No Funny, No Honey? (dating, wife, movies, boyfriend)

[Prairieparson]

I saw a Bill Maher clip yesterday, and he made the point that one of the ways in which men have to try harder in relationships is that they have to be funny. Now, from my dating experience, I know that women react well to humor. So here's the question, can a woman be attracted to a man that she does not consider funny, or entertaining to be with?

This might explain part of the dilemma for the "nice guys." I'm starting to see that women are not as attracted to the things guys think they are, and so are shooting with the wrong ammunion so to speak. I saw another discussion on line, that mentioned that women evaluate a man based on nice shoes. I'd never even thought of that one.

[Checkered24]

Him just stating that a guy has to be funny is painting with too broad a brush.

What one person finds funny, another may not. Some people have very sarcastic senses of humer for example, and would laugh at something another person may take as insulting.

People just have to be themselves, and know what attributes make up themselves, and find significant others who are attracted to and appreciate those traits.

[Ascension2012]

Maher is just clueless on any topic. You will have much more success with women if you make them smile rather than laugh. They want a man not a clown.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by Prairieparson

I saw a Bill Maher clip yesterday, and he made the point that one of the ways in which men have to try harder in relationships is that they have to be funny. Now, from my dating experience, I know that women react well to humor. So here's the question, can a woman be attracted to a man that she does not consider funny, or entertaining to be with?

This might explain part of the dilemma for the "nice guys." I'm starting to see that women are not as attracted to the things guys think they are, and so are shooting with the wrong ammunion so to speak. I saw another discussion on line, that mentioned that women evaluate a man based on nice shoes. I'd never even thought of that one.

I think most of my husband's jokes are stupid but I married him anyway.

[DRGirl]

I do appreciate a guy with a good sense of humor but that has never been an important criteria when deciding who to date.

[Checkered24]

Originally Posted by CSD610

I think most of my husband's jokes are stupid but I married him anyway.

My wife laugh's at my stupid jokes too. So although she is laughing at me instead of with me... at least she is laughing!

[cjawalt]

Originally Posted by Prairieparson

I saw a Bill Maher clip yesterday, and he made the point that one of the ways in which men have to try harder in relationships is that they have to be funny. Now, from my dating experience, I know that women react well to humor. So here's the question, can a woman be attracted to a man that she does not consider funny, or entertaining to be with?

This might explain part of the dilemma for the "nice guys." I'm starting to see that women are not as attracted to the things guys think they are, and so are shooting with the wrong ammunion so to speak. I saw another discussion on line, that mentioned that women evaluate a man based on nice shoes. I'd never even thought of that one.

Generally speaking, women under 35 are looking for a joy ride. it's a constant emotional fix they need to satiate; whether it's relationship gossip, celebrity news, shopping, eating, movies, laughing, gazing at cute guys, etc. Anything but being bored, which includes being with a boring guy. And it sometimes can even include the thrill of being with a bad boy, jilted love, or sadly break up/make up drama. that's why being a jerk sometimes works for some women. post-menopausal women tend to be more sedate, and thus are open to dating nice guys and looking for companionship....

So, the "I like a guy with a good sense of humor" adage that women often cite for qualities in their ideal mate, is really code for she wants a guy who is at least interesting and entertaining... so, for example, asking a young women on a date to go to the county fair or an amusement park almost guarantees you wont be turned down.

[southshorelady]

Originally Posted by Prairieparson

I saw a Bill Maher clip yesterday, and he made the point that one of the ways in which men have to try harder in relationships is that they have to be funny. Now, from my dating experience, I know that women react well to humor. So here's the question, can a woman be attracted to a man that she does not consider funny, or entertaining to be with?

This might explain part of the dilemma for the "nice guys." I'm starting to see that women are not as attracted to the things guys think they are, and so are shooting with the wrong ammunion so to speak. I saw another discussion on line, that mentioned that women evaluate a man based on nice shoes. I'd never even thought of that one.

Hard to say. The first boyfriend I ever had (total infatuation) was not funny in the least. He was dry, sullen and an egomaniac. But....I was 17 so who knows what I was thinking.

My second and last b/f (now husband) is the opposite. He's charming and funny as heck but is also very serious and career driven. He's just a smart guy and a bit of a jokester. We have fun together and I couldn't see myself being with someone I didn't find funny in some way or another at this point in my life.

[Fleur66]

Originally Posted by cjawalt

celebrity news, shopping, eating, movies, laughing, gazing at cute guys, etc. Anything but being bored, which includes being with a boring guy.

You are chastising women for liking celebrity news(your characterization), yet the OP takes Bill Maher seriously?

[cjawalt]

Originally Posted by Fleur66

You are chastising women for liking celebrity news(your characterization), yet the OP takes Bill Maher seriously?

where did u get the chastising??? sorry if it sounds critical, because it wasn't intended to be. heck, i like celebrity news