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If you are a childless single male or female, would you date/consider a serious relationship with a single Mom or single Dad, respectively?
I don't think I would. Their children, from another source, seem to be "numero uno" in their lives. With single childless women, this source of potential friction doesn't exist. If you go on to have your own children, that's fine, though that doesn't interest me. I might be "somewhat" open to it if she was a widow, but I'd have to look at the whole scenario carefully.
Just answer the question/take the poll and provide your own reasons. Though I'm sure I'll get a "talkin' to."
I don't have kids of my own and I certainly wouldn't want someone else's kids.
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Originally Posted by 2mares
Wow. Talke about repetitive posts and lack of new topics.
I would NEVER date a women with kids, under any circumstances.
Wow. This was never polled, I don't recall, but the issue has been brought up within threads. I am really surprised to see how many single women are saying no way (probably because of a closed poll).
I guess I've wondered about this, because I would periodically get a checker at Safeway and, as I was paying, her conversation with me, which she always started, wasn't about the weather, work, store specials, or gas prices, but was always about her kids. She didn't have a wedding band. I'm thinking "how could she possibly think this is endearing?" I would get all my grocery bags, shrug, and head for the car.
No way. Now, I'm not saying it's impossible, I'm just saying that I can't foresee myself ever dating a woman with kids. I don't even want kids of my own, let alone someone else's. The woman would have to be pretty darn amazing for me to reconsider it. More amazing than anyone I've ever met, by many orders of magnitude. It's not likely to happen, is what I'm saying.
I just can't. The children strain the relationship. The simple reason I couldn't even take her out for dinner on a whim is too much of a bother. There's not enough freedom.
No "talkin to" I am not a parent , I like the 'single dad' scenario. I only had 1 experience with it , but it was wonderful. I loved that kid. It depends on the kid(s) , too. Im sure some are monsters. You have the right to.date whom you wish and to not want to deal with ex issues. The ex in my scenario was wonderful , too. Maybe I just got lucky
I cant vote in the poll because it SPECIFICALLY asks for childless and single people, but I'll comment. Before I got married, I had two hard rules of dating/sex that I NEVER strayed from - 1) Exit only; 2) Never date a single mom. I held fast to these rules for many many years, however, when I met my wife, I bent rule #2 for her. But it was the perfect storm of: Her kid was from a previous marriage, the father was active in the kid's life, and she ONLY had the kid 3 out of four days of the week and NEVER on Friday and Saturday nights. Had it been any different she would have had no chance with me.
When I give dating advice, I always advise to stay away from single moms. ESPECIALLY if they had the kid out of wedlock. Double especially if the kid's father is not active in his/her life. Triple especially if the kid calls his grandmother "mommy" and his mother "Sarah" (or whatever her first name is).
I've done it in the past, not really the biggest fan of it.
I just kills spontaneity.
I feel bad for the single parents because, really, if you read the polls, the number of people that checked, "yeah, no problem" were really statistically pretty low compared to the outright No's and the maybe votes.
I think a lot of it depends on the situation, and how old the kids are, if they are out of the house, etc etc.
I think a lot of it depends on the situation, and how old the kids are, if they are out of the house, etc etc.
And the relationship with the ex, too. At my advanced age (mid-30s) I'd be ruling out a lot of guys if I stuck to a strict "no kids" rule, but there are a lot more considerations than if the guy is not a parent.
I think a lot of it depends on the situation, and how old the kids are, if they are out of the house, etc etc.
I'm actually surprised how many more women than men, proportionately, are voting "NO."
It has always seemed that some women, particularly those who never had kids or can't, find some kind of "Mom" status from the arrangement. I would always think that men would be less interested in being some kind of "Dad" figure in a blended household.
The reality is that those kids will never see you or treat you as a blood relative, but more of a far-flung "in law" type... or of second cousin once removed status.
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