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if some of these people spent half the time worried about the actual relationship that they spend on the sexual part, maybe more of these relationships would work out. But I don't see that happening.
I have had one night stands. I agree that there should be no expectation, but I think that a lot of the time one the parties involved have more intentions than to "just get laid". I have been on both sides of the fence, one where I had no real interest in dating the person. The other where a door opened to have a ONS with somebody I was actually interested in. I had 2 ONS that turned into relationships, and others that went no where.
The people that expect a call or anything else from the person are probably the ones who actually liked and enjoyed the persons company and would like to pursue a relationship. There is nothing wrong with that. If the other party doesn't reciprocate, then there should be no hard feelings IMO.
Why do people have one night stands (especially after drinking), and then automatically assume that something is going to come out of it, and then get hurt when it doesn't, and blame it on the other person? Especially calling on the phone the day after the event? It seems naive.
Sounds like your helping create those expectations, Don Juan. Next time do the "I gotta leave early" (or "you have to leave early because...") routine so that you can sleep in and wake up alone. That usually puts the relationship expectation into perspective, i.e., you're not interested in doing the couples thing when you wake up (cuddling, sharing bathroom, coffee, breakfast chat, about last night...)
Why do people have one night stands (especially after drinking), and then automatically assume that something is going to come out of it, and then get hurt when it doesn't, and blame it on the other person? Especially calling on the phone the day after the event? It seems naive.
Because if you give your phonenumber you insinuate that you want more.
But if you call the next day, most people will assume you are interested in something more, right?
And if it's not reciprocated, you kindly turn them down. Though if I had a ONS with someone who was at least peripherally connected with my social circle, I might contact them to make sure everything was copacetic afterwards, even if I wasn't interested in more. Otherwise the next meet-up could be pretty darn awkward, especially if you've got a date with you.
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should not have any expectation.
