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Old 05-24-2012, 03:29 PM
 
Location: US
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You actually sound just like him...
Oh my goodness.

For one, like I said I would only do it if I were far away where no one knows me and I would have to be intoxicated, but no I don't drink often. My drinking is a once or twice a year thing if even. I am not a skank, I am not a drunk.

And like I said I don't go around mooning people. But if the once in a lifetime of fun situation presented itself, I wouldn't be so uptight about it. (In a car, on a highway, far away like in another state, and of course one would have to be in a little tipsy to do that, its not a crime and only done in mere fun, spontaneous type thing. Like say maybe if I wanted to have sneaky sex outside on some wild an adventurous type mentality, having fun with my man. What is the harm. Like I told him I would hope he joined in on the fun and lets make memories.

But no, he wants to be a tight ass.


Not screwing in public places and keeping your butt in your pants is not a tight ass. Its called sanity. If you are willing to bare your body to random people in public and want to screw in public as well you Mod cut: name calling. It IS a crime to expose yourself in public. What are you even talking about?


Oh yeh..anon...cause not every single person on the planet almost has a phone with a camera in it. And police records are private. Um..get on that sex offender list and EVERYONE can google you plus you get to go door to door intro-ing yourself as the neighborhood sex offender. No harm in that right? Oh wait...it does affect where you can live too. So no nice real estate close to schools. Maybe you will have to move out of your house if you live close now. But no harm..no harm at all.

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Old 05-24-2012, 03:31 PM
 
Location: nyc
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Not screwing in public places and keeping your butt in your pants is not a tight ass. Its called sanity. If you are willing to bare your body to random people in public and want to screw in public as well you Mod cut: Orphaned. It IS a crime to expose yourself in public. What are you even talking about?


Oh yeh..anon...cause not every single person on the planet almost has a phone with a camera in it. And police records are private. Um..get on that sex offender list and EVERYONE can google you plus you get to go door to door intro-ing yourself as the neighborhood sex offender. No harm in that right? Oh wait...it does affect where you can live too. So no nice real estate close to schools. Maybe you will have to move out of your house if you live close now. But no harm..no harm at all.
WOW...
I probably will have to argue with him tonight, so I am not going to go there with you today.

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Old 05-24-2012, 03:32 PM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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He is 8 yrs older than I.
He comes from NC
Me NYC
Sounds like he is much more conservative than you and he has a certain outlook, which to him, it's his way or no way. I get the feeling he would react the same way if he was married to someone else. I've noticed this with my family members who are the older generations from the "old world" and they have a similar mentality. If there is absolutely nothing else to give him pause then maybe he is just of that "old school" mindset.
 
Old 05-24-2012, 03:33 PM
 
Location: US
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This isn't the first argument or time he has hurt my feelings now...I mean we are in a relationship, which has all the good and the bad.

I just feel like you know what... I been with him for so long, I show no signs of cheating on any level. I am here. I don't even wear too much tight clothing. Now of course I am a woman, but I don't wear the short skirts, trying to exude sex appeal. Granted i am pretty lol. But I stay modest.
So for him to go on and on about this the way he is.... This is what hurts. I mean he is saying things like i dont want a wife who would do that. So how am I suppose to take all the things he throws.

I don't want to leave, no. We have dreams and hopes at least I thought so.
But it takes 2.
And he is straight tripping.
And I gues ever since I was a girl in grade school, if a boy call you a ho or out of your name and so on. It was on...
So I guess I got a little of that in me. But why shouldn't I feel like this.

Well maybe you should stop acting like you are in grade school and keep your pants on in addition to thinking before you speak or do things that affect others.

Why should you feel different? Because you are an adult, a wife and a parent. You should be mad at yourself for wanting to embarrass your whole family for a quick laugh.

Don't you think what you said hurt his feelings?
 
Old 05-24-2012, 03:36 PM
 
Location: US
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Sounds like he is much more conservative than you and he has a certain outlook, which to him, it's his way or no way. I get the feeling he would react the same way if he was married to someone else. I've noticed this with my family members who are the older generations from the "old world" and they have a similar mentality. If there is absolutely nothing else to give him pause then maybe he is just of that "old school" mindset.

What? I don't think most men want their wife flashing the world their butt.
I definitely know NO KIDS would.
 
Old 05-24-2012, 03:38 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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This isn't the first argument or time he has hurt my feelings now...I mean we are in a relationship, which has all the good and the bad.

I just feel like you know what... I been with him for so long, I show no signs of cheating on any level. I am here. I don't even wear too much tight clothing. Now of course I am a woman, but I don't wear the short skirts, trying to exude sex appeal. Granted i am pretty lol. But I stay modest.
So for him to go on and on about this the way he is.... This is what hurts. I mean he is saying things like i dont want a wife who would do that. So how am I suppose to take all the things he throws.

I don't want to leave, no. We have dreams and hopes at least I thought so.
But it takes 2.
And he is straight tripping.
And I gues ever since I was a girl in grade school, if a boy call you a ho or out of your name and so on. It was on...
So I guess I got a little of that in me. But why shouldn't I feel like this.

Bottom line is, you guys are having big communication issues.

You EACH feel disrespected by the other.

You need professional help to get things on track.

Ignoring that fact will only allow things to get worse and worse until one of you feels they can justify leaving.

Well, you are parents of two very young children.

This is no longer all about you and your feelings.

You have a responsibility to your kids to get your butt in gear and work your issues out.

The minute you start throwing out "single life looks good" you have already begun to do your justifying.

Get a grip and start fighting for your marriage.
 
Old 05-24-2012, 03:42 PM
 
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Sometime people hit a brick wall and neither will budge. That's the time when you need counseling.
 
Old 05-24-2012, 03:47 PM
 
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And what is funny is he had the nerve to say what mature mother would moon someone and think its funny.

And oh how he claims he hates to argue but really loves it. You might be right.

But why.
but did you ACTUALLY moon someone, or you just joked about it...either way its an over reaction on his part, especially if you were just joking about it
 
Old 05-24-2012, 03:47 PM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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What? I don't think most men want their wife flashing the world their butt.
I definitely know NO KIDS would.
Maybe you should read all my other posts. I don't agree with her at all but let's be realistic here. While I don't agree with mooning, and I don't think the OP is priming her butt to go flashing, it seems to me that her husband got a little too upset by this. There is something underlying that we don't know about or he may just be one of those "set in his ways" type of men. To call your wife a ho and other names just from one comment made jokingly? Seems a little harsh. My husband is a very friendly person. Am I going to start calling him a cheater and a dog every time he talks to a woman? Am I going to accuse him of being attracted to someone because he spoke to a woman? Of course not, because I am not insecure and I trust my husband with my life. Sounds like the OP's husband has some issues. If he had any inkling that would raise his suspicions and her comment confirmed it then that's another story. There's something going on that we don't know about.
 
Old 05-24-2012, 04:13 PM
 
Location: US
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Maybe you should read all my other posts. I don't agree with her at all but let's be realistic here. While I don't agree with mooning, and I don't think the OP is priming her butt to go flashing, it seems to me that her husband got a little too upset by this. There is something underlying that we don't know about or he may just be one of those "set in his ways" type of men. To call your wife a ho and other names just from one comment made jokingly? Seems a little harsh. My husband is a very friendly person. Am I going to start calling him a cheater and a dog every time he talks to a woman? Am I going to accuse him of being attracted to someone because he spoke to a woman? Of course not, because I am not insecure and I trust my husband with my life. Sounds like the OP's husband has some issues. If he had any inkling that would raise his suspicions and her comment confirmed it then that's another story. There's something going on that we don't know about.

Well I will agree there is something going on. And I do believe its attached to someone acting loose all the time and he may just be fed up with it. Someone that would do that doesn't just have AN incident. There is already two in this little thread.

I look at it as this:

If you don't want to be talked to like a ho, don't act like one.
Adult women who flash people - ho or girls gone wild (also ho)
Just stop making people's morals and logic linked to insecurity.

Not wanting your wife to flash her butt in public has ZERO to do with insecurity.
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