to foot thing is odd. And over what? flesh color?

It is what it is. I'm done.