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Old 06-05-2012, 04:01 PM
 
Location: 89434
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Have you ever ended your relationship with someone and went for their best friend? How did it feel?

You know, I would never do something like that. But there are those who are dumb enough to do so.

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Old 06-07-2012, 02:17 PM
 
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No and I would not. Not because I feel it is "right or wrong," just for the fact that when I've been pushed to the edge, I'm done with someone - totally done - they are "dead" to me, and their friends are an "extension" of them, per se. I would not call those who have done this, "dumb enough," as you have suggested. There are quite a few success stories out there where happily ever after was the end result.
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Old 06-07-2012, 02:27 PM
 
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Oh I have seen it happen a few times. But I look at it like this.....If someone ended a relationship with you, and then went after your best friend. If that friend is receptive to that then they are not and never were your friend, let alone your BEST friend.
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Old 06-07-2012, 02:43 PM
 
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Oh I have seen it happen a few times. But I look at it like this.....If someone ended a relationship with you, and then went after your best friend. If that friend is receptive to that then they are not and never were your friend, let alone your BEST friend.
So what if those two people were supposed to be together? What if they married and had a beautiful life together, were super compatible and just one of those couples that "worked?" How do we know what a good match should be?
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Old 06-07-2012, 02:48 PM
 
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So what if those two people were supposed to be together? What if they married and had a beautiful life together, were super compatible and just one of those couples that "worked?" How do we know what a good match should be?
Then that's fine and wonderful. Best of luck to them. Still a pretty sleazy thing to do by a 'best friend'.
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Old 06-07-2012, 02:57 PM
 
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^^^Redvelvet.
Then may they have that blessedly "moral" guilt free life together & wishing them best of luck as they may need it down the road!!!!

So now say... that woman is engaged to be married to this best friend & through the grapevine she learned her friend now has interest in this guy & believes they are soul mate more than his fiancee and maybe that guy showed cold feet at the wedding & showed interest in that girl to....

Now. Won't that be one hot mess????

There is "virtue" in loyalty many modern day couple seem to forget hence that high divorce rate where even their children is counseled that divorce happens so it is all right & they in turn grow up that way "divorce is all right"....

Even if for the selfish love for that ultimate match... nevertheless, while it may have hurt others to gratify that self... may not be the best "karma" one wants.
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Old 06-07-2012, 03:03 PM
 
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It absolutely depends. I've never left a man for his best friend, but I have been the person left for one of my friends more than once. With one, he just cheated on me and 'tried' my ex-best friend out until he made up his mind. I am no longer friends with either of them.

Another time, he sat me down, told me it wasn't working (and I agreed) and asked me if he could ask my best friend out. They made a wonderful couple, much better than me and him did.

So, as I said..it depends on the situation.
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Old 06-07-2012, 03:06 PM
 
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They will stab each other in the back some day anyway all you are doing is saving them time.
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Old 06-07-2012, 03:19 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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They will stab each other in the back some day anyway all you are doing is saving them time.
I have seen this happen and it resulted in a big rift in my social circle. But that person will also stab the new lover in their back, as a backstabber will always be a backstabber.
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Old 06-07-2012, 08:00 PM
 
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Kev... If you would never do it, why are you posing the question?
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