Stop with the Baby Mama, Baby Daddy (boyfriend, girlfriend, married)

[tarragon]

I have to post this as I am about crazy listening to this term! When did Baby Mama and Baby Daddy start being used as a reference to mother of the child/ren or father of the child/ren? I am an educated woman and I will tell you, I find this very immature, ridiculous, lack of using intelligence. Sorry, but you have to hear it.

I am divorced and I have two children by my former spouse. We refer to each other as, "my sons Mom, my sons Dad OR my sons mother, my sons father." Simple as that, doesn't that sound much better? Also, just to add, even if we had never been married to each other, it still sounds more appropriate and more respectful to my children.

[LegalDiva]

Doesn't bother me. I actually think its a clever term as it accurately denotes the baby is the former spouse's biological offspring.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by tarragon

I have to post this as I am about crazy listening to this term! When did Baby Mama and Baby Daddy start being used as a reference to mother of the child/ren or father of the child/ren? I am an educated woman and I will tell you, I find this very immature, ridiculous, lack of using intelligence. Sorry, but you have to hear it.

I am divorced and I have two children by my former spouse. We refer to each other as, "my sons Mom, my sons Dad OR my sons mother, my sons father." Simple as that, doesn't that sound much better? Also, just to add, even if we had never been married to each other, it still sounds more appropriate and more respectful to my children.

I agree.

It's part of the general degradation of US society....

Yeah, I know... gonna get hate from that statement.

[Thursday007]

I view the terminology to mean very young people who have no connection or involvement with each other than that they had a child together and for the most part are completely absentee in many cases. She's not his girlfriend, he's not her boyfriend, they have nothing to do with one another except she's his baby's mama and he's her baby's daddy. Nothing more and nothing less. They are however belittling terms of unaccountability.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

It's part of the general degradation of US society....

Not really... Just like "female" used as a noun, it's something you must hear in the ghettos. I certainly haven't heard it anywhere in real life unless I happen to flip channels and come across trash TV. I don't live in the ghetto and I don't watch trash TV, so I really don't need to worry about it.

[Osito]

I agree. What's so darn hard about saying " the baby's daddy/mommy" instead? It's so lazy.

[Lamplight]

I assumed it was supposed to be funny, sort of joking about the way people say it on trashy, bottom-of-the-barrel talk shows.

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by LegalDiva

Doesn't bother me. I actually think its a clever term as it accurately denotes the baby is the former spouse's biological offspring.

I always thought it was a stupid term to refer to teenage parents.

[SummerFall]

Originally Posted by Thursday007

I view the terminology to mean very young people who have no connection or involvement with each other than that they had a child together and for the most part are completely absentee in many cases. She's not his girlfriend, he's not her boyfriend, they have nothing to do with one another except she's his baby's mama and he's her baby's daddy. Nothing more and nothing less. They are however belittling terms of unaccountability.

^^ This. Usually people who have only dated rather casually and then have had a child together get slammed with that term. And usually only people like that refer to themselves as that. I admit I say that about women/guys who have like 3 kids by 3 different people that they only dated for about for 5 months each, never been married, etc. I dont use that term as a complement, if you know what I mean. The way some people breed out there, that's all they are. I suppose I could say 'her sperm donor' JK

For people who have been married and divorced for example, I dont say that about them. Then it's 'her child's father' etc.

[Djuna]

I view the term as a low life, ghetto thing that's tacky and trashy. Certain people in society are simply not educated or classy enough to use tasteful language