Is it worth it to try to meet women if you're broke? (advice, personality)

[swgirl926]

As anal-retentive as I am about finances, I don't think what you described sounds terrible. You said that you live on your own, and that your income is between $25k-$40k. There are people out there that manage to raise families at that level of income, and granted it's probably not a luxurious existence, but people do it.

Earned income is only part of the story, however. Like others on here, I would be interested in knowing why you consider yourself "broke" (the reference to the Knicks game is completely lost on me; I have no clue what sports tickets cost). I would also like to know what's holding you back from being in a better financial situation. A lot of us have taken a hard hit because of this economy, and it would be hard for me to fault someone for that. Nor would I have a problem with someone who doesn't have a lot of disposable income because he is trying to realize some long-range goals (education, buying a house, saving for the future, etc.) However, if a guy is "broke" but always has money for weed, cigarettes, booze, and video games, and has to borrow from others for the essentials, I can't get with that.

[DrVanNostren]

I'm over 30, had bad finances the past few years, yet have had a LTR and a couple of flings.

The economy has hit me hard, but I have just enough money to take a girl out from time to time. Yes, it is hard and humiliating to be in this financial situation, but in the end it's about confidence and chemistry. I'm not going to let things beyond my control in my professional life dictate my personal life.

[irwin2012]

I typically don't date much when finances are an issue, mainly since its kinda nice to take a lady out every once in a while.

[brokencrayola]

This is a tough one. One one hand no one should be alone if they do not want to be, but there is a certain reality to dating and keeping a woman around. It should not be all about money, but to some degree it is. Yes, you can have hot dogs in the park, take walks, go to the library and mull over books, window shop etc., but I believe a woman is only going to stay around so long with that. A woman wants and needs a certain level of security in a relationship.

[sablebaby]

The better off you are in ALL areas the better QUALITY person you can attract. Don't totally focus on money. If you make more money and are doing well in your career the better your self-confidence will be. Then you will attract better women. If you are feeling low about yourself you will attract women who feel the same about themselves. Not good.

[SifuPhil]

It's actually pretty pathetic that this kind of question has to be raised at all, but that's how modern society works. OP, have you ever considered becoming a monk or a hermit?

Anything you can beg, borrow or steal is all yours - no splits necessary! Lots of time to do what YOU want to do! No collars or leashes necessary!

[mn311601]

So, the message I'm getting from this thread is that men who aren't in a good financial situation should pretty much give up on ever being with a woman, correct? Wow, I guess I really am going to end up dying a virgin, then. If I have to spend my time worrying about making my financial situation better just to be with a woman, what's the point?

[chielgirl]

Originally Posted by stick2dascript

Well if live alone but I can't afford front row tickets to the knicks game if you know what I mean.

Of course at my age its pretty tough since older women are very money oriented but of course I don't believe in being alone for a long amount of time. Nothing good will come from isolation.

What?
Where did your second paragraph come from?

Maybe all you have to offer older women is money?
Ever think of that?

[straight shooter]

Originally Posted by chielgirl

What?
Where did your second paragraph come from?

Maybe all you have to offer older women is money?
Ever think of that?

That isn't necessarily true. There are other things that a person can offer like: companionship, moral support, advice, compassion and protection just to name a few but unfortunately most people only care about money and the car you drive, male or female it doesn't matter anymore. They either don't care or realize all of the other things that are important in a relationship and in life.

[dragonborn]

I think it's sad that American society in general values human beings by their "net worth" or what they can bring to the table. Both men and women are guilty of this.

So what if the man is broke? Perhaps he would provide great moral support, good conversation, kindness, empathy and understanding. There are things you can do that don't require shelling out much (or any) money. I know it's more of a challenge over here, but it can be done.

This terrible economy has rendered a lot of people "broke", even those who were initially motivated by striving for financial success. Maybe this country and others somewhat like it will wake up someday, or I see the suicide rate skyrocketing in the not too distant future, because there are a lot of unhappy, marginalised and lonely people out there.