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That's interesting, but I am curious as to why wait until an X amount of dates have passed? In my case, when a girl takes me out I don't think "Hhhhm I will wait until a few weeks or months have passed for me to be nice enough to contribute to expenses".
Whoever invites the other one out should pay. Since the man usually asks the woman out in the beginning, he should pay.
Although men paying is largely due to tradition, it still can serve as a good barometer of how gracious, gentlemanly, stable, cheap, generous, etc. he is.
When I used to date, it was always with marriage in mind. I never dated anyone just so I could go out. I would talk to a man quite a bit before we went out in order to find out if he was actually someone I liked, and who seemed like he had the potential to be a good husband. If I did not sense there was any potential, I didn't accept any offers to go out.
However, if I went out with him a few times, it was because I really liked him. Therefore, I would have no problem helping out with the tab after 2 or 3 dates. The way someone spends money says a lot about them. Watching how he handles the tabs is one of the things that tells you a bit about the person's character or what may be going on in their life.
I wouldnt DARE use a coupon on a date ever ever ever EVER
Women HATE a man who is cheap and frugal. They want a man who has money and will spoil them financially. Coupons are for the supermarket, not a date...sorry!
Whoever invites the other one out should pay. Since the man usually asks the woman out in the beginning, he should pay.
That’s right Marie. Finally a woman admits that. Whoever asks should pay = men pay. In my case, when a woman asks me out WE still contribute to expenses together. We feel it’s our date, we’re both happy to be there, we don’t feel entitlements, etc. But that’s just us.
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Although men paying is largely due to tradition, it still can serve as a good barometer of how gracious, gentlemanly, stable, cheap, generous, etc. he is.
Wouldn’t a woman show the same thing when it came to dating? Enjoying everything a man did for you in a date doesn’t really give him an image of you when it comes to being generous, gracious, taking care of him (similar to chivalry), right? So is dating one-sided?
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If I did not sense there was any potential, I didn't accept any offers to go out.
Nice of you to not use men just for free meals, free drinks, free entertainment, etc.
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The way someone spends money says a lot about them. Watching how he handles the tabs is one of the things that tells you a bit about the person's character or what may be going on in their life.
A man who spends a lot can send the message that he’s so nice, he’s a man, etc. A woman who doesn’t spend on the guy can also send the message that she’s cheap, just looking for freebies, looking for someone who will take care of her as a daughter, etc. A man that just wants sex can also send that negative vibe of a guy that will most likely cheat, not be responsible, etc.
Why not have BOTH be nice since the very beginning?
Can't stay on topic and refrain from personal attacks? Another thread closed.
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