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Well. On the internet all the 'good ones' and 'non cheaters' like to come out of the woodwork and say 'there's so many of us' etc. but funny how never meet these people IRL.
Last edited by Doll Eyes; 05-29-2012 at 10:54 PM..
Well, I have been on the dating scene after a bit of a break up. All I can say is wow... It seems like the dating scene is in the toilet these days, or maybe it's just me. One thing I've noticed... Women are very particular about what you do for work, as well as how educated you are. Being just a HS grad and a skilled tradesmen, I feel like women look down on me, even though I make decent money and have no problem supporting myself. Certainly I am not rich, but I'm debt free and always saving.
And when it comes to the women I meet, I just feel I am not meeting the right ones. I'm the type that enjoys a quiet walk in the park, or a day out riding bikes. I enjoy being active. What I find is I am meeting women who are more interested in going out every other night, staying out late, etc. I'm 25, I got that outta my blood when I turned 21. There is no life or fun in that anymore.
Sometimes, I do meet women who have their crap together, have goals and ambitions, even good careers. What I find is that, for one reason or another, they would rather be friends than anything more. I'm kind of at a loss. Seems like I am just not up to snuff for the women I would like to be dating. Even still, the ones who have things together seem to be taken off the market in short order.
I'm sure this topic has been discussed before. I'd just like to measure my experiences with others. I'm finding women are much more particular these days, and the options are running a bit slim. I would be interested to hear what others have to say, and any advice regarding this dilemma.
Well, I have been on the dating scene after a bit of a break up. All I can say is wow... It seems like the dating scene is in the toilet these days, or maybe it's just me. One thing I've noticed... Women are very particular about what you do for work, as well as how educated you are. Being just a HS grad and a skilled tradesmen, I feel like women look down on me, even though I make decent money and have no problem supporting myself. Certainly I am not rich, but I'm debt free and always saving.
And when it comes to the women I meet, I just feel I am not meeting the right ones. I'm the type that enjoys a quiet walk in the park, or a day out riding bikes. I enjoy being active. What I find is I am meeting women who are more interested in going out every other night, staying out late, etc. I'm 25, I got that outta my blood when I turned 21. There is no life or fun in that anymore.
Sometimes, I do meet women who have their crap together, have goals and ambitions, even good careers. What I find is that, for one reason or another, they would rather be friends than anything more. I'm kind of at a loss. Seems like I am just not up to snuff for the women I would like to be dating. Even still, the ones who have things together seem to be taken off the market in short order.
I'm sure this topic has been discussed before. I'd just like to measure my experiences with others. I'm finding women are much more particular these days, and the options are running a bit slim. I would be interested to hear what others have to say, and any advice regarding this dilemma.
I'm not ready to say there aren't any good men left. I will say there are "good men" around but they have ex wife issues, child support issues, and needy family issues and all that will distract them from dating a good woman. And the bad news for them is, women are not sitting around waiting for weeks or months in hopes that the man will indicate to them in some way they have decided to include them in their life. So men who are profoundly unable or unwilling to "handle their business" and get some balance into their lives are missing out, BIG time.
If someone isn't interested in you because you're a cashier, that just means that person isn't right for you.
Im just taking it a step further, if someone is interested in me based on what I do, they arent right for me.
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I don't see the point in trying to hide your job or getting offended if someone asks about it.
"Hiding" has nothing to do with it. I could care less about my job and have a very non chalant attitude about. I really could care less if a casual acquaintance, my family, or a complete stranger knows what I do. I do care if a potential gold digger takes interest in my profession though who is judging me on what I can give them financially.
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It's no different than being judged by any of the other millions of things that people judge you for and then decide whether they're interested in dating you.
If they want to judge my character or personality, thats fine. Those are compatibility things. However judging my income or profession, thats a gold digger thing that has nothing to do with me, and Id have no part of that.
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At least your job is something that you have control over and if you're not happy with your professional achievements, you can do something about it.
1. I would submit that you have very little control over your "personal achievements"
2. I also want to point out that I could care less about professional achievements. They dont amount to anything, nor do they define me.
Funny, I moved from Michigan, where I had no problem meeting decent women. Heck, last time I went back, I had women approaching me! Here around Chicago, forget about it. Yet, I always hear women complaining about the shortage of good men in this city!
Welcome to chitown, bud. Competition can be a little fierce, but here is no shortage of beautiful women in this city. In fact, just a couple of years ago, chicago was found to be the easiest city in the entire world to get laid in!!!
I'm not ready to say there aren't any good men left. I will say there are "good men" around but they have ex wife issues, child support issues, and needy family issues and all that will distract them from dating a good woman. And the bad news for them is, women are not sitting around waiting for weeks or months in hopes that the man will indicate to them in some way they have decided to include them in their life. So men who are profoundly unable or unwilling to "handle their business" and get some balance into their lives are missing out, BIG time.
The problem here is, that most women equate a good man with someone already taken or someone who already is sleeping with several different women. Guys who have been single, could be james fricken bond and still get no play. Its this stupid notion of "well, those other women want him, so i want him too" or "well, he's been single for awhile so there must be something worng with him". Guys who got married or engaged will echo this, as they have received 100 times more attention from the opposite sex when they put on that wedding band. True story.
If they want to judge my character or personality, thats fine. Those are compatibility things. However judging my income or profession, thats a gold digger thing that has nothing to do with me, and Id have no part of that.
Where do you draw the line, though? Do you not tell people where you went to school or where you live, because they may make judgements from that? May as well wear a burqa everywhere so no one can make assumptions from your appearance.
Where do you draw the line, though? Do you not tell people where you went to school or where you live, because they may make judgements from that? May as well wear a burqa everywhere so no one can make assumptions from your appearance.
I draw the line at things that are financial or status based. That would weed out the gold diggers and power whores.
I figure that simply looking at me would be enough to scare away people who think Im unattractive and are superficial enough to use that as knee jerk judgement, so, actually, being judged on my appearence is good in a way, because it saves me from having to even bother with them in the first place.
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