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You don't need 20 awesome guys... you just need one.
I had the same problem as you, either 60 years olds or 20 year olds. Or 40 year olds (my age bracket) that had some weird a$$ **** going on (see: guy who wanted to discuss oral sex before he knew my name, guy who felt women had let themselves completely go because they switched heels when walking downtown for tennis shoes, guy who gave me his resume by way of intro (no, the ACTUAL resume), guy who would only give hotel number, and not cell).
Kinda like the 49'ers. You've got to sift through a lot of worthless stuff to find gold.
Yeah and so many of them are really dumb! Not that I'm a genius by any stretch but I think I'm at least 50 IQ points ahead of several of these guys. Had one demanding that I call him tonight and though I didn't even say I would he got really upset when I didn't but I didn't even know his name. And he thinks I ever will now? Or the ones who say they're 50 but look closer to 70 and then say they're told they look young for their age. Oh my. I thought it was women who lied about that stuff.
Oh...Stepka...I did that Internet dating. I hated it. It was like endless job interviews and meaningless chit chat....I felt like I had died and gone to Hell! Gamers and Bull...ugh. I gave up. It is just not me. I am content now with my friend....
Yeah and so many of them are really dumb! Not that I'm a genius by any stretch but I think I'm at least 50 IQ points ahead of several of these guys. Had one demanding that I call him tonight and though I didn't even say I would he got really upset when I didn't but I didn't even know his name. And he thinks I ever will now? Or the ones who say they're 50 but look closer to 70 and then say they're told they look young for their age. Oh my. I thought it was women who lied about that stuff.
Hang in there Stepka, it's a long, hard road.
I started online dating almost 3 years ago. The first time was on Match (my dad paid for a one month subscription because he was "worried" about him getting old and me being alone -- ha ha). I met a guy on there, we talked a lot on the phone, then met a couple of times briefly, then I agreed to go out. (I hadn't dated for over 15 years at this point). Without going into details (because they're not exactly PG rated), it was one of the worst episodes of my life, it scared me, made me think I was really stupid and naive and things had changed WAY too much for me, and I came home and pulled my profile and did not date.
I waited another year before trying it again on the free sites. I met a couple of nice men, but nothing beyond a date or two. Same thing as you -- photographs so old I could not recognize them when meeting in public -- old fools with very young children from flings they'd had with 20 year olds -- and men who were unemployed and looking to "fall in love" so they could move in with someone. Yeah right.
Again, I pulled my profiles and waited another year before trying again. A lot of first dates, and I mean A LOT! But so many have met nice people through the online dating, so I'm hoping you do too.
Its just awful. I had a date Saturday night with a complete ditz! She walks into the bar, sits down and says "lets drink, I need one!". OK....thats fine. She chugs 2 Jack and cokes and a beer. During this time she proceeds to tell me that she's a marriage and family therapist who worked for the state of CA for 12 years. She was then contacted by the state of GA for a job here. She came to GA and didn't like the job, and quit. Then she took a couple of months off and traveled. Came back and started managing a doggie daycare. OK, minor red flag. Why get out of a great career? Well, one could ask me the same, so I don't judge. But here's the kicker. I asked if she'd ever been married, and she said yes. OK..."so the marriage didn't work out?" "No, it didn't." "Why?" "Well, neither of us took it very seriously and only lived in the same house for 2 1/2 out of the five years we were married." Hmm....and you were a marriage and family therapist? So let me get this straight: A marriage and family therapist who doesn't take marriage seriously. She then made a lame excuse telling me she had a "work emergency", something with credit card processing company. This is at 9:30 on a Saturday night (we hasd met at around 8:00, and had an ok conversation up to that point). Yeah, right. So she bolted pretty fast, and after my initial shock of being left on a date (thats a first) I considered myself lucky. I said nothing judgmental or offensive. I didn't press her about not taking marriage seriously. I can't make this stuff up. I'm going to write a f'ing book!
Its just awful. I had a date Saturday night with a complete ditz! She walks into the bar, sits down and says "lets drink, I need one!". OK....thats fine. She chugs 2 Jack and cokes and a beer. During this time she proceeds to tell me that she's a marriage and family therapist who worked for the state of CA for 12 years. She was then contacted by the state of GA for a job here. She came to GA and didn't like the job, and quit. Then she took a couple of months off and traveled. Came back and started managing a doggie daycare. OK, minor red flag. Why get out of a great career? Well, one could ask me the same, so I don't judge. But here's the kicker. I asked if she'd ever been married, and she said yes. OK..."so the marriage didn't work out?" "No, it didn't." "Why?" "Well, neither of us took it very seriously and only lived in the same house for 2 1/2 out of the five years we were married." Hmm....and you were a marriage and family therapist? So let me get this straight: A marriage and family therapist who doesn't take marriage seriously. She then made a lame excuse telling me she had a "work emergency", something with credit card processing company. This is at 9:30 on a Saturday night (we hasd met at around 8:00, and had an ok conversation up to that point). Yeah, right. So she bolted pretty fast, and after my initial shock of being left on a date (thats a first) I considered myself lucky. I said nothing judgmental or offensive. I didn't press her about not taking marriage seriously. I can't make this stuff up. I'm going to write a f'ing book!
Yeah and so many of them are really dumb! Not that I'm a genius by any stretch but I think I'm at least 50 IQ points ahead of several of these guys. Had one demanding that I call him tonight and though I didn't even say I would he got really upset when I didn't but I didn't even know his name. And he thinks I ever will now? Or the ones who say they're 50 but look closer to 70 and then say they're told they look young for their age. Oh my. I thought it was women who lied about that stuff.
Seriously, why would you say that? Or even think that? Do you really think that men don't lie to get a woman's attention? Please. They certainly do. Not all, but certainly just as many liars are found in both genders.
I'll say it again...patience. Don't analyze. Don't obsess. And don't restrict yourself. Using an online dating site is a great additional venue for meeting people. (And I've already told you that it worked very well for me over the years.) It should not be the only venue, however. Get out once in a while...keep some perspective about what kind of men are out there, and what you, and they, are really looking for. And don't give up.
Its just awful. I had a date Saturday night with a complete ditz! She walks into the bar, sits down and says "lets drink, I need one!". OK....thats fine. She chugs 2 Jack and cokes and a beer. During this time she proceeds to tell me that she's a marriage and family therapist who worked for the state of CA for 12 years. She was then contacted by the state of GA for a job here. She came to GA and didn't like the job, and quit. Then she took a couple of months off and traveled. Came back and started managing a doggie daycare. OK, minor red flag. Why get out of a great career? Well, one could ask me the same, so I don't judge. But here's the kicker. I asked if she'd ever been married, and she said yes. OK..."so the marriage didn't work out?" "No, it didn't." "Why?" "Well, neither of us took it very seriously and only lived in the same house for 2 1/2 out of the five years we were married." Hmm....and you were a marriage and family therapist? So let me get this straight: A marriage and family therapist who doesn't take marriage seriously. She then made a lame excuse telling me she had a "work emergency", something with credit card processing company. This is at 9:30 on a Saturday night (we hasd met at around 8:00, and had an ok conversation up to that point). Yeah, right. So she bolted pretty fast, and after my initial shock of being left on a date (thats a first) I considered myself lucky. I said nothing judgmental or offensive. I didn't press her about not taking marriage seriously. I can't make this stuff up. I'm going to write a f'ing book!
You just met this chick. I would never consider such a "date" with someone that I had never even met!!! Your first mistake was agreeing to go out to a bar on a Saturday night, with someone that you have never even met. WHEN will you people ever learn!!!
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And he thinks I ever will now? Or the ones who say they're 50 but look closer to 70 and then say they're told they look young for their age. Oh my. I thought it was women who lied about that stuff.
