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If you see someone with a ring....do you know for a fact that they are really married? They could just be wearing the ring to pretend that they had managed to "catch" a guy.
A Ring doesn't mean a thing.
I quit wearing mine soon after I was married. The metal irritated my skin, I would wear it on the right hand until the left healed. It wasn't worth the effort. Everyone that knew us, knew we were married. Strangers didn't matter and if anyone made a pass at me because they thought I was single, it didn't take more than a look to change their mind.
I would be interested in seeing the honest reactions of people who were proposed to without a ring, and were then informed they would not be receiving a ring at all in the future.
I was proposed to without a ring and could not have cared less. I was never bothered about being proposed to in the first place. Now Hubby realised I am really fussy with Jewellery and very wisely decided I should chose the ring as it is important to me for example that it is as environmentally and ethically friendly as possible. Which is quite a tall order when it comes to engagement rings.
He proposed over 4 years go and we married over 2 years ago. He has since pursued me relentlessly to try and make me have a ring designed to my tastes and I keep putting him off. What do I need an engagement ring for ? I have rings. When and if I can ever be bothered to spend that much time and effort on a piece of metal then it will possibly, maybe, perhaps one day happen. Quite frankly I would rather spend the money on travelling, going to the Opera or the Theatre etc...
I do not feel bereft because I do not have an engagement ( or Wedding for that matter) ring. My relationship is a little deeper than a little bling on my finger or lackof therein. It seems to mean far more to Him than it does to me. So he keeps pestering and I keep dodging.
Rings are not are a reflection of peoples relationship.My parents have been married 47 years..My dad never has worn one, and my mom has beautiful diamonds, she rarely wears...Wouldn't bother me if hubby didn't wear his...as I love and trust him, not the ring.
For some, this is a SAFETY ISSUE. When I was in the Navy, one of the guys working on a radio transmitter happened to get his finger across a "hot" connection (some 500 volts) and the ring was touching ground. His finger was "cooked", almost instantly. From that day on, he no longer had a "ring finger".
I was loading a truck and had to guide the material into place. The ring got caught while the forklift was lowering the material. I didn't lose my finger, but did get a lot of very small stitches to put the "tube" of skin back into place. It peeled the skin to the first knuckle.
Doing the same job, another guy had to have his ring cut off because his hand got caught and the ring got squashed. Either cut it off or lose his finger.
Solvents can get under the ring, and some of them cause chemical burns. No ring means it can easily be wiped off and no burn.
Would you like to insist that I wear any ring on any finger?
Lots of people work around electricity or machinery where it's not a good idea to wear rings or may even be specifically disallowed in the work place. Some people do physically difficult work where the rings could become damaged. Others just don't like wearing them.
I only wore mine maybe 20% of the time. I like to alternate my jewelry and change it once a week or so. That didn't make me any less married. It's just a symbol.
For some, this is a SAFETY ISSUE. When I was in the Navy, one of the guys working on a radio transmitter happened to get his finger across a "hot" connection (some 500 volts) and the ring was touching ground. His finger was "cooked", almost instantly. From that day on, he no longer had a "ring finger".
I was loading a truck and had to guide the material into place. The ring got caught while the forklift was lowering the material. I didn't lose my finger, but did get a lot of very small stitches to put the "tube" of skin back into place. It peeled the skin to the first knuckle.
Doing the same job, another guy had to have his ring cut off because his hand got caught and the ring got squashed. Either cut it off or lose his finger.
Solvents can get under the ring, and some of them cause chemical burns. No ring means it can easily be wiped off and no burn.
Would you like to insist that I wear any ring on any finger?
ew. that's terrible about the guy with his 'cooked' finger!
well if it is a safety thing that's a different story then suit & tie guy not wearing the ring. If not, I agree with Ruth.
Why not have all married people wear signs that say, "stay away. I'm married."
It should be big enough to be seen from a distance, but small enough that it wouldn't interfer with work.
Maybe even with a battery operated light system for use at night or in a dark bar?
If a person is in a marriage where they are bothered by the spouse not wearing a ring, then they need to take a long hard look at why they got married in the first place.
I never take mine off (except for surgery when they make you take it off), but I'm guessing other people might not wear them for job related reasons.
I like reaching for my husbands hand and feeling his ring there on his finger. Even in the middle of the night we'll sometimes hold hands in bed and I smile when I feel that ring
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