When is a women's prime pickiness? (attractiveness, sex, attractive, beautiful)

[Ascension2012]

Looks, height...bah. Nothing but excuses. Coming up with excuses to avoid repsonsibility for failing with females isnt very manly. What's the real problem?

[jobaba]

Originally Posted by ShortDoctor

Not really sure how to phrase it better. I've always thought of a woman's prime (when she is the most desired/picky, benefits the most from the ratio between men desiring her and her having to pick) was much like an NBA player's prime. That is from 19-25 she may be the most stunning like an NBA player is the most athletic, but she appears to be in her prime when she is from 27 to 32 (likewise the age range when superstars begin winning titles).

I am a short surgeon in his 30s living in DC. I make a pretty decent wage, but my height or perhaps something else about me is repelling away women. Most of the women I ask out are fit and in the age range of 27-32. I really would rather not ask out a woman who is not active. Would it be better to ask out women in their mid30s-40's? Ideally, I would like to begin raising a family, but it just seems like mid20s to early 30s women are extremely picky about height. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Well. Mostly everybody wants the best they can get in terms of looks and status, so...

While your height is going to hurt you in the looks department ...

Your job as a surgeon should easily cancel that out and then some. So much so that I question if this thread is real.

I can think of a number of women in recent years who rejected me, where if I was (not only a doctor but a) surgeon, they would have been interested in dating me.

[southshorelady]

I have a 31 year old friend who is 5'6 and dated a man who was 5'4. I'm sure she'd be willing to go down an inch in height in order to "upgrade" from a fireman to a surgeon!

Seriously though, there are plenty of 31 year old women who have just been burned by men who couldn't commit or some other disaster. They want the same things you do: marriage, kids, etc. Some of them are good women. Some are not. Your task is to find the good ones and I'd increase your age range to 28-34. Based on my experiences with my friends, women stop being so superficial with regard to looks when they start seriously considering having a family. They realize the good guys aren't always the 10s with the cool attitude and style, and then they begin to expand their horizons.

YAYAYAY...I know I set up the bitter men for a women bash fest with this point, but sadly, I do believe they are correct on the whole nice guy thing.

[JetJockey]

Originally Posted by irwin2012

True...but then again, she might be picky for a multitude of reasons. Perhaps her mother was overly critical, and NO man she chooses will satisfy. Or she has low self esteem and looking for her dream man to mold, her Prince that will rescue her from the self inflicted psycho drama drama she refuses to deal with through therapy.

OR she has watched her friends go through some horrible things because they didn't take their time and choose a boyfriend/husband that complimented them. I will admit I'm picky and it takes me months of dating to take the big leap into boyfriend territory because I've seen my friends get completely screwed over by lying, cheating, horrible men and absolutely don't want to put myself in that situation.

[doradocolibri]

maybe if he would just relax and focus on other things, he'd meet someone.

i've often heard people say that you won't meet the right one until you're not looking.

but if you simply can't take your mind off of it, try looking in miami. they have plenty of gorgeous "fit" women of all ages who would love to marry a surgeon.

[Gnutella]

The pickiest ladies are between the ages of 25 and 34. They're still young enough to have plenty of sex appeal, but they're old enough to be more mature, and distinguished enough that they don't have to settle.

Ladies between the ages of 15 and 24 are actually the least picky of all, judging by their sexual habits. It's impossible to be picky if you're OK with being used and discarded by men.

[dave nz]

Age range of 10-99.

[fleetiebelle]

There's never going to be a magic formula for when all women are going to be suceptible to your charms. Some women are going to be buying what you're selling, others wouldn't touch you with a ten-foot pole. That's pretty much applicable to anyone at any time. The more you're out there and meeting people, the better chance you have to cross paths with a good egg.

[doss1]

Originally Posted by Gnutella

The pickiest ladies are between the ages of 25 and 34.

I think the pickiness drops after 30 because of the whole biological clock thing.

[doss1]

doc,
I wouldn't worry too much about your height issue. Didn't read the whole thread, but if you believe your height is a shortcoming, then work on exemplifying other areas such as public speaking, fitness, etc. The absolute best thing you can do is to live a life as if you did not have a height issue. It's not where you are coming from that matters, it's where you are going.