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She said something hurtful and selfish. His response was appropriate considering she pretty much said 'you suck in bed - this won't work'.
Quite possibly. In fact, ladies of the jury, let's examine all the different ways, "I have needs and you're not meeting them" can be interpreted.
I would like to have more sex with you.
I would like to have more varied sex with you.
I want to do it like I did when I was a porn star.
Is that your penis? For a minute, I thought it was a Vienna sausage.
I want a committed relationship.
I'm cutting you off until there's a ring on my finger.
Can we get some poultry in here? I get turned on by chickens.
Can we film this?
I keep asking you to rig up a trapeze and you just won't do it.
Rico, that cute bartender, is available Thursday night.
Do you call that sex? I've had vaccinations last longer.
Can you call a doctor about your, ahem, problem?
She said something hurtful and selfish. His response was appropriate considering she pretty much said 'you suck in bed - this won't work'.
She said I have needs and you aren't meeting them. And so what if they are her desires? Pretty selfish of him not to even give them a thought. Seems he was stringing her along. Gave him the opportunity to jet. He prob just wanted to keep the friends with benefits thing going. But the comment stung so he was out.
quite possibly. In fact, ladies of the jury, let's examine all the different ways, "i have needs and you're not meeting them" can be interpreted.
I would like to have more sex with you.
I would like to have more varied sex with you.
I want to do it like i did when i was a porn star.
Is that your penis? For a minute, i thought it was a vienna sausage.
I want a committed relationship.
I'm cutting you off until there's a ring on my finger. can we get some poultry in here? I get turned on by chickens.
can we film this?
I keep asking you to rig up a trapeze and you just won't do it.
Rico, that cute bartender, is available thursday night.
Do you call that sex? I've had vaccinations last longer.
Can you call a doctor about your, ahem, problem?
Quite possibly. In fact, ladies of the jury, let's examine all the different ways, "I have needs and you're not meeting them" can be interpreted.
I would like to have more sex with you.
I would like to have more varied sex with you.
I want to do it like I did when I was a porn star.
Is that your penis? For a minute, I thought it was a Vienna sausage.
I want a committed relationship.
I'm cutting you off until there's a ring on my finger.
Can we get some poultry in here? I get turned on by chickens.
Can we film this?
I keep asking you to rig up a trapeze and you just won't do it.
Rico, that cute bartender, is available Thursday night.
Do you call that sex? I've had vaccinations last longer.
Can you call a doctor about your, ahem, problem?
And the list goes on and on.
The point is, he'll never know (and therefore can never tell us here) WHAT needs were not being met, because he took the lazy way out and walked without bothering to talk to her about it.
But what are these needs? Are they reasonable and something that can be changed? Is it always your partners responsibility to meet all of your needs, or are you expecting your partner to be something s/he is never going to be. Are you taking some responsibility for yourself?
I want my partner to be happy, and I agree relationships need work, but if he/I must keep working extra hard just to try to keep the other person satisfied, then the relationship won't be happy or healthy.
You miss the point...
Before a man decides is something if "reasonable or something that can be changed" he has to stick around long enough to COMMUNICATE with is lover.
She's a wealthy fifty-ish, divorced real estate agent with no children whom I've dated over the last nine months; I'm a fifty-five-ish, busy physician.
I answered her statement, "You don't have needs, just desires. And if you did have needs, I would'nt have the time nor the desire to fulfill them." Without hesitation she responded flatly, "OK".
I uncuddled, got up, got dressed, then while turning toward the bedroom doorI said, "Good bye". Driving home, I saw those moments over in my mind as watching a scene in a movie. Politeness goes a long way...
Thought I'd share.
Busy physician? How? With a bedside manner like that, I'd never recommend you to my friends or relatives, much less my dog.
The point is, he'll never know (and therefore can never tell us here) WHAT needs were not being met, because he took the lazy way out and walked without bothering to talk to her about it.
No. We'll never know because he didn't bother to tell us. It might not have been just that conversation. Instead, it might have been the last of any number of conversations and he was just tired of it.
I mean, seriously, haven't you ever reached a point with someone where you finally snap and say, "That's it. I'm done"? The offense that triggered it might have been trivial in and of itself, but it could have been the culmination of a lot of things.
There is just too much left out here that we do not know.
Had she brought this up before or was it the first time? If it was the first time then he did wrong by just up and leaving.
If it was something she had continually brought up over and over maybe he had just had enough.
Too many unknowns to really gauge accurately.
I invited him to tell us more - he didn't.
If posters want an "accurate gauge" of their situations they need to give all the facts upfront in their first post.
Too many of them backpeddle in subsequent posts, so I tend to believe that what they say first is actually pretty accurate.
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Busy physician?
How? With a bedside manner like that, I'd never recommend you to my friends or relatives, much less my dog.