Baby on the way and worried wife and i arent going to make it !! (girl, cheat)

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by stan4

Leaving our kid with anyone else is on an as NEEDED basis only. Not as wanted to go out and carouse.

Good grief. Is it such a sin to leave a baby with a trusted person once or twice a month for a few hours to have a few hours to yourself for an outside interest or better yet for some mommy and daddy time without kid? Some of ya'll are sounding like helicopter parents who are gonna be right outside the bathroom stall at school when the child is doing number #2.

For the record I have a couple of married friends who have infant children and they manage to get out once in a while for recreation without a kid. No one ever gets on them for having a night out for themselves once or twice a month.

[stan4]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Good grief. Is it such a sin to leave a baby with a trusted person once or twice a month for a few hours to have a few hours to yourself for an outside interest or better yet for some mommy and daddy time without kid? Some of ya'll are sounding like helicopter parents who are gonna be right outside the bathroom stall at school when the child is doing number #2.

For the record I have a couple of married friends who have infant children and they manage to get out once in a while for recreation without a kid. No one ever gets on them for having a night out for themselves once or twice a month.

Yeah, sure. If my MIL comes to visit or my SIL - they are both great with the kid and we totally trust them.

Not going to go hire the local teenager to watch him. He isn't even 6 months yet. Plus, I didn't have a kid so that someone else could spend time with him.

As he gets older, the number of people we can leave him with will get larger.

That being said, I can't imagine an entire Saturday away from him. Work takes me away from him too much as it is.

[no kudzu]

OP not sure what you have with your wife but it doesn't sound too much like a marriage and once baby enters the picture you will either have to grow up or take off.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Good grief. Is it such a sin to leave a baby with a trusted person once or twice a month for a few hours to have a few hours to yourself for an outside interest or better yet for some mommy and daddy time without kid? Some of ya'll are sounding like helicopter parents who are gonna be right outside the bathroom stall at school when the child is doing number #2.

For the record I have a couple of married friends who have infant children and they manage to get out once in a while for recreation without a kid. No one ever gets on them for having a night out for themselves once or twice a month.

Nope, it's certainly not a sin, and no one said it was. Everyone parents differently, and everyone has different levels of patience. I was not "getting on" anyone, dude. I was simply trying to impart some perspective - commenting on the fact that you don't know HOW you will react or behave, until that child gets here. You just don't. I sure didn't. And I certainly have no regrets. We were never "helicopter parents". We just really had a very easy child, and we liked to be with him as much as we could while he was little. They grow up waaayyy too fast.

My son is 19 now. I don't regret one single second that I spent with him, I assure you.

[Dragonfly8]

I don't think he's s troll, he's just a 'live to ride- ride to live' kind of guy. That's how he rolls. O_o

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by wordlife

There are more than 10 female contraception methods for females (and one measly one for males) mentioned here. There are more than five methods which have a 94-99% rate.

there's a wealth of information on how to prevent pregnancy available, to deny that would be (and is) ignorant.

yes a mishap could happen like a condom breaking, or holes being poked in your hats but if that's the case, its nothing that an abortion couldn't fix.

Actually, there are 3, not one.

Abstinence, vasectomy and condoms. There's also FAM, but that's more of a female method, though males have to cooperate with that one.

[Rakin]

Originally Posted by stan4

You know, I am beginning to wonder if this is a troll thread.
No reasonable person thinks or talks like this.

Chessiemom mentioned this also. I thought it was from the beginning.

We're being played.

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

I went back to work when my son was 8 weeks old, and I had a caretaker come to my home to take care of him while I was working.

Originally Posted by Ivorytickler

Same here. We did not use baby sitters when we were not working. I think dd was about 1 when we first had a sitter at night and that was for a wedding.

I stopped working when I had children and stayed home with them. I also had an in-home daycare that I ran (not big, just 2-3 other children but it was income). I would have NEVER given up my night out each week. We were a group of 4 moms, 3 that had in-home daycares...we lived for that night out. I had no issue leaving my babies with my husband.

On occasion we'd go out for an anniversary, birthday, wedding..etc and then one of my 3 friends watched my kids. I would never hire some random teenager, even to this day (the youngest is 7yrs now). The only people that I'd trust to watch my kids are family or those people in their lives on a daily basis.

Still, I never felt bad for leaving my kids for a few hours here and there to have some time alone or time with my husband. I think it's possible for people to find a good balance, however that may be defined for them.

Originally Posted by Ivorytickler

Given that children are required to be in booster seats at that age, is this even legal?

Yeah I would agree...I can't imagine that is legal.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by justthe6ofus

I stopped working when I had children and stayed home with them. I also had an in-home daycare that I ran (not big, just 2-3 other children but it was income). I would have NEVER given up my night out each week. We were a group of 4 moms, 3 that had in-home daycares...we lived for that night out. I had no issue leaving my babies with my husband.

On occasion we'd go out for an anniversary, birthday, wedding..etc and then one of my 3 friends watched my kids. I would never hire some random teenager, even to this day (the youngest is 7yrs now). The only people that I'd trust to watch my kids are family or those people in their lives on a daily basis.

If I had been a SAHM, I'm fairly sure I'd have been quite agreeable to taking a few evenings for "outings". It's a logical assumption, for me, that anyone that spends all day long with their children, would need some "away" time.

[Just4fun31]

No troll , but we went from a quesion of what to do and how big a deal to make of something , to saftey and what kind of parent to be so i adjusted my comments and thoughts ?