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Have you ever dated someone who only wanted to see you when you were at your best? (aka sunshine coming out your a**). Did not want to see you when you (or he/she) were in a bad mood, sick, tired, etc.
How did you cope with feeling like they only wanted to be with you when you were at your best?
My ex gf was a perfect example. She LOVED the honeymoon stage in the relationship process. When things got tough or you made a small mistake or the excitement settled down to a more "comfortable" feeling she would instantly chalk it up to "well I guess I'm not in love with you" and drop you like a rock. 7 boyfriends in 5 years this girl....
I actually feel bad for her. She has no idea what a true love relationship is really about. She really thinks what she's seen on hollywood films is what she should expect.
Yes - you shouldn't settle for that. Bad days and when you're sick are when you need someone the most. If they are only there for you when things are going well then that says a lot about them. That isn't the kind of person to make you happy in the long run.
Agree with all the above, and as cliche as this may sound, don't know who came up with it, it does apply to all relationships I think: "If you don't want me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"
disclaimer: of course there is worst and there is worst right? we are talking about a normal, healthy, human being... not some junkie, psycho one just saying...
People only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I knew a woman who was real nice when she was short on a bill. I asked her what the difference was between what she did and what a prostitute does? Why did I ask that?
I can't think of anyone like that at the moment. The usual case is old friends wanting to get reacquainted when they are going through a tough time, which is fine by me as long as they don't disappear out of my life once they get to a good place. But I digress.
I think it's very tacky that someone would act the way you described. Just awful. I would downgrade that person to a mere acquaintance, if not less. Real friends/boyfriends don't ignore you when you are down. I actually find it hard to ignore anyone who wants my company/advice/help when they are depressed/in trouble/sick/moody.
I actually would prefer a guy like that. Once, I was a "damsel in distress", and had a BF who LOVED it. I thought he was great, he was so supportive and awesome, until my life was better, he then dumped me for another "damsel in distress". He wanted to be a "knight" resuing women. The problem was, he had such low self esteem, he did not think a strong, happy, healthy woman would want him.
I actually would prefer a guy like that. Once, I was a "damsel in distress", and had a BF who LOVED it. I thought he was great, he was so supportive and awesome, until my life was better, he then dumped me for another "damsel in distress". He wanted to be a "knight" resuing women. The problem was, he had such low self esteem, he did not think a strong, happy, healthy woman would want him.
There certainly isn't anything wrong with being there for women when she's down. The male ego tends to love rescuing those in need though. Regardless of that, I would not want to be around someone who would drag me down with their self induced psycho drama.
Nothing wrong with wanting to be with a woman who is happy and healthy. Actually, I find that quite attractive!!!
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just saying...
