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Hmm...one of my friends did this. She was dating a guy for about 3 years before they got engaged. Recently, she told me that she was "keeping her eye out" for other guys before he proposed.
Her rationale was, since she wasn't sure where the relationship was going, it wasn't wrong of her to keep looking.
I currently have a boyfriend and he makes me happy. But I feel like I am settling.
Reason I say this is because he is 36..lives at home..his car recently got repo'd...and now he is on Workman's Compensation for his technician job.
And I don't know why, but he purchased a few houses in Atlanta, yet he lives in Queens, NYC. (One of the houses got foreclosed)
I am really trying to make something of my life and it isn't easy. I want someone of equal ambition!
I mean, granted, I still live at home and I am 26. But I work and have my own car and am planning to move out this year.
So, with that said, is it wrong to look for prospects while with my BF and "shop around"..??
Dump him, you deserve your very own Denzel Washington, with washboard abs and a six figure income and brand new BMW, dont ever settle for a normal man. Your Denzel prince is looking for you.
no in this day and age it is not uncommon for women to have a wandering eye. why settle down? a lot of men don't and women don't either. women can and will share themselves amongst men if their current partner doesn't satisfy their every need.
edit: after age 30 is when women start to settle down as their looks start to fade, the biological time clock ticks louder and they are in direct competition with their friends to see who can have the better looking family (husband/kids/house/cars etc)
but in their 20's, women have no problem sharing themselves.
its selfish if you havent been upfront with the indiviual you are stringning along with you. im not sure what else you need to know
i know a lot of females that do this, they never view it as wrong. they cant seem to understand why keeping somebody else invovled while they look to find the next ripe fruit on the bush without being upfront about intentions isnt a "decent" move. its using another for your own needs, plain. and. simple.
stop being afraid of being alone and move your life in a foward direction. you do not need to be invovled with another to confirm to yourself you have feelings, wants and needs.
its a case of "if i dont think about it i cant be a bad person in the end and everything that lead me to leaving was his fault anyways and cancels out every bad thing i did myself to get to this point"
you have to be real with yourself if you are to have a realtionship based in reality. if not youre just playing a more adult version of house.
Dump him, you deserve your very own Denzel Washington, with washboard abs and a six figure income and brand new BMW, dont ever settle for a normal man. Your Denzel prince is looking for you.
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Originally Posted by expect
no in this day and age it is not uncommon for women to have a wandering eye. why settle down? a lot of men don't and women don't either. women can and will share themselves amongst men if their current partner doesn't satisfy their every need.
edit: after age 30 is when women start to settle down as their looks start to fade, the biological time clock ticks louder and they are in direct competition with their friends to see who can have the better looking family (husband/kids/house/cars etc) but in their 20's, women have no problem sharing themselves.
Huh? I was agreeing with your first paragraph...but then I read the second...
Is it wrong to have a boyfriend & still be keep an open eye for prospects?
That depends on the relationship.
If it is an exclusive or committed relationship, then you're wrong, not only because you're lying to him, but also because you are lying to yourself. Do the honorable thing, bow out, but tell him you want to continue to see him (if that is the case).
If you're just dating, then who cares? You're allowed to look. You're even allowed to go out with other guys, because, you know, you're just dating and you're not in an exclusive or committed relationship.
Prospecting...
Mircea
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