question about online dating profile... (girl, attractive, looking, different)

[CitytoCity2021]

Originally Posted by Chi-turtle

How do you know you're not into them? Have you met any of them yet?

I hope this doesn't come across as petty but, I could tell from their pic and overall statement..

[CitytoCity2021]

Originally Posted by imapro

You are limiting yourself right away without even shall I say, testing the waters. Matter of fact, ALL those guys I agreed to meet did not appeal to me at all. LOL. But, at my age, I also overcome the vanity phase. What matters to me more is the personality.

And as long as I know he is a true blue good, decent guy. I have been going out with this guy I met on the dating site for 7 weeks now. He is not shall I say my type, but so far he has not displayed a creep factor and I can see he is a good guy, so far.

I'm not interested in meeting a person if their profile isn't appealing to me.

[maddog1]

I wouldn't worry about the smoking/ drinking thing. But do not disclose your income. That is your business.

[dr74]

Originally Posted by CitytoCity2021

I just created an online dating profile on a popular (paid) website. I didn't mind paying for the service, because I'm hoping that the quality of people on the site will be better than on the free sites.

So far, I haven't received any emails, but I have received a series of winks. I am shocked that I'm taking this so serious, but I find myself sifting through all of the information on my potential matches profiles.

I am wondering if I should list my income? I make 90K/year. This is not an astronomical amount of money for a person in their early 30's, but it may be problematic for some guys. I guess I don't want to come across as a professional woman who is deeply committed to her career. Truth be told, I like my career, but it's not the most important thing. Also, I decided not to list an income range for my potential match. Of course I want him to make around the same amount or more than I do, but I don't want to be too aggressive, by making it seem like this is a major deal-breaker.

Another possible point of contention is smoking and drinking. I do not drink or smoke and I mentioned that I'd prefer the same with my match. I am now however thinking that perhaps I should revise my statement to say that social drinking is ok, since many professional men tend to enjoy going to sports bar.

Am I overthinking this?

A little. First of all I would have never paid. The men can pay and message women whom do not pay and so forth. Another point? I have been on OLDS. And have found that the same type of men frequent all sites paying or not paying to see who bites!
You can find good and bad apples on any site.
State your income and you will have men that do not care and men that are looking for women to support them.
As far as your preferences? This is a question for you,
If you do not drink and do not like it all despite professionals drinking socially? Is this something that YOU are going to be okay with? Smoking? You are talking about who you will be compatible with.

[calipoppy]

Originally Posted by CitytoCity2021

I just created an online dating profile on a popular (paid) website. I didn't mind paying for the service, because I'm hoping that the quality of people on the site will be better than on the free sites.

So far, I haven't received any emails, but I have received a series of winks. I am shocked that I'm taking this so serious, but I find myself sifting through all of the information on my potential matches profiles.

I am wondering if I should list my income? I make 90K/year. This is not an astronomical amount of money for a person in their early 30's, but it may be problematic for some guys. I guess I don't want to come across as a professional woman who is deeply committed to her career. Truth be told, I like my career, but it's not the most important thing. Also, I decided not to list an income range for my potential match. Of course I want him to make around the same amount or more than I do, but I don't want to be too aggressive, by making it seem like this is a major deal-breaker.

Another possible point of contention is smoking and drinking. I do not drink or smoke and I mentioned that I'd prefer the same with my match. I am now however thinking that perhaps I should revise my statement to say that social drinking is ok, since many professional men tend to enjoy going to sports bar.

Am I overthinking this?

Hello nyanna

[intelfan11315]

Pic is most important. I don't see any problem with putting your salary, that's probably going to weed out a lot of the guys who make less than you. A lot of times I don't message women who make significantly more than I do.

Ah, one thing to keep in mind.. I hate reading profiles of these women who write about everything they hate and what guys they don't want. If I see too much negativity to explain something that is an automatic next for me.

I'd never date a girl who doesn't drink. Don't settle for what you're uncomfortable with though.. I'd be pretty bummed out if I met a nice girl who lied on her profile and if it turned out she wasn't even comfortable being around bars, which is what me and my friends do all the time.

[strawberrykiki]

Do whatever you feel comfortable with as far as posting your salary or drinking preferences. If you don't drink, then you don't drink. Why say you do? You'll attract guys who are also social drinks who will be put off when they invite you for a drink and you order water.

And be proactive. Get on there and look for guys you think are interesting and contact them first. The guy I've been seeing for a month and a half is one I e-mailed first. If I hadn't of been proactive I wouldn't have met him. And don't take it personally if they don't write back. I've had a lot of guys who did write back, but also a lot who didn't. A lot of guys who wrote to me first that I didn't write back to.

[datingmartins]

Quality is much more better than quantity. Make sure you are 100% honest about your profile. Let it represent exactly who you are! It pays in the long run if you are looking for long lasting relationship

[Chi-turtle]

Originally Posted by CitytoCity2021

I hope this doesn't come across as petty but, I could tell from their pic and overall statement..

That's why people have poor experiences with online dating. Photos are too heavily weighted.

Some of the best dates, including a woman I fell in love with, were with women who had horrible pictures. They had good personality and good conversation through email so I gave them a shot and just had a drink with them. I was pleasantly surprised and very thankful I hadn't let something like poor photographs discourage me from meeting them.

I'm sorry that's the approach you take. I guess you need to weigh finding a good match vs. finding someone who photographs well and looks good on facebook.

Everyone has different values I guess...

[moonwatcher]

Originally Posted by CitytoCity2021

I hope this doesn't come across as petty but, I could tell from their pic and overall statement..

I agree and feel the same way about profiles. Nothing wrong with that!