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I love my niece dearly. She is an excellent business woman, with a fantastic mind, 55 years' old, and in excellent shape. She appears to be about 43. She is divorced, with no children.
Here is the problem: She has made friends with this other woman, who dresses like a hussy, and my niece has started to dress the same way. My niece is a 44DD, and wears tight, tight, trousers, with a cleavage almost down to her belly buttorn. She looks fantastic for the Red Light District, but not for our home.
We are a traditional family, with a good-value system. When she comes to our house half-nude, we feel uncomfortable in her presence, because no one dresses like that.
How can I approach the situation, without hurting her feelings or alineating her?
Your prompt consideration to this matter is greatly appreciated, and we thank you.
she is 55 years old and she still can't dress properly for the occasion?
since you are not giving us much to work with here... I will try my best and hope other posters will offer something better.
take her on one of those female bonding activity... like clothing shopping or just golf club tea party then go to your house (golf clubs have certain dress codes so she will have to dress certain way for the golf club then you take her to your house and she won't have a chance to change into a cougar)
I love my niece dearly. She is an excellent business woman, with a fantastic mind, 55 years' old, and in excellent shape. She appears to be about 43. She is divorced, with no children.
Here is the problem: She has made friends with this other woman, who dresses like a hussy, and my niece has started to dress the same way. My niece is a 44DD, and wears tight, tight, trousers, with a cleavage almost down to her belly buttorn. She looks fantastic for the Red Light District, but not for our home.
We are a traditional family, with a good-value system. When she comes to our house half-nude, we feel uncomfortable in her presence, because no one dresses like that.
How can I approach the situation, without hurting her feelings or alineating her?
Your prompt consideration to this matter is greatly appreciated, and we thank you.
She is 55 years old, so really how she dresses is none of your business. (By the way in what world is a 44DD in excellent shape? She is very overweight.)
IMO, I don't think there is any way to approach her with this and not insult her. Do you have children in the family? Is this why you are taking offense to how she is dressing? If so, maybe just let your kids know that Niece will be niece and everyone is allowed to express themselves how they want, but they aren't allowed to dress this way.
She is 55 years old, so really how she dresses is none of your business. (By the way in what world is a 44DD in excellent shape? She is very overweight.)
For the most part, it is her niece's decision to dress however she wants; however I can understand the awkwardness the OP feels when a relative is dressing inappropriate. If she's just coming over to your house and is dressed that way, then let her embarrass herself. But if she's going in public with you/your family and is still dressing inappropriate, then it could make you look bad. Take her for a girls night out shopping trip and give 'suggestions' about what clothes she should buy.
I love my niece dearly. She is an excellent business woman, with a fantastic mind, 55 years' old, and in excellent shape. She appears to be about 43. She is divorced, with no children.
Here is the problem: She has made friends with this other woman, who dresses like a hussy, and my niece has started to dress the same way. My niece is a 44DD, and wears tight, tight, trousers, with a cleavage almost down to her belly buttorn. She looks fantastic for the Red Light District, but not for our home.
We are a traditional family, with a good-value system. When she comes to our house half-nude, we feel uncomfortable in her presence, because no one dresses like that.
How can I approach the situation, without hurting her feelings or alineating her?
Your prompt consideration to this matter is greatly appreciated, and we thank you.
Just tell her it breaks your heart to see her dressed like that and ask her not to dress like that in front of you for the sake of cherishing the moments you have left together. Life is short and you value the time you have together and ask her to do the same.
Could you say something like, "You must be cold" and hand her a big poncho to cover-up her cleavage?
Seriously, if it really is offensive to you, just tell her. However, it may be somewhat difficult, "Dear Niece, we prefer that our children do not learn that women have breasts until they are adults" . Oops, that's not right either.
Perhaps, use the tip about going shopping together.
Is she dressing this "new way" on the job? If so, she may be fired soon. perhaps her closest relative should take her aside and talk to her about this.
Or else compliment her on some of her old outfits. "I loved the beautiful, blue dress, with the high neck, that you wore to Easter services last year. It was very stylish and flattering on you."
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