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I believe in honestly and have nothing to hide. It's naturally to talk about your past to your partner. I didn't talked about it till the 5th month of our relationship.
Maybe he didn't feel the same way? Did he want to hear about it? I don't want to know much about my wife's history and vice versa. Most my friends are the same way. As long as there are no major pornos to worry about and nobody has the clap or anything, being that open about your past is probably way more harm than good.
This needs direct action to heat this up. Plan a weekend away..have a six pack of beer or wine...some pizza...sleeping in the same bed...using the same bathroom...start making it hot...by taking a bubble bath, by yourself...tell your honey, "l am taking a bath.". If he is shy...that is fine...but he will be thinking of you all naked in the tub. Come out....with your robe on...and do your hair....he will have his eyes glued to you...even if he is pretending to watch the game...go lay on the bed...okay....you can take it from here.....turn on some music.
Last edited by jasper12; 05-30-2012 at 10:54 PM..
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How long it took for the rest of us doesn't matter. What matters is that you feel it has taken too long for you, and that the physical side of your relationship is progressing at a snail's pace.
Definitely too slow. Not even my female friends took that long.
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You've been dating for 8 months. You say you have both professed your love for each other. Then why not just talk to him about it? Sit him down somewhere neutral (the living room, at the dinner table, on a park bench, etc.--not the bedroom) and ask him. Try to be as non-confrontational as you can, and take a light touch. "You know I love you, right? Okay, so I was wondering if we were going to, you know, round a few bases?" Something non-threatening and non-emasculating.
Ok gonna see how that goes tomorrow.
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Originally Posted by Yzette
Don't put him on the spot about his sexual status. As in, don't ask him if he's a virgin. He might be self-conscious about it. Just bring it up gently, and then stop talking. Let him find the words. He might very well be expecting a conversation like this by now, but he might also need time to string it together.
I've been wanting to ask him if he was for a long while but didn't because for what I heard, men are embarrassed by this. Though, I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
This needs direct action to heat this up. Plan a weekend away..have a six pack of beer or wine...some pizza...sleeping in the same bed...using the same bathroom...start making it hot...by taking a bubble bath, by yourself...tell your honey, "l am taking a bath.". If he is shy...that is fine...but he will be thinking of you all naked in the tub. Come out....with your robe on...and do your hair....he will have his eyes glued to you...even if he is pretending to watch the game...go lay on the bed...okay....you can take it from here.....turn on some music.
Wow what a great imagination. Haven't thought of that one.
If you talk to him about his lack of sexual interest, be prepared for a lot of excuses! I dated a guy like this for a few months last summer. I was always making the moves because he never tried anything. When I would ask him about it he always gave me some excuse about how his ex wife was mean to him, that he was always *tired or that he has some kind of mental block. When we did have sex he seemed sort of embarrassed by it. A man of 54.
When I broke up with him I was (as always) completely honest and told him I need a man with a healthy sexuality. He got really angry! Whatever. Did he really expect me to stay in a relationship like that?
For those who are in a relationship, when did it led to intimacy and sex?
I think I knew the girls I am now with for a few months, maybe half a year, before it progressed to being physical. The kissing and sex all happened at once.
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