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OP clearly couldn't handle all this advice...he's disappeared.
I actually think shyness is a form of narcissism.
People who cannot see past themselves, essentially have no interest in anyone else, and they misinterpret that as shyness, whereas it's really self absorption. It's the behavioural equivalent of - "that's enough about me, let's talk about you, what do you think of me?"
No one in a crowded room, good looking, ugly, male or female, are standing around saying to themselves "oh look at this guy, gee, he can't hold a conversation...he's paralytically shy and socially retarded, I bet". No, they're thinking "why is that guy staring at me? Do I have lipstick on my nose? Did I turn the iron off? I have no freakn clue how I'm going to finish that project in the timeframe my boss wants it...does my arse look big in this? I want pizza."
YOU are the only one who is critical of you.
No one else gives a damn, trust me.
Get over yourself, show interest in a woman as another human being as opposed to a walking vagina/reflection of your league, and you will be able to speak. You have been doing it all your life and it's quite easy once you stop staring in the mirror.
OP clearly couldn't handle all this advice...he's disappeared.
I actually think shyness is a form of narcissism.
People who cannot see past themselves, essentially have no interest in anyone else, and they misinterpret that as shyness, whereas it's really self absorption. It's the behavioural equivalent of - "that's enough about me, let's talk about you, what do you think of me?"
No one in a crowded room, good looking, ugly, male or female, are standing around saying to themselves "oh look at this guy, gee, he can't hold a conversation...he's paralytically shy and socially retarded, I bet". No, they're thinking "why is that guy staring at me? Do I have lipstick on my nose? Did I turn the iron off? I have no freakn clue how I'm going to finish that project in the timeframe my boss wants it...does my arse look big in this? I want pizza."
YOU are the only one who is critical of you.
No one else gives a damn, trust me.
Get over yourself, show interest in a woman as another human being as opposed to a walking vagina/reflection of your league, and you will be able to speak. You have been doing it all your life and it's quite easy once you stop staring in the mirror.
Well aside from trying to make the OP feel worse you couldn't be more wrong. Narcissist want nothing more than to be the center of attention all the god damn time and they want everyone to know how great they are. They're the people who can't stay out the god damned mirror for 10 seconds. Shy people want nothing better to just be invisible and blend in to the crowd. Please don't speak as if you know shy people. You're not shy so you have no credibility.
Well aside from trying to make the OP feel worse you couldn't be more wrong. Narcissist want nothing more than to be the center of attention all the god damn time and they want everyone to know how great they are. They're the people who can't stay out the god damned mirror for 10 seconds. Shy people want nothing better to just be invisible and blend in to the crowd. Please don't speak as if you know shy people. You're not shy so you have no credibility.
How do you know?
I have been on both sides of the fence and I can tell you, the amount of people posting about their social issues just really makes me shake my head.
Everyone is shy as a child. You either get over it, realise it's NOT ALL ABOUT YOU, or you don't.
Don't really have time to read through the whole thread but it's strange to me when other guys say they can't speak to women. That's definitely due to a self-confidence issue. Have a little faith in yourself and put yourself on the line.
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