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ive been married 10 years (have known her 20) i cant think of any single event that has brought me to tears in front of her event though we have had many that "should" have.
for me personally i find its because i deal with emotional issues a little differently then my wife, i will separte myself of emotional responces or actions when i am aware an issue or event may be affected by letting my emotions getting the best of me.
thats not to say i dont feel them, i have to be able to feel them in order to know they are starting to affect my judgment. its just the way i have been brought up and how i have learned to deal with any problems i may have. in order to be fair and non judgmental i have to devoirce myself from my emotions and get to the logical and fair conclusion for all invovled.
after dealing with "something" in this way im already over the tears stage and have moved on to healing myself or resolving whatever it may be. i DO get emotional and feel emotions just as any human would i just handle it very differently from my wife.
Last edited by rego00123; 06-07-2012 at 01:19 PM..
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A lot of men simply find it a sign of weakness for them to cry. Or at least being SEEN crying. I rarely cry myself. I cried A LOT when my wife passed away and in the wake of that. But during our married life, I can only think of two occasions when I cried. When my Mom and Dad passed away.
My husband never cried or cries. He hardly is affectionate unless I am begging him to give me just a scrap it two of affection. I basically feel unloved. If I have to try to make someone show me attention, then something is very wrong. We've been married for almost 24 years and I still don't get my needs met. I have a good singing voice and when I sing, even my best he hardly ever says a thing or even looks at me when I do sing. I feel ignored and like he just doesn't care.
Like many blokes/people I'm not much of a cryer or get over emotional about things ( barring extreme circumstances of course ) doesn't mean I don't have feelings
People handle emotions differently so what's " normal " for someone won't be deemed " normal " by others it seems , for example I spent valentines ( last ) night in A+E with my dear old mum as she had trouble breathing/chest pains and as she's had heart trouble before naturally both my dad and myself were quite apprehensive to say the least but didn't get too emotional..... Doesn't mean we don't care
( she'll be fine btw )
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, for example I spent valentines ( last ) night in A+E with my dear old mum as she had trouble breathing/chest pains and as she's had heart trouble before naturally both my dad and myself were quite apprehensive to say the least but didn't get too emotional..... Doesn't mean we don't care 
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