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Originally Posted by Dewdrop93
Okay - let's get something straight. Getting upset because your boyfriend is talking about the other women that he's dating and saying that he might want to get back together with his ex girlfriend is NOT being an annoying jealous girlfriend. It's called being NORMAL because what kind of an a-hole talks about stuff like that with his girlfriend? That's unacceptable. And you need to stop being a doormat and tell him how you really feel. And you HAVE to be able to do this or else you will NEVER be happy. And you CAN do this and you HAVE to do this.
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I think your advice is the most useful so far, so thanks
I know that's how most normal girls are, I see how my friends get upset with their boyfriends, and how they are jealous and their boyfriends are still with them but...I'm just way too afraid that if I get him upset (especially since he's a really moody person) or if I suffocate him by being jealous all the time, he might leave me.
(one of my ex boyfriends left me because I was too..."clingy"
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And I learn from my mistakes so I try to give him space...I don't call too much, don't show any jealousy, and generally try not to keep him on a leash and give him his space, hoping he would appreciate that.
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Honestly - I don't understand how you can trust someone completely who talks about other women the way that he does - but whatever.
The foundation of any healthy, successful relationship is COMMUNICATION. Neither one of you is communicating. If you don't communicate how you are feeling - the your relationship has no foundation. You can fix this but you can't fix it by continuing to deny how you feel and to not speak up for yourself.
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I really hope I can.Before it's too late.
I realize I screwed up, twice...But I really hope there's still something left to fix.Because time does it's thing, and dating other girls probably helped too so even if he DID love me or feel something like that in the beginning...I don't know how much of those feelings remained.But I know that if I don't find out, I'll regret it and hate myself for the rest of my life.
Let's say it doesn't work out, and he no longer feels anything for me...
It'll hurt and it'll take time, but at the very least I'll be able to move on without having to always wonder if he ever did love me, or did I really ever had a chance.Without having to regret that MAYBE if I would of done this and that, I could of had him.At least I'll know the truth.