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Old 06-02-2012, 08:09 AM
 
Location: Southern Illinois
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So winks is the way most women signal interest and men don't mind that? I always thought that winks were considered too trivial to respond to, but perhaps women can get away with it more? I'm not on a dating site yet but probably will think about doing it soon.
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Old 06-02-2012, 08:19 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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So winks is the way most women signal interest and men don't mind that? I always thought that winks were considered too trivial to respond to, but perhaps women can get away with it more? I'm not on a dating site yet but probably will think about doing it soon.


If I find the girl hot then I will message her back whether it's a "wink" or a message. If I find the girl unattractive I will not message her back whether it's wink or message.

I however do prefer a message and if I had to guess, most guys would prefer on.
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Old 06-02-2012, 08:21 AM
 
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Women do the same thing in their normal lives, so why would online be different?
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Old 06-02-2012, 03:24 PM
 
Location: NYC
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In general if i wink or message a man first, his response only indicates that he has viewed my pics and thinks I am bangable. I have never even had a short term "relationship" based on me contacting him first, and therefore I will not do it. I have occasionally wrtten to men who have viewed my profile twice, because i figure they might be shy. Other than that, no way.
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Old 06-02-2012, 06:44 PM
 
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In general if i wink or message a man first, his response only indicates that he has viewed my pics and thinks I am bangable. I have never even had a short term "relationship" based on me contacting him first, and therefore I will not do it. I have occasionally wrtten to men who have viewed my profile twice, because i figure they might be shy. Other than that, no way.
Ditto.
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Old 06-03-2012, 12:05 AM
 
Location: Pa
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Yeah I let them know if I find them appealing.
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Old 06-04-2012, 10:04 AM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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I'll e-mail a guy first if I think his profile is interesting. But I usually let him ask me to meet in person first. I don't mind letting him know I'm interested, but I don't want to seem too agressive.
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Old 06-04-2012, 12:22 PM
 
Location: NY
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My wife found and contacted me first online. Since we are happily married, I don't necessarily see a problem with women making an initial move in general.
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Old 06-04-2012, 12:46 PM
 
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My now boyfriend made the first move and contacted me. We've been together since January '12.
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Old 06-05-2012, 09:08 AM
 
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I think women should definitely send email if she likes someone. What's wrong with going after what you want? It should be a little easier than in real life where women's fear of rejection is even greater and more embarrassing. Women don't usually initiate contact with me on OK Cupid but they have on occasion.
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