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Originally Posted by itshim
lol @ this coming from an ""angry bitter, lonely black woman." The discussion was civil, and I haven't made any ad hominem attacks. You snuck in a few jabs here and there--but I ignored them.
Your type of response is what I'm primarily referring to though. You came into the thread a few times ROARING about what black men do or don't do. In your mind your behavior of malcontent and disrespect is normal and legitimate, but if anyone dare challenge you with similar language and attitude, then they are the ones with the problem. This type of behavior is very pervasive in the black households that become fatherless. It's an either "bow down, or get out" type of mentality.
The hypocrisy on all of this is just unbelievalble. A few angered black women came in here talking about "black men want white trophies", black men date unattractive women, black men are color struck, and stuck on hair types, THEN when someone has enough muster to call some of you out on it, then and only then does Lucifer comes out lol. Then all of a suden 'yo the victim' I just think it's glaringly obvious that even the black women who had a problem with my responses, never even thought to check or challenge the black women who came in here howling.14 Bricks was 100% on the money. The stereotypes came flying from one direction, only then did a few male posters begin responding in kind. Don't like it? Oh well. Respect is a 2-way street.
(PS- I think you need to worry about a rising, HIV/and AIDS rate amongst black women tha rivals that of Africa before you concern yourself with my blood pressure--I'm just sayin)
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See this is an example of ugliness.
Why would you feel compelled to say something like this?
The OP began his thread stating that he was always attracted to black women
Growing up and they thwarted his advances and so forth and in college he “gave up” and finally married a white women and it has worked out thus far. The Op was wondering if anyone else had come across this?
And you turned it into a race war.
This is your statement…
Overall, I think it speaks voulmes about the heirarchy of beauty when a white guy is willing to date an average woman of any race but a black woman. She need not apply unless she's far above aesthetically by comparison to her sistren. Then and only then is she worth a second look to him.
Yet another endearing post…
I didn't say that the perception of them being less attractive is what defines attractiveness, I don't define interracial dating as a metric of self-worth, but I do believe that black women are considered less attractive to men of other races than black men are to women of other races. There isn't a single place on this Earth really where black women out number black men in these relationships. The "stereotype" of black women behaving in a specific matter is really only prevelent in this country--that being said, you have to ask yourself, why are black women still involved in them in lower numbers everywhere else? Pride? Are they rejecting men of other races everywhere? I don't I don't buy that. Whether it's in the UK, Latin America, Sweden, Russia, Italy, Japan etc, black men are more wanted as partners by women of other races, more so than black women are (don't confuse that with black men as being the "preferred" because I didn't say that). But regardless of where you go it seems to play out this way. I think there is a universal physical preference at play here.
You went on and on to state weaves, straightners, skin lightners and so forth as a proof that black women hate what they look like?
Pish posh…
Truth? They are not the only ones.
Hispanic women will get their hair straightned, white women do as well why? Because it isa preference, they do not like their curly hair! I myself flat iron my hair every other day because I have curly hair and it is too hard to manage.
Am I black? Look at my profile pic..I assure I am not..yet I straighten my hair!
Skin lightners? Again preference.
LMAO! As I see SOOOO many WHITE women at the tanning salons ( which I myself am very guilty of using) to get “tan” I see so so many white women very “tan” in the middle of winter, why? Preference. I tend to get very light and I do not like it therefore I tan all the time! I love being darker, looking sun kissed even in the dead of winter!
Does this make me ashamed of who I am? Of course not, I prefer to be darker, plain and simple.
How many white women get collagen lip injections to perfect their “pout” does this mean they are ashamed of being “white? No they want “fuller lips” ones they were not born with! White women get perms because their hair is too thin and limp, does this mean they are ashamed of being white? No! There are women whom get butt implants, breast implants..they are doing this as preference because they feel they are lacking in this area however they never get grief over it.
I have friends of every walk of life..and they all do something to enhance their beauty.
I have black friends whom choose to be natural, get their hair straightened and those that have a weave and it is never to be more “white” I can think of 2 friends off of the top of my head that are dark and they are happily married to BLACK men.
I do not see this so much here where I live…and then I have a good friend whom is not so dark that cannot get a good black man to save her life and feels that black men prefer other races and while I have seen this in effect as well I do not understand it. I have posted on this in previous threads.
She was one of those women whom had to go elsewhere to find her man. She was on the brink of giving up and began dating other races ( Mexican guys just ate her up) however she found her love in Baltimore when visiting her brother.
You want truth? As far as black men being wanted anywhere else? I do not know this.
There is still a stigma regarding black men. There are women /friends whom have asked me if I ever dated a black man and I have stated “yeah” and their reply has been “ewww” “really?” This has come from white women, Hispanic women and some asian women.
Not to state that men will ask if women have dated black men and when I have stated “yes” They stated “ Well I do not believd in interracial relationships” I got confused..I stated “Umm, I am not all white and yet you are dating me?” In which they stated that they felt blacks should stay with blacks but everyone else was okay? WOW.
In the UK? Perhaps however I have seen many black women with white men, matter of fact I have known some white men that will not date any woman that is not black.
So I feel that stating generalizations as truth for an entire race is wrong, bring some stats to the table before going on a tangent.
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