Playing hard to get?

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by Gatsby1925

But here's the thing. I don't text back because I am busy. A desperate guy or gal will still text back regardless of if they are busy or not. I have had a couple female friends completely pause their workout routine just because a certain guy that they liked texted them. Even one of my guy friends left the room to return a call from a girl he had a crush on during a Lakers game with 2 minutes left in the fourth. That's desperate. If I am in the middle of a tough workout, if there's a close game on TV or if I am working, the girl will have to wait until I am done to get a text.

Guilty of that too...I remember once when arranging to meet up with a girl I'd met on a dating site. I think I asked if she wanted to 'hang out' one too many times, so she got fed up. I'd often just wait for her to come on the dating site chat, and the moment she'd come on I'd get so excited. I'd be afraid of saying the wrong thing in case...

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by lovesthebass

Hell, I wouldn't call someone ten times a day because what all that exciting could possibly happen in one day that would require me to call them ten times? lol

If I spent all the time on the phone talking to them, I'm going to have less to talk to them about in person.

But yeah, OP, games may work in high school or college, but the older you get, the less likely people are going to put up with it.

I've always found that plain annoying...not to say I might not do it! Actually I've had 'phone relationships' with girls I met online where we just talked on the phone, about anything. One seemed to like me, but she lived far away so it wasn't realistic.

[green_mariner]

Originally Posted by SuburbOfMemphisTN

^^I agree, for men and women alike- games are for kids. It isn't being sweet or flirty when your pulling strings and playing with people's heads and hearts.
Let him call/txt you, but don't wait to answer or respond, if your interested you gotta be up fron tand let him know 'hey, I enjoy being around you'. Don't be pushy or overbearing though either, that'll scare them off, but let things flow & always be responsive!!

I'm a guy, but I get the point. This is how I operate. If a woman seems like she's playing hard to get or won't return my texts/phone calls, that tells me she isn't interested. It hurts, especially because of the passive-aggressive nature of the situation.

[Dewdrop93]

Originally Posted by lovesthebass

Hell, I wouldn't call someone ten times a day because what all that exciting could possibly happen in one day that would require me to call them ten times? lol

If I spent all the time on the phone talking to them, I'm going to have less to talk to them about in person.

But yeah, OP, games may work in high school or college, but the older you get, the less likely people are going to put up with it.

My life is very exciting.

[hamellr]

Originally Posted by Johnny Cash

the "games" work to a point and can be part of the flirt and giggle, thrill of the chase. But there's a limit, and I have other options and will drop contact with a girl that does it too much

Bingo! I used to stack dates back to back on the same weekend, (Friday Night, Saturday Night, Sunday Night.) If I liked someone enough to give them a second date, I'd give them three chances to get back to me before the weekend.

Frequently I'd never hear from them again, but more often they'd finally contact me back several weeks later and be astounded to find that I was off dating someone else by then.

[talk2u]

Sometimes when you play hard to get...
You don't get got!

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by 1208

A little can work.

There's all sorts of different things people can do to draw in a mate. Playing "Hard to get" too much means the guy may go to greener pastures. Now, keeping someones interest peaked for years is a real trick!

[sweetchas]

Games and tricks are for kids woman up and text/ call as soon as you can.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by negativenancy

I dislike all forms of hard to get in relationships....just reply, call, text, etc. as soon as you get the message and it's convenient.... not after some calculating wait time.

If I'm calling you in the first place it means that I already like you, no need to play hard to get.

Oh me too. If you like me let me know. I hate the guessing game.