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Old 05-13-2012, 07:58 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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So i have been a stereotypical frustrated Nice Guy for years. But i have to give some of my female friends credit for pointing out that the reason to be nice is because you care about other people, you care about God, care about the world, whatever it may be. Being nice in the expectation of getting laid is not really being nice at all.

I am still frustrated as hell that i don't get girls... but i have to admit, this was a pretty good point. I think what guys are TRULY frustrated about is working really hard in the gym, trying to get a good job, etc... and still having trouble getting women.

Kindness and good deeds probably should have nothing to do with getting laid. They are two completely separate things.

 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:00 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Kindness and good deeds should have more to do with getting laid, in my opinion.
 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:06 PM
 
Location: southern california
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trying to get a good job and having one are major differences.
trust me u will do better with women when u get one.
many women are attracted to the wrong things. u dont want her, u r the right thing. there are women that like the right thing they are however in the minority but worth the wait.
sad that some good women too will be attracted to jerks.
 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:08 PM
 
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Kindness and good deeds should have more to do with getting laid, in my opinion.
If this were the case I'd have to fight the women off me.

Instead it'll be 2 years in August since a women has touched me.
 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:14 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Just being nice isn't good enough to "get laid", find someone, be in a relationship, etc. Being a good person is a positive for most people, but it's expected. I had to learn this the hard way and I don't even think of myself as a "nice guy" anymore. I'm just a regular guy who tries to treat people well.
 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:14 PM
 
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Timing is everything , move at the right time so you don't get friendzoned. But not so quick as to be disrespectful , of course.
 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:21 PM
 
Location: southern california
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best advice is women are like cats.
it took kitty witty a friends cat, 8 years to teach me to take off my shoes cross my legs seated and speak in slow low tones. then she was willing to butt my feet with her head and take treats from my hands. prior 8 years, i paced and talked nervously in the house with my shoes on in a fast high pitched tone, she went and hide the minute i walked in.
women are the same.when i learned this it got better.
 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:33 PM
 
Location: St. Joseph Area
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I am still frustrated as hell that i don't get girls... but i have to admit, this was a pretty good point. I think what guys are TRULY frustrated about is working really hard in the gym, trying to get a good job, etc... and still having trouble getting women.
I'm in exactly the same boat. I have a decent income, my financial house is in order (more or less), I'm settled down, athletic, am told that I look younger than my age am very sociable but...I'm nice. I don't like stepping on peoples' toes, and I think that comes across as passive somehow. I'm becoming more convinced that being a "nice" guy really is my tragic flaw.
 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:36 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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If this were the case I'd have to fight the women off me.

Instead it'll be 2 years in August since a women has touched me.
Two whole years? Awww, poor baby! You're WAY ahead of a lot of women, believe me! You've got nothing to cry about, Froggie.
 
Old 05-13-2012, 08:39 PM
 
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Originally Posted by lpfan921 View Post
So i have been a stereotypical frustrated Nice Guy for years. But i have to give some of my female friends credit for pointing out that the reason to be nice is because you care about other people, you care about God, care about the world, whatever it may be. Being nice in the expectation of getting laid is not really being nice at all.

I am still frustrated as hell that i don't get girls... but i have to admit, this was a pretty good point. I think what guys are TRULY frustrated about is working really hard in the gym, trying to get a good job, etc... and still having trouble getting women.

Kindness and good deeds probably should have nothing to do with getting laid. They are two completely separate things.
The very reason I created this thread.
Women want bad boys over nice guys. A bunch of bologna.
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