"Why buy the cow..." (divorces, beautiful, friendship, wedding)
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[quote=Djuna;24487658]Do you really believe marriages were better for women "in the old days"?
I'm not saying it is 100% better than today but you didn't have a bunch of people hopping in the bed, making a relationship without getting to know each other and getting married/divorced within the same year. There is something missing with these relationships now a days. That's why people's relationships fall apart so quickly because most of them are not based on anything other than sex, lack of desire to be alone (aka comfortable with yourself), coupled with unrealistic expectations because so many people have never even witnessed a healthy 2 parent relationship growing up.
While the past was not perfect modern dating/relationships do need an overhaul.
Seen what taking place? The guy actually talking like that? Or the assumption just being made that this must be his mentality?
I have in fact heard a guy say this while I was growing up. I heard it from my mother as well, isn't that where most other girls heard it? ...Also, I seen the behaviors that dictate this statement on more then one occasion. Again, keeping some woman hanging around, functioning as 'the wife' for a few years and then marrying someone different, all the while the first lady is thinking they both considered her the wife without the paperwork, etc. Too bad it was only her that thought this. It only became clear that this wasn't his intention when he found someone else and married them officially. Pretty sure I'm not the only woman who has known a woman or two in this scenario. Finally, yes, this is my assumption as well.
I have in fact heard a guy say this while I was growing up....Also, I seen the behaviors that dictate this statement on more then one occasion. Again, keeping some woman hanging around, functioning as 'the wife' for a few years and then marrying someone different, all the while the first lady is thinking they both considered her the wife without the paperwork, etc. Too bad it was only her that thought this. It only became clear that this wasn't his intention when he found someone else and married them officially. Pretty sure I'm not the only woman who has known a woman or two in this scenario. Finally, yes, this is my assumption as well.
Well the first guy's just scum. But I still think the expression is a loaded gun everyone and their mother is walking around with. The assumption is shameful, and a person should be careful before misleading some woman with a cliche that may or may not be true.
I guess my reason for ranting today ... is that I think... Most men who are simply wanting to make sure they don't rush into it are cast as bad men who are only wanting sex.
I guess my reason for ranting today ... is that I think... Most men who are simply wanting to make sure they don't rush into it are cast as bad men who are only wanting sex.
There are plenty of couples that live together for years before tying the knot. There are others who may date for a couple of years, then have a long engagement, like for another two years. It's wise not to rush into the biggest decision of your life, especially since it affects TWO people, not just you.
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