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Originally Posted by findly185
Good post.
I guess we cant escape the fact that sex has much more serious consequences for women no matter what measures we take to prevent pregnancy or STD's.
Yep, I guess some things in life aren't fair. On one hand women have the privilege of giving life to a child, on the other they constantly have to worry about pregnancy. And the pills has side-effects, too.
I wonder...we cant be too far off from a 100% effective way to prevent STD's and pregnancy (advances in both have been progressing for years). What will the male/female dynamic be like in a situation where everyone was on an equal playing field and no one had to worry about the consequences of sex.
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Originally Posted by findly185
I wonder...we cant be too far off from a 100% effective way to prevent STD's and pregnancy (advances in both have been progressing for years). What will the male/female dynamic be like in a situation where everyone was on an equal playing field and no one had to worry about the consequences of sex.
I think so too...I think women will become more like men with regards to sex. Also it seems women are started to appreciate men sexually and some of them are being aggressive pursuing sex with men. Also viewing men more as sex objects than in past eras.
I wonder...we cant be too far off from a 100% effective way to prevent STD's and pregnancy (advances in both have been progressing for years). What will the male/female dynamic be like in a situation where everyone was on an equal playing field and no one had to worry about the consequences of sex.
Well no one has to worry about them now. And many don't. But I think even if it were accomplished so that both pregnancy and STDs were 100% preventable (while sexually active), there would still be concerns. They'd just affect men and women equally. Again, they would still be overlooked in favor of a temporary sexual release, but I'm mainly talking about the chances of one of the two catching feelings no matter what the plan and agreement was originally.
You just have to ask yourself what your objective is. If it's just making it so that men and women generally think of sex the same way, it may very well happen if we ever find a true form of protection from pregnancy and STDs. If your goal is making it so that men and women generally think of sex the best way, I'd still argue that it must include emotional involvement and commitment. I don't think ditching these aspects of it (wherever they come from) would be beneficial in consideration of its risks and I definitely don't find it necessary.
A woman's sex drives and motivations aren't necessarily the same as a man's? Even some men wouldn't be OK with your ideas of sexuality. Alot of people want to make a connection emotionally. If you just want physical sensations, there's masturbatory toys for that. Being uncomfortable with emotional connections suggests immaturity.
I mean really, if women could think of sex in the same light as (most) men, think about how much easier life would be. There wouldn't be the millions of threads about boyfriends looking at other women, porn being a form of cheating, how guys are d-bags for engaging in FWB and one night stands, the list goes on and on and on.
I have managed to disconnect a lot of the emotional attachment that goes along with sex (unless I am in a relationship with someone I love) and let me tell you how much easier it is. I know women are going to say they prefer the obsessive neurotic behavior because it somehow elevates their ability to "feel" to a level that far surpasses that of a man, but really, all of the BS that goes along with that "connection" we're supposed to have during intercourse really just muddies the waters and complicated the he** out of sex for everyone.
What if women could step away from that, have sex and not necessarily have emotional attachments, but rather, to fulfill a need.
Thoughts?
You know, there's something really dysfunctional about this post....
I mean really, if women could think of sex in the same light as (most) men, think about how much easier life would be. There wouldn't be the millions of threads about boyfriends looking at other women, porn being a form of cheating, how guys are d-bags for engaging in FWB and one night stands, the list goes on and on and on.
I have managed to disconnect a lot of the emotional attachment that goes along with sex (unless I am in a relationship with someone I love) and let me tell you how much easier it is. I know women are going to say they prefer the obsessive neurotic behavior because it somehow elevates their ability to "feel" to a level that far surpasses that of a man, but really, all of the BS that goes along with that "connection" we're supposed to have during intercourse really just muddies the waters and complicated the he** out of sex for everyone.
What if women could step away from that, have sex and not necessarily have emotional attachments, but rather, to fulfill a need.
Thoughts?
Contrary to popular lies SOME women can do exactly that. I had an intimate friend for more than 5 years, nothing but sex and it was great. NO rings, NO strings, NOTHING BUT SEX and I loved it. Then I met my husband, fell in love and the intimate relationship with the other guy ended with no hard feelings or regrets. Sex is only complicated because women make it that way and men allow it to happen because, well actually I don't know why they allow it. I have no time for games and blah blah BS so I don't deal with any of it on any level no matter who you are. Bottom line you either want to have sex or you don't and if we are in a long term relationship that is more than just sex great, the sex means more to me than just the physical pleasure. There are feelings and emotions attached that I don't get when it is sex just to fulfill a "need".
The dynamic of sex is different for men and women. A man enters the woman. Unless you are a homosexual male, you aren't being penetrated by her. I believe detached sex has a more adverse affect on women. Men who bag many women tend to see women a lesser beings in a way. Women who use men only for sex are usually made that way by too many hurtful past experiences with guys. Of course, this is just how I see it....
A woman's sex drives and motivations aren't necessarily the same as a man's? Even some men wouldn't be OK with your ideas of sexuality. Alot of people want to make a connection emotionally. If you just want physical sensations, there's masturbatory toys for that. Being uncomfortable with emotional connections suggests immaturity.
I disagree withe the "suggests immaturity" statement but that is me and my world. Not every human on the planet "requires" an emotional attachment to anyone or anything. It is a blessing and a curse at the same time but it is not for the weak of heart to deal with the ability to not emotionally attach to everything on the planet be it human or material.
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