If you found out your heterosexual partner has had homosexual experiences... (how to, girls)

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by LS Jaun

I think overall, people just like to know where they stand in a relationship and this adds additional "grey" to it. It's kind of unusual that as Gays become more comfortable coming out, Bi-sexuals (males specifically) are still driven underground.

Like said above I think it is a fantasy thinking that "all" Women are sexually attracted to other women. The media and the Ideal of the female form probably has a lot to do with that. During Roman and Greek times it was most likely the opposite with the Idealization of the Male form. My old girlfriend always said I looked like one of those Greek statues when I asked her about her appreciation for the male form vs the female form.

All of the magazines with 19 yo super model types making out has a lot to do with men and women looking at Bi and Lesbian women sexually. In reality the Bi and Lesbian women are more likely to look like Rosie Odonel then a super model.

So are you cupid, Pan, Hermes, Zeus, Hercules,Poseidon,Apollo,Artemis, or maybe a demi like Percy Jackson. haha

[L'Artiste]

part of me would be turned on because i like gay porn, but then i would still break it off because sadly i wouldn't believe he was completely straight, but we could still be friends.

[43north87west]

Eh. That kind of thing doesn't bother me.

I want someone who knows who they are today. If they figured that out by batting for the other team a few times, so be it. I just don't want someone who is confused with who they are today, or lying about who they are. That would admittedly be a bit of a concern. But the action itself would not concern me at all.

Actually, I think that in the case of guys, if all the guys who had actually done something with another guy, admitted to it, there would be a lot of surprised significant others/wives/etc. With women, it seems that they will admit to it more readily, and that there isn't such a negative stigma associated with woman/woman sex or experimentation. But with guys, totally different story.

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by Raena77

So are you cupid, Pan, Hermes, Zeus, Hercules,Poseidon,Apollo,Artemis, or maybe a demi like Percy Jackson. haha

I would like to say Hercules or maybe even Zeus, but I'm thinking Sneezy or Doc would bare a closer resemblence to me

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

Why is the gay male community so "invested" in this? To increase their numbers and to make them feel better about themselves?

Similarly, is the lesbian community "invested" in having bisexual women bat exclusively for their team?

Sounds more like it's more politics and low self-esteem, than sexuality.

Exactly.

[LaoTzuMindFu]

Originally Posted by alexiana

If you found out your heterosexual partner has had homosexual experiences...

If you found out your straight partner had had gay sexual experiences, how would you feel?

Wouldnt bother me at all. I'd want to hear all the details. Im a dude btw.

[malamute]

Originally Posted by alexiana

That's sad. Let's hope you dont ever find out about your partners history, because in NYC "straight" men having sex with men is relatively common.

Why do they lie to the straight women then? Let's hope she does find out about her partner's history -- no matter how many lies he tells because how else can anyone protect themselves against STD's including HIV?

[criminaljusticegrad]

If they'd had same sex experiences and enjoyed them, I'd venture they're either bisexual or simply sexually open. Either that or they were on something and curious... it's no a crime to double dip!

[LaoTzuMindFu]

Originally Posted by LaoTzuMindFu

Wouldnt bother me at all. I'd want to hear all the details. Im a dude btw.

To the person who just repped me on the above post and asked "What if the other person was Chazz Bono?" - I say, it wouldnt be possible because 1) Chazz Bono is a guy and 2) my wife has exquisite tastes when it comes to what she finds attractive. She would never even consider being with a woman who looked like, or is shaped like that.

[Black Jack22]

Originally Posted by alexiana

I'm a lesbian and I can't tell you how many self-identified straight women have confessed to me that they have lesbian fantasies they want to act out, and often, many have already tried.

Also, many gay men have told me the same thing, that they'll often have curious 'straight' men--in relationships with women--who come looking for sex.

I personally think sexual orientation is a fluid concept and that very few individuals are exclusively heterosexual or homosexual. Conversely, I think everyone needs I lighten up and stop feeling bound by outdated, anachronous concepts of sexuality.

If you found out your straight partner had had gay sexual experiences, how would you feel?

This has been going on for the last decade in terms of straight women who have lesbian tendencies. Trust me a lot of straight women have lesbian feelings for women.

However, we need to label them correctly, for these women are bisexual, not straight.