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As always hypothetically: I wouldn't have a problem with this at all. I think dutch is the best way to go anyways. I wouldn't want to be in the position of 'owing' him anything.
Why would you owe me anything? I invited you out because I thought we would have a good time and maybe it will develop into something more?
Come on, can't ignore the fact that whoever pays invites = men pay. Sure sure sure, there are exceptions but we can't deny the fact that when it comes to asking out men are the ones who do this and what women prefer.
A woman might consider asking her husband, boyfriend, or the guy who has taken her out for a long time...exceptions exist.
If you taught your son to pay are you teaching your daughter to cook for a man and clean? What do western parents teach their daughters when it comes to relationships? I know that sons are taught to pay for women, open their doors, pull their chairs, defend them, carry their stuff, not to hit them, respect them, etc.
So how do you call women who are not willing to pitch in with the dating expenses? Tightarse as well or simply a woman?
Guys are such poor suckers sometimes. What in the world is a 90 day rule? You shower girls with gifts, try to impress them by taking them to expensive places, buy them unnecessary gifts....and end up with blue balls for 3 months? Lord, have mercy. Sounds like a pretty raw deal.
Guys trying to buy sex this way, come accross as manipulative and creepy to most women. You give up all your power in the relationship, before it even starts. Stop putting vagina on a pedestal, and realize that women love sex just as much as men. If you cant get it for 90 days, its all on you.
Why would you owe me anything? I invited you out because I thought we would have a good time and maybe it will develop into something more?
It is a mentality - a 'tit for tat mentality' look at the thread. This whole no wallet for 90 days is equivalent to no sex for 90 days (which by the way I had some literally laugh in my face when I thought they would be open to complying with something along those lines . Yea right).
Anyway, I just don't like the feeling of owing you something. So later on down the line you can say " I bought you that expensive dinner -- but now I'm not good enough, etc. etc." I don't want it thrown in my face. So I pay for my own, he pays for his own. safer that way.
I agre with the things you said. This can make girls suckers too when they open their legs too soon expecting a relationship, expecting the guy to spend on her, etc. only to be dumped.
No wonder women are told to not let a guy have sex too soon and guys are told to not open their wallets to soon.
What if you are attracted to him as well? You wouldn't do the same to show that you are attracted and pick up the dinner check?
Maybe when a couple gets married a woman shows she's attracted to her husband by cooking and cleaning, right?
Women can afford it too but maybe self centered or feel some entitlement?
What do american women do to show they are interested in a man? Accept to be taken out?
No I still would not pay to show I am attracted, because most men do not equate women spending money as attraction. It is more effective for me to squeeze your thigh than to.pay the bill.
As for your cooking and cleaning example, yes I love to cook for my man, and yes it is a sign of affection.
Every time i read a subject on paying for dates, I shake my head and cant believe its such an issue today. Guys, if you cant afford to pay for a date, dont date but rather figure out how to make more money. It really shouldnt be such a big deal, and never has been in my life.
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. Yea right). 
I bought you that expensive dinner -- but now I'm not good enough, etc. etc." I don't want it thrown in my face. So I pay for my own, he pays for his own. safer that way.