Welcome to City-Data.com Forum!
U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 05-06-2012, 12:20 PM
 
15,013 posts, read 21,606,283 times
Reputation: 12334

Advertisements

Quote:
Originally Posted by robertpolyglot View Post
FBd to say hi around Christmas. His profile is extremely locked. It had been years, and I had just gotten my account around Christmas-time. No response. I wanted to see if he'd "changed," maybe even go get something to eat. I've done my part. Just thought some people might have had similar experiences with friends like this on CD.
Did the mail thing happen recently or before the FB message?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 05-06-2012, 12:32 PM
 
14,727 posts, read 33,307,651 times
Reputation: 8949
Quote:
Originally Posted by srjth View Post
Did the mail thing happen recently or before the FB message?
LOL. Summer of 2000. Also, I moved to another state after that and lost touch. I just started going through FB and found a bunch of people I knew in the past, some of which I contacted, thinking "I wonder how this will go over."
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 05-06-2012, 12:37 PM
 
15,013 posts, read 21,606,283 times
Reputation: 12334
Quote:
Originally Posted by robertpolyglot View Post
LOL. Summer of 2000. Also, I moved to another state after that and lost touch. I just started going through FB and found a bunch of people I knew in the past, some of which I contacted, thinking "I wonder how this will go over."
Oh. Well, I don't have FB, but from what I hear lots of people who have it hardly ever check it. You never know too, he and his life could be completely different now.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 05-07-2012, 09:08 AM
 
788 posts, read 1,269,543 times
Reputation: 1236
Quote:
What makes people with addictions so damn selfish in other areas of their lives? Have you had FRIENDS (not SOs) with addiction issues that were more trouble than they were worth?
I've known a number of addicts over the years, and that certain selfishness is one of the ways I identify them before I even know their habits. It's not the same thing as someone who's just selfish, but a different type of selfishness. I can't explain it, but it seems to be a characteristic of addiction.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 05-07-2012, 09:59 AM
 
15,013 posts, read 21,606,283 times
Reputation: 12334
I think you should maybe call him. Do you have a number for him?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 05-07-2012, 10:15 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
12,322 posts, read 17,089,650 times
Reputation: 19556
Quote:
Originally Posted by Caltovegas View Post
The mail isn't about an addiction..He just didn't care... Sometimes you have to let certain "friends" go.
Just not a reliable friend. What is the difference between a "Heavy drinker" and an alcoholic though? Anyone?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 05-07-2012, 11:59 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
16,393 posts, read 30,869,940 times
Reputation: 16642
Quote:
Originally Posted by D. Scott View Post
Just not a reliable friend. What is the difference between a "Heavy drinker" and an alcoholic though? Anyone?

A heavy drinker is just someone who drinks a lot. An alcoholic is someone with an actual addiction and something that inhibits their life.

The worst I get from my drinking is a hangover the next day. Sure I usually drink too much, but I don't choose alcohol over work or my studies or anyone else. I think that's the main difference.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 05-08-2012, 11:31 PM
 
14,727 posts, read 33,307,651 times
Reputation: 8949
Quote:
Originally Posted by burgler09 View Post
A heavy drinker is just someone who drinks a lot. An alcoholic is someone with an actual addiction and something that inhibits their life.
Good point. I was sitting at some chain restaurant/bar with this friend who was putting away several beers while I drank my Sprite.* He laughed and said "I don't trust people who don't drink." I believe this expression comes from some movie or an actor, but I thought it was pretty stupid.

*I don't drink because I'm not crazy about the taste, want to drive at a moment's notice, alcoholic drinks cost more (main source of revenue for restaurants, along with desserts) and I'm cheap.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 05-09-2012, 03:05 PM
 
13,513 posts, read 19,235,612 times
Reputation: 16580
robertpolyglot...I have friends with addictions....I just would never ask them to pick up my mail....or anything else for that matter.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
Similar Threads

All times are GMT -6. The time now is 08:20 AM.

© 2005-2024, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Contact Us - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37 - Top